My first sexual experience

[ItsAll4Kim]

I don't really expect you to understand where I'm coming from with this because it probably wasn't such a huge milestone for you, but the moment I flipped that Mexican girl onto her back and had her wrap her legs around my hips/lower back was when I moved to a different stage in my life.

I've already got money and living a comfortable existence, I'm fit, healthy and look good. I literally had everything but this, and now that I know how to get it I want more of it. I'm entering a phase where I'm probably going to be trying to get with a lot of women, how long this will last I don't know, but if I do actually find someone who'd be really good wifey material I hope for my own sake I realize it and settle down with her.

First paragraph: You are far too new, and much too close to your situation to realize you are not in a different phase at all. Getting laid for the first time is really no different than jerking with different lube for the first time. I'm sure you disagree, but here is why: you had/have no relationship. Earlier you posted that you could have hired an escort. This was no different. You and that girl hooked up. Nothing more. The fact that his happened so late only changes your perception, not the reality that it was one short moment.

Second paragraph: You now think everything is different, that a path has been cleared just because you feel confident. But confidence is only a tiny component of what is needed to be a whole person. I commented earlier that a relationship with you or that girl would be a hot mess. I stand by this, because what you, knowingly or not, project in your posts here is a disturbing conceit and inconsideration for others. I don't write this to be insulting....but rather that you might take it as useful information. You have a long way to go, but only if you moved *forward* will you make progress and actually find a real relationship.

 

[techpump]

No one has to bring up old shit with you. You add new shit in every thread you start. It always goes like this

1. Normalish Sangheili post
2. Someone asks some question
3. Normalish Sangheili post 2
4. Someone asks some other question
5. Somewhere around this point, you inevitably go off on some side rant about how women are gold digging slut bitches bla bla bla and how you're the dating master and people should take notes.

You follow this pattern without fail and it's why every single one of these status updates from you turns into a shitfest. If you'd stay on topic, or just stop after your first post or two, you wouldn't solicit all the critical replies.

Or if he gave ALL the details about the story he's relaying here, we wouldn't ask questions about things that sound strange/off/suspicious/missing/etc., which is when he starts to then reveal more information that makes the original post even more mysteriously confusing or dubious. After we then comment on how/why/what/where/when concerning the then-newly added information that would have made the original post more shatter-proof, he then says he's got it together even though the original post states otherwise.

 

[TexanStar]

I have the guts to go it alone not as part of some lynch mob.

Have you ever had some posts that you made, and which some could argue cast you in an unfavorable light, removed for you by the moderation team after the 15 minute editing window closed?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Sometimes this place just makes me want to hug the living fuck out of my man, because I'm so fucking happy he's nothing like the people who post threads like this.

 

[MiddleCountryMo]

First paragraph: You are far too new, and much too close to your situation to realize you are not in a different phase at all. Getting laid for the first time is really no different than jerking with different lube for the first time. I'm sure you disagree, but here is why: you had/have no relationship. Earlier you posted that you could have hired an escort. This was no different. You and that girl hooked up. Nothing more. The fact that his happened so late only changes your perception, not the reality that it was one short moment.

Second paragraph: You now think everything is different, that a path has been cleared just because you feel confident. But confidence is only a tiny component of what is needed to be a whole person. I commented earlier that a relationship with you or that girl would be a hot mess. I stand by this, because what you, knowingly or not, project in your posts here is a disturbing conceit and inconsideration for others. I don't write this to be insulting....but rather that you might take it as useful information. You have a long way to go, but only if you moved *forward* will you make progress and actually find a real relationship.

don't know what your first time was like, but to compare entering another person to "just jerking off with different lube" is a pretty large misstatement. my sexual experience was with some rando twice my age in a gym sauna, and i still think about it to this day (not stuck on it by any means just a very hot experience) my first time having penetrative sex was with a person I still have a relationship with to this day (this was over 10 years ago)

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

don't know what your first time was like, but to compare entering another person to "just jerking off with different lube" is a pretty large misstatement. my sexual experience was with some rando twice my age in a gym sauna, and i still think about it to this day (not stuck on it by any means just a very hot experience) my first time having penetrative sex was with a person I still have a relationship with to this day (this was over 10 years ago)

It's not a misstatement in the context of our OP's situation, which has been sort of blogged in this forum for quite a while.

