we really don't need to use condoms. i'm a virgin, and so is he. i can trust him because he's my best friend and i know him well enough to say that he would never give his virginity up to someone he didn't truly love. and plus, he's scared to DEATH of STD's so he really wouldn't let it happen without a condom unless he was telling the truth. and we weren't planning on getting drunk, at all. this is our big moment, we wanna remember it and be able to actually enjoy it. why do we need lube?
Best friends, romance, and virgins or not you should be using condoms.
It's 2009 not 1979 and queermen (especially younger ones-lookup the info on this) are getting HIV/other STDs, and the numbers are going up.
If your friend is so paranoid about HIV and other STDs why is he wanting to bareback without condoms? It's not a good habit to get into and you can get infections like NGU/NSU that are not technically STDs from bareback anal sex but apparently they are not fun to have.
People do lie about their HIV/STD status, who they have done what with, and it's good to get into the habit of using condoms.
I can't tell you the number of people who I've met who lied about how they were into barebacking (unprotected anal/vaginal sex), swallowing semen, and IVing drugs. Our society stigmatizes people who are HIV+, those with an STD, and people do lie about both of these.
Also some people use condoms for anal sex since it makes things cleaner.
I've used them on toys with men and when I'm alone and it does make cleanup easier and if you share toys they are a must.
Lube is necessary for anal sex unless you want it to be painful and perhaps even hurt yourself or bleed because of friction. Stay away from oil based lubricants if using a condom.