My friend can't stop attracting ''Straight'' and bisexual men... no idea why?

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I was just posting about said friend but thought to make a thread. I have this friend who is gay. Let's call him D. No, he's not your typical fawning after straight men at all. He keeps to himself in that regard. He is more than happy single but gay guys NEVER approach him. He's only ever approached by bisexual men and straights are closeted or didn't even realise they were bi. I had one friend I introduced him to in a club, this guy was rough and tough and a real ladies dude. He'd slept with half the women in London. I introduced him to him and he went wild over D. Hugging him, swinging him in his arms, following him around like a fly. All D ever did was just say hello and talk to him. Nothing more than friendly. Same happened with another guy he met somewhere. This dude even had a girlfriend. Over a few months he was kissing D everywhere but the lips, touching him everywhere. D never followed through with anything more than serious flirting. I think it made he guy very sad.
People have noticed D's effect on guys. I have no idea what it is AT ALL. He is gorgeous but it can't be that. A friend of mine (not bi or straight) said something about him having bedroom eyes. It's like he's just stripping you off with just a look. A certain coldness in his eyes. D doesn't really like sex at all, it's something ''you have to do for the guy and get it over with as soon as possible''. He goes mad for romance though and the sexual attention. I've no idea how D does it - his personality is very 'I don't give a damn' so maybe when he does zone in to a person it feels highly intoxicating. He also has the most liberal and open sense of humour of anyone I've ever met. I'm really not sure what is is he has - I thought I'd share anyway. It's interesting I hope :)
 

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Well many gay guys misunderstand straight men, they also like to affectionate with each other withour sexualizing it, but of course gay mostly take it as a sign for attraction
i mean, i agree but no. he doesn't think anything of it other than jokes. these men in particular have fallen for D. it has shocked me..
 

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I think alot of straight guys have this curious thing about the gay side (AND I SAID ALOT OF THEM NOT ALL OF THEM. )…

I had a straight friend about 10 years ago we were playing a video game (mortal kombat x I think) and he’d touch me in ways he normally wouldn’t touch me ever..

One night we were wrestling around and he got me on my back and he sat on my crotch with his next to mine.. had my arms pinned down and wouldn’t let me up.. he was smiling and licking his lips .. then he act like he was going to spit in my mouth.. he figured I’d close my mouth but I opened my mouth wide like go ahead and do it.. I did that as I knew he wouldn’t do it..

But he did . Then apologized for doing it as he was just joking around .. I told him he was fine .. it’s just spit .. and he lowered his head next to mine our noses touching and I was beginning to wonder what he was planning on doing next. .. and then he kisses me not on my cheek but on my lips.. I kissed back and he didn’t stop for couple minutes and then he asked me a question that kind of shocked me..

And that is why all these years we’ve known each other that I never made a move on him. I told him he told me he was straight and I was respecting that .. so he was like if he was gay you’d suck my cock .. I said that and Rim that ass of his..

Funny thing is over the years we known each other we had seen each other naked .. even showered together .. but I never wanted to do anything to ruin our friendship ..

He kissed me again asked me if I been with any straights and I was like a couple and it was him that began taking my clothes off and kissed my chest sucked my nipples and cock .. I was shocked but he actually felt pretty good with my cock in his mouth..


I have been with several straight guys.. reason being is I’ll do stuff with them that girls won’t do ..
 

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This happens to me. I would say over a third of men I have been with have been bicurious or "straight but flexible" with me being their first experience.

I am quite masculine, and not to be full of myself but am good looking. Get hit on by women a lot. Early 30s, highly educated, and in shape. I don't fawn over straight men, but it just happens to happen.

I have spoken to some guys after the fact, and they say that many have had thoughts, but because they see me as a "bro", and I am openly confident in my sexuality, intelligent; they find me intriguing. And they feel if they were to experiment, I would be the one to to do with.

Luckily for me I prefer these encounters, many times as they are nsa, and there's less of potential to catch feelings on my end or theirs. If I want to date a man, I would only pursue openly queer men.

I feel many bicurious men had semicrushes on other straight male friends of theirs and never acted upon it. So when they see a masculine, queer man they may finally have a chance to act upon it. My 2 cents.
 

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This happens to me. I would say over a third of men I have been with have been bicurious or "straight but flexible" with me being their first experience.

I am quite masculine, and not to be full of myself but am good looking. Get hit on by women a lot. Early 30s, highly educated, and in shape. I don't fawn over straight men but it just happens to happen.

