My first gay experience, RECENT!!!!

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I'm not even sure you SHOULD tell her. Part of me is all for honesty. Another part thinks that telling her might only upset her. Although if the other guy is a friend of hers, you should probably tell her before he does. I think you've managed to get yourself into a bad position. I don't envy you (except maybe for the great sex :tongue:).

I thank you for both your concern and half your envy. :wink:

But in all seriousness I've gotten out of stickier situations than this. I'm quite confident I'll come out ahead when all's said and done.
 

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Your original post does read more like a porn story than asking for advice. Don't get me wrong, I think we all enjoyed it. Glad you did too. I hold to the view being gay is about how you feel, not what you do. So what counts is not whether the sex felt good but how exciting it was, and the way you write it, it was for you. Now maybe you always feel like that with any kind of sex and maybe it was a bit of an adventure because it was something different, but sounds rather, 'how did i ever not do this before'. It will be up to you to decided which you like best now you got over the idea it is something you dont do. Not to mention the possibility of trying with someone you picked rather than who was there by chance.

She's always telling me how hot it would be if I hooked up with a guy. Just so happens she doesn't know about this one cause we were fighting. .
This one? She knows about others?

Considering she would be cool with it I see no problem in keeping this from her until I truly know how to feel
Well if she wasnt cool with it i see considerable problems in not keeping it from her. I have no idea how serious this relationship may be. If nothing else matters then probably you have no business having sex with anyone else without it being completely clear this is ok. But I dont think that is the case or you wouldnt have done this anyway. Personally I remember passing on having sex with someone - funnily enough also asian - who was a mate of my boyfriend because i could see a whole raft of complications if the story got back. Turned out later my bf had got there first, which i found rather funny when eventually I found it out years later. But your girlfriend might not look at it like that at all.


I thought it was really hot, but will I go completely gay?
No. You wont go anything. You will be what you already were.

That's some shit I have to work out first before I talk to her.
Yes. Not for her sake, though I expect that matters, but for your own. You need to know how you really feel and be at ease with that. I wouldnt say, hey, glad theres another good looking gay guy in the world, but glad theres another guy who understands where he is at.
 

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Didn't post this story looking for advice. I posted this story to tell. And although all advice in regards to the situation with my gf is appreciated it is also unwanted and unneeded from my perspective. I'll do what I decide to soon my own. It's how I've always done it and it's never steered me wrong before.
 

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Didn't post this story looking for advice. I posted this story to tell. And although all advice in regards to the situation with my gf is appreciated it is also unwanted and unneeded from my perspective. I'll do what I decide to soon my own. It's how I've always done it and it's never steered me wrong before.

Excellent story and adventure, you sound like when the time comes it flows and works out, if that is your experience, you are indeed wise.
 

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Made me rock hard reading it Ryan...thanks! Fine looking cock you have mate
 

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a girlfriend and I had a threesome with this black man, who was exceptionally hung 10" uncircumsized. As I was fucking her missionary she was blowing him, she took his cock out of her mouth, and asked me to suck it. At first I was resistant, never have done anything like that before, but she pleaded with me, her pussy was so moist, and he didn't seem to mind, so I did. She came so much as I sucked him while fucking her....Honestly I can't say I hated it...it was a fun night...
 

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You definitely need to change your straight/gay percentages.
Also, it's not cool to have unprotected gay sex with men behind your girlfriends back. Especially if you have unprotected sex with her. You need to tell her about your sexuality or end the relationship.
 

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So let's keep piling on - pretty soon we can make Ryan sorry he ever filled us in on his adventure! Although - it does provide a great opportunity for finger-wagging.

Like all the postings on here - we do not know the ultimate 'truth' of his story, or life. But we do know about the relative risk factors of unprotected sex: getting a one-time blowjob off a dude is a helluva lot less risky than unprotected receptive anal sex without a condom. Thus the truly staggering number of straight/married men who get anonymous dont ask-dont tell BJs in various emporia all over our fine land. It's a numbers game of course, but with far-reaching consequences .... taking a leisurely walk through the msg postings how wide it can range. Ryan's behavior is pretty mild compared to much of what one reads on here.

The emotional issue is more thorny. Keeping secrets gets to be exhausting and debilitating, whatever the gender of the players.