He is looking at this event as a turning point in his life. While it is a milestone, it is foolish to assume, as his posts indicate he is, that he will now have no problem getting scores of ladies to bed. Nothing in regard to future relationships has changed. Women are not going to view him now any differently than they would if this one sexual encounter had not occurred. He is putting way too much weight on confidence, and if his conceit as displayed here is any indication of how he is around women, adding confidence will only make him act like a tool.

He had a block. He got past it. That is good. Having confidence is good; and most women like a confident guy. But I suspect that the issues go in other directions. As I stated earlier, he projects conceit and inconsideration....every past encounter was summed up as the woman being a bitch. But only after they rejected him....never before. That for me is a huge red flag.

 

[MiddleCountryMo]

It's not a misstatement in the context of our OP's situation, which has been sort of blogged in this forum for quite a while.

He is looking at this event as a turning point in his life. While it is a milestone, it is foolish to assume, as his posts indicate he is, that he will now have no problem getting scores of ladies to bed. Nothing in regard to future relationships has changed. Women are not going to view him now any differently than they would if this one sexual encounter had not occurred. He is putting way too much weight on confidence, and if his conceit as displayed here is any indication of how he is around women, adding confidence will only make him act like a tool.

He had a block. He got past it. That is good. Having confidence is good; and most women like a confident guy. But I suspect that the issues go in other directions. As I stated earlier, he projects conceit and inconsideration....every past encounter was summed up as the woman being a bitch. But only after they rejected him....never before. That for me is a huge red flag.

I agree with you on those accounts, but to undermine his experience the way you did is not helpful. You ascertained that it was, in face, a milestone. Not the same thing as using a different lube.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I agree with you on those accounts, but to undermine his experience the way you did is not helpful. You ascertained that it was, in face, a milestone. Not the same thing as using a different lube.

In a figurative sense, it absolutely is. The lack of a relationship, let alone love, make this event significant only in location. Getting laid once doesn't grant membership with a card key that gets you into places you couldn't as a virgin. The real work begins, unless of course all he wants from women is a warm wet place.

 

[MiddleCountryMo]

In a figurative sense, it absolutely is. The lack of a relationship, let alone love, make this event significant only in location. Getting laid once doesn't grant membership with a card key that gets you into places you couldn't as a virgin. The real work begins, unless of course all he wants from women is a warm wet place.

whatever, your wording was poor, you can't own up to that, that's fine.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Maybe the condom would have tots killed his boner and he wouldnt have been able to bring his A game

All men should learn to masturbate with a condom on so they can perform with one. This guy is going to get someone pregnant, can you imagine him as a father? He's totally irresponsible.

 

[sangheili90]

Quite. And all this mindless mobbing of an individual we've never met and never will is quite ugly and...well, boring.

That's because these people literally have no lives, when I said I had a handful of troll posters that follow me around this was what I was referring to. Some of these posters have a history of harassing me on threads that have nothing to do with any of this nonsense, particularly the health/fitness section where I'll post about black and white, non personal topics in relation to that.

I actually wanted to share my story on here because there are a lot of people I speak to on here that would be interested in it, but of course it's the same handful of posters who ruin my thread as usual.

Seriously, get a hobby or do something with your life because it's obviously boring AF if you continually harass some random guy on the internet lol.

 

[sangheili90]

don't know what your first time was like, but to compare entering another person to "just jerking off with different lube" is a pretty large misstatement. my sexual experience was with some rando twice my age in a gym sauna, and i still think about it to this day (not stuck on it by any means just a very hot experience) my first time having penetrative sex was with a person I still have a relationship with to this day (this was over 10 years ago)

They seem to have a problem with the fact that my first sexual experience wasn't all that intimate. I basically had a hookup with some girl that got horny and was lonely and in need of physical attention but not interested in being emotionally intimate with me. Was it a great first experience, yes, but was this a good start in regards to developing a relationship.....no.

 

[sangheili90]

Or if he gave ALL the details about the story he's relaying here, we wouldn't ask questions about things that sound strange/off/suspicious/missing/etc., which is when he starts to then reveal more information that makes the original post even more mysteriously confusing or dubious. After we then comment on how/why/what/where/when concerning the then-newly added information that would have made the original post more shatter-proof, he then says he's got it together even though the original post states otherwise.