I have spoken to some guys after the fact and they say that many have had thoughts but because they see me as a "bro" and I am open confident in my sexuality, intelligent; they find me intriguing. And they feel if they were to experiment I would be the one to to do with.

Luckily for me I prefer these encounters many times as they are nsa and there's less of potential to catch feelings on my end or theirs. If I want to date a man I would only persue openly queer men.

I feel many bicurious men had semicrushes on other straight male friends of theirs and never acted upon it. So when they see a masculine, queer man they may finally have a chance to act upon it. My 2 cents.
Good story! I know with D, he's left many of them forlorn when he decides to leave. If D goes in thinking it's nothing more than fun to protect himself, he will stick to that. He fails to realise that the other person genuinely adores him. It's tragic, but he's got many moths to his flame so to speak haha. i can't blame him, he's doing it to protect himself and the ''straight'', bi, whatever guy failed to talk to him about it and assumes they're gonna go on like that forever.
 

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well, I had a friend who used to attract lot of women and some dudes, he did not know how was possible. I tryed to go out woth him hoping his magic to affect me, but it did not work at all.
 

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Hey this is a great share. Thanks for demonstrating the wide varieties of experiences gay men have. I can relate to aspects of his life, so reading this also helps me feel affirmed. All are indeed different. Question: Where would you describe your friend on the scale of femininity to masculinity? 1 being feminine and 10 being masculine? I have often wonder how that interplays thanks. Also is he openly gay to the men at the onset when he meets them?
 
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Hey this is a great share. Thanks for demonstrating the wide varieties of experiences gay men have. I can relate to aspects of his life, so reading this also helps me feel affirmed. All are indeed different. Question: Where would you describe your friend on the scale of femininity to masculinity? 1 being feminine and 10 being masculine? I have often wonder how that interplays thanks. Also is he openly gay to the men at the onset when he meets them?
5 feminine 5 masculine. he's a great balance. and yeah, they can tell he is gay. but, he seldom talks about it.
 
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Its actually really cool to read through this and notice how very real (very different) guys are being intellectual about a subject that would get slammed or shut down so fast if mentioned in a different setting (because of the division people can’t seem to deal with). That division is within my own “family” &”friends”, so I’m not judging.

Its so far a different “world“ in this digital space and sadly I keep expecting someone to go mental on everything I say but so far that hasn’t happened like it does on other mainstream “social” media.

I would like to add a perspective that deeply resembles ”D” yet in a whole different set of circumstances.

Personnally I don’t understand “gay” because every guy I have ever been around was 100% muddy boots, played sports, drove trucks, hunting, fishing, camping, gear head, guys that no one would even think would choke on a dick or ride One like he stole it.

i guess I get confused on how “gay” is defined. Because in my head I picture femimne guys, and drag queens (nothing against them just not a part of the male with male experience I have ever been interested in). Below might explain why (Maybe)

Part of my growing up I was in ”foster care.” I was second youngest of what would become a big part of 6 years. My grandparents and Aunt had the right to take legal custody but I had medical issues that back then were of unthinkable costs so, I would go home for the summer and go back in the system a week before school started.

There were 12 boys per “house”. A basically closed environment except school stuff it becomes it’s own awkward thing. There was a “hierarchy” and of course the older guys set the narrative mostly. From my experiences nothing abusive or horrible happened but the older guys were nothing but raging hormone, so of course things happened that probably wouldn’t happen in a normal settings (a lot).

We showered together at home and school there wasn’t much privacy anywhere but the
people who ran the place were nice (and really lenient) as long as we did our set chores and stayed out of trouble in school. There were foster Moms and Dads but most the time we only interacted with the 3 Men in charge of our “house” which basically set up like a more Civil version of boot camp that could last for 6 years easily. There are other stories about different things that happened but this one pertains to the odd attractions some people experience. I tend to be one of those guys and I don’t know how it happens because I don’t try to do this.

I wouldn’t say anyone was “gay” but certainly there was attractions over time, I think it was mostly we had no affection accept each other. So, it was pretty seldom a fight would happen and if it did, and it happened twice our stuff was in the van and off to a state ran facility we went. None of us wanted that.

In that some guys were always magnets of activity and some were super reserved and studied a lot. I was mostly super quiet and just did my own thing.
When things happened it was never spoken of.

At school it sucked because we were the “farm” boys that no one wanted… so it wasn’t real easy to make friends UNTIL... SOMEHOW my bunkmate and best friend become quarterback of the football team.