The OP seems to enjoy a dramatically ambivalent approach to sex -
and he has the hardware to take that a long way.
Have a good ride, kid!
 

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So let's keep piling on - pretty soon we can make Ryan sorry he ever filled us in on his adventure! Although - it does provide a great opportunity for finger-wagging.

Like all the postings on here - we do not know the ultimate 'truth' of his story, or life. But we do know about the relative risk factors of unprotected sex: getting a one-time blowjob off a dude is a helluva lot less risky than unprotected receptive anal sex without a condom. Thus the truly staggering number of straight/married men who get anonymous dont ask-dont tell BJs in various emporia all over our fine land. It's a numbers game of course, but with far-reaching consequences .... taking a leisurely walk through the msg postings how wide it can range. Ryan's behavior is pretty mild compared to much of what one reads on here.

The emotional issue is more thorny. Keeping secrets gets to be exhausting and debilitating, whatever the gender of the players.

The OP seems to enjoy a dramatically ambivalent approach to sex -
and he has the hardware to take that a long way.
Have a good ride, kid!

Thanks for the support man. All in all I had a great experience and don't regret anything I did what so ever.
 

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Sounds like a really fun time was had.
I agree - too many forums turn into finger wagging and total buzzkill as if they were there and saw (or didn't) the goings on.
 

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To the OP...

Cool story, man, and you told it well. I especially liked (from a storytelling perspective) the ironic twist at the end where you were lucky that the guy had gone home because the GF came home early. Had she crawled into bed while you were sleeping and awakened you with a blow job it would have been even more ironic and perhaps narratively satisfying, but if that's not the way it happened, then far be it for me to advise you to tweak the ending for better irony. :)

I have been in similar situations, and that mix of "I really want to do that again!" with the "I wonder what this says about me?" and the "What will I do if she finds out?" is both confusing and exciting. I'd just say to put the percentage numbers at whatever place you want to. They're more about how you perceive yourself than anything else.

Of course, safer sex is just that...safer, but nothing is foolproof. Ignore the absolutist who want to present a faulty either/or as if it were reality. I love the "either tell her or break up with her" mindset, which oversimplifies an interpersonal relationship and totally ignores the fact that complex relationships take all forms. As long as you understand that every action you take, every choice you make in some way impacts every other action you can take and every other choice you can make. So if you consider the consequences and decide to live with them, that's about the best you can do.
 

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how about we save judgements for the judgement page.... Worry about ourselves and not what others do. I sure dont want people telling me what to do as im sure you dont either so lets save it guys
 

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She's always telling me how hot it would be if I hooked up with a guy. Just so happens she doesn't know about this one cause we were fighting. Considering she would be cool with it I see no problem in keeping this from her until I truly know how to feel.

I thought it was really hot, but will I go completely gay?

That's some shit I have to work out first before I talk to her.


If you really want to stay with her, just be completely sure about how cool she is about
you being with another guy. Our sexual fantassies, and actually doing it in real life can
be very different....and if a person is not sexually secure and trusts the other, it can be
disastrous....so be careful.

Will you go completely gay?

I know there are many different thoughts on this subject, but I for one, believe that you
don't "become gay", but are born either a straight, a BI, or a gay...and nothing can change
that orientation.

I also believe that men can admire or have sexual thoughts about other men and still be completely straight...ie, admiring a good body, physique, or genitals...or wanking together
as a group, or just in a one-on-one session...or wanking each other, and even being a TOP
to another man.

A man can still be straight even when having a 3some with a another man and woman...
and enjoying the man's body while having sex with the woman. But, if a man becomes a
BOTTOM, or does more than just letting another man "service" him, ie. joining in oral..and
he becomes attached emotionally to that other man, then I have to think he is more BI, or
possibly gay, than anything else. I personally believe that being BI is a good thing..and I
for one, would not change it for anything...even if I could.

Good luck....practice safe sex if you go beyond being given a bj...even then it might be prudent...
 

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It's funny how an experience, a new and exciting experience can be told on a thread and then take on a life of its own.
Rather like a free form play or story that grows of its own accord.
Read the whole thread as a play and it has quite a dramatic potential, psst , considering time has elapsed, you never did tell us what happened next?