You need to get a life if you are so bothered by a thread on some online forum written by some random guy you'll never meet.

 

[sangheili90]

Sometimes this place just makes me want to hug the living fuck out of my man, because I'm so fucking happy he's nothing like the people who post threads like this.

All I did was post a thread about my first sexual experience, not sure how that makes me a bad guy but whatever.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

They seem to have a problem with the fact that my first sexual experience wasn't all that intimate.

No, the problem is that you act like you earned something by having sex with this person, and all you did was have sex.
You come off as an entitled arrogant person, and some of us just point it out and have tried to help you see things from a new perspective, but you just double down. So, we call you on it.

My first sexual experience was anything But intimate. No romance what-so-ever. No relationship.. but I didn't think of myself as someone different, I didn't feel like a conquered something. That's what bothers me about you. Your narcissistic.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I'm not just talking about this thread either, I'm familiar with your post history. It's all the same shit

 

[sangheili90]

No, the problem is that you act like you earned something by having sex with this person, and all you did was have sex.
You come off as an entitled arrogant person, and some of us just point it out and have tried to help you see things from a new perspective, but you just double down. So, we call you on it.

I didn't do anything wrong, we both wanted to fuck each other and at the time got pleasure out of it. I don't think you understand how much of a psychological burden this virginity/no sexual experience had on me, it's not "normal" for people to have this because they generally didn't have to work their fucking asses off to make it happen, it just did. I've already mentioned this before, but when I've got everything going for me, almost to the nth degree, but then having a total absence and void when it came to relationships with women and sex it is going to become a problem. The vast majority of people have multiple things in their life that need to be addressed, improve in career, get an education, buy a better house, get a new car, etc. etc. I have and had literally everything, I'm healthy, I'm fit, I look great and attractive, I have lots of hobbies and interests, I'm well travelled, I'm educated, I'm financially set.....everything is squared away but I didn't have this one thing.

If you don't understand where I'm coming from that is ok, you might not have the same mindset and outlook on life that I do. A lot of people just want to be comfortable in life and go with the flow, which is totally fine. Most things in my life just kind of fell into place without any real effort, like it was meant to happen, but when it comes to sex and relationships it's obviously the opposite.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

but when I've got everything going for me, almost to the nth degree, but then having a total absence and void when it came to relationships with women and sex it is going to become a problem. The vast majority of people have multiple things in their life that need to be addressed, improve in career, get an education, buy a better house, get a new car, etc. etc. I have and had literally everything, I'm healthy, I'm fit, I look great and attractive, I have lots of hobbies and interests, I'm well travelled, I'm educated, I'm financially set.....everything is squared away but I didn't have this one thing.

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Case and fucking point. Self absorbed, narcissistic, arrogant bullshit.

You act like those things you hold so dear to yourself about yourself entitle you to pussy. Nope.

 

[sangheili90]

Case and fucking point. Self absorbed, narcissistic, arrogant bullshit.

You act like those things you hold so dear to yourself about yourself entitle you to pussy. Nope.

I don't think you understand what I'm saying. What I'm saying is that there really isn't anything else I need to work on in my life besides the void I had with women. If I wasn't happy with my career I'd go do something about it, whether that is go to school or whatever. The list goes on. This is the reason why I hired a relationship therapist, so that I could work on how to get the women that I wanted/want. I put in the effort with that, made myself go way out of my comfort zone and did this over many months and I've gotten to a point where I feel I can get the women that I want. Next thing I'm going to address, when it calls or it, is actually developing relationships with these women.

However, quality women are going to want a guy who has all of those things, competition for them amongst men is tough and you need to set yourself apart from the rest. A woman who is attractive can literally just sit there and she'd have lots of men interested in her, this isn't quite the case for men as they need to have more than just that to attract a mate.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

So what if you are financially secure, why would that matter if you are just banging the chicks.

Who cares how tall you are. Short men get laid on the regular.

Who cares about your travels.

Fat guys get laid all the time.

Keep feeding this bullshit to yourself. The only people who might remotely care is your male fan club here at lpsg and maybe a few niave barely legal females who pity fuck you.