It changed the whole dynamic of everything for all of us. We were growing up and then we had a couple really good basket ball players so this gives us access to the outside world which turned out we knew very little about.

My bunkmate (the quarter back) could get any girl he wanted. So I would always ask him about the girls and one night he hopped down and into my bunk and said… The girl I really liked said, “She only wants to date me because I’m on the football team, but to never expect nothing because her parents would die if they found out I was from the Farm.”

He never went out with her again. Other girls just sweating over him (it was ridiculous) but as his best friend… finally I was getting some attention but (not like Zack).

Later on I noticed he would sort of lead them on and dump them. I asked him why do that? He once more, he hops down and into my bunk and said, “Every one so far only cares about my position not me…”

He was basically crying because he wanted someone to love him for who he was (not because he was a jock and popular). BUT WE WERE UNWANTED KIDS SO…
It’s not like he was being dramatic. It was just a harsh reality.

It sucked because he already figured out he was being used. Then he said something that shocked me… He whispered in my ear. “ I trust you.” And I turned and look him about the time he put my hand on his reality hard, really big sausage.

i was like dude, we goon out and stuff but… but I’m not wanting to be the quarter backs secret solution for a lady fail.. By that time his hand was in my shorts and my dick was not supposed to be liking a dude tugging it.. He said, follow me.

i was not wanting to do what I thought my best friend was gonna ask..
but I went and we went to the rec room and in the supply closet.
In there was the staircase to a huge attic storage space (floored lighted and all).

Up we went and when we got there 4 other guys were already going at it… it wasn’t their first rodeo.. (damn I still see that In my head).

I had heard about it but never been up there.
in like 10 seconds Zack was all over me and I said dude I think your dick is gonna hurt.
Seriously Zack was not a little guy. Me I was that one that surprises most people.

I was short (still not much taller) a buck 30 soaking wet but size 12 shoes and a dick that belongs on a big ole boy.

Then he said okay, you fuck me and we will get past you being the bitch thing.
I was like… Your joking right? He grabbed me and apparently he probably had been with other guys. I hadn’t been past a random goon session or blow job.

So, I had this unthinkable secret that no one but 6 guys could ever know (back then).
I was fucking the quarterback and somehow that made me feel loved in a very messed up way. It also gave me a hidden confidence to get to have those secrets.

Later it turned into a more 50/50 thing between the six of us and so much stuff went on that the word “gay” probably couldn’t be overlooked… no way! Holy moly at the stuff we did.

Then I got into church mainly just for a change. SOMEHOW the preachers son became sort of infatuated with me…

About 3 Sundays later I was having the preachers son for lunch and he was wild as the devil and also delicious! Later, he got initiated as an honorary “farm” boys banger club. How he took all that I still wonder…

Yet everyone of us (7 total) got married most had kids and I guess every of us also were in failed marriages (except the preachers son and he’s totally miserable).

Until Covid we usually tried to all meet up one a year… Most probably think it’s for sex but not really. Its just because we care about each other but sex is never off limits.

I don’t think any of us have had sex other guys since we graduated And I don’t think any one was actually “gay”… (but back then…wild was an understatement)

So my growing up may have messed me up some but in that 6 and then 7 guys never betrayed each other. it was something that became like our own missing famly. And if we had of had access to video cameras we would probably be porn stars.

We still talk and I’m hoping we can start back our meeting up somewhere again soon.
It looks promising ALL accept for one.
He has health issues and by our own code no one gets left out…
SO WE WILL ALL PROBABLY GO SEE HIM…
We never leave anyone out, unless that is what they choose.

Obviously attraction has a lot to do with situations and mindset but if today Zack showed up and that night hopped in bed with me… I know that situation would instantly change to where we were when we were just crazy teenagers.

If it ever does happend I’m not gonna say no… and from the crazy stuff he says?
And now he is totally unattached again… My guess this spring someone is gonna have a sore ass and a lasting smile.
 
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Its actually really cool to read through this and notice how very real (very different) guys are being intellectual about a subject that would get slammed or shut down so fast if mentioned in a different setting (because of the division people can’t seem to deal with). That division is within my own “family” &”friends”, so I’m not judging.

Its so far a different “world“ in this digital space and sadly I keep expecting someone to go mental on everything I say but so far that hasn’t happened like it does on other mainstream “social” media.

I would like to add a perspective that deeply resembles ”D” yet in a whole different set of circumstances.

Personnally I don’t understand “gay” because every guy I have ever been around was 100% muddy boots, played sports, drove trucks, hunting, fishing, camping, gear head, guys that no one would even think would choke on a dick or ride One like he stole it.

i guess I get confused on how “gay” is defined. Because in my head I picture femimne guys, and drag queens (nothing against them just not a part of the male with male experience I have ever been interested in). Below might explain why (Maybe)

Part of my growing up I was in ”foster care.” I was second youngest of what would become a big part of 6 years. My grandparents and Aunt had the right to take legal custody but I had medical issues that back then were of unthinkable costs so, I would go home for the summer and go back in the system a week before school started.

There were 12 boys per “house”. A basically closed environment except school stuff it becomes it’s own awkward thing. There was a “hierarchy” and of course the older guys set the narrative mostly. From my experiences nothing abusive or horrible happened but the older guys were nothing but raging hormone, so of course things happened that probably wouldn’t happen in a normal settings (a lot).

We showered together at home and school there wasn’t much privacy anywhere but the
people who ran the place were nice (and really lenient) as long as we did our set chores and stayed out of trouble in school. There were foster Moms and Dads but most the time we only interacted with the 3 Men in charge of our “house” which basically set up like a more Civil version of boot camp that could last for 6 years easily. There are other stories about different things that happened but this one pertains to the odd attractions some people experience. I tend to be one of those guys and I don’t know how it happens because I don’t try to do this.

I wouldn’t say anyone was “gay” but certainly there was attractions over time, I think it was mostly we had no affection accept each other. So, it was pretty seldom a fight would happen and if it did, and it happened twice our stuff was in the van and off to a state ran facility we went. None of us wanted that.

In that some guys were always magnets of activity and some were super reserved and studied a lot. I was mostly super quiet and just did my own thing.
When things happened it was never spoken of.

At school it sucked because we were the “farm” boys that no one wanted… so it wasn’t real easy to make friends UNTIL... SOMEHOW my bunkmate and best friend become quarterback of the football team.

It changed the whole dynamic of everything for all of us. We were growing up and then we had a couple really good basket ball players so this gives us access to the outside world which turned out we knew very little about.

My bunkmate (the quarter back) could get any girl he wanted. So I would always ask him about the girls and one night he hopped down and into my bunk and said… The girl I really liked said, “She only wants to date me because I’m on the football team, but to never expect nothing because her parents would die if they found out I was from the Farm.”

He never went out with her again. Other girls just sweating over him (it was ridiculous) but as his best friend… finally I was getting some attention but (not like Zack).

Later on I noticed he would sort of lead them on and dump them. I asked him why do that? He once more, he hops down and into my bunk and said, “Every one so far only cares about my position not me…”

He was basically crying because he wanted someone to love him for who he was (not because he was a jock and popular). BUT WE WERE UNWANTED KIDS SO…
It’s not like he was being dramatic. It was just a harsh reality.

It sucked because he already figured out he was being used. Then he said something that shocked me… He whispered in my ear. “ I trust you.” And I turned and look him about the time he put my hand on his reality hard, really big sausage.

i was like dude, we goon out and stuff but… but I’m not wanting to be the quarter backs secret solution for a lady fail.. By that time his hand was in my shorts and my dick was not supposed to be liking a dude tugging it.. He said, follow me.

i was not wanting to do what I thought my best friend was gonna ask..
but I went and we went to the rec room and in the supply closet.
In there was the staircase to a huge attic storage space (floored lighted and all).

Up we went and when we got there 4 other guys were already going at it… it wasn’t their first rodeo.. (damn I still see that In my head).

I had heard about it but never been up there.
in like 10 seconds Zack was all over me and I said dude I think your dick is gonna hurt.
Seriously Zack was not a little guy. Me I was that one that surprises most people.

I was short (still not much taller) a buck 30 soaking wet but size 12 shoes and a dick that belongs on a big ole boy.

Then he said okay, you fuck me and we will get past you being the bitch thing.
I was like… Your joking right? He grabbed me and apparently he probably had been with other guys. I hadn’t been past a random goon session or blow job.

So, I had this unthinkable secret that no one but 6 guys could ever know (back then).
I was fucking the quarterback and somehow that made me feel loved in a very messed up way. It also gave me a hidden confidence to get to have those secrets.

Later it turned into a more 50/50 thing between the six of us and so much stuff went on that the word “gay” probably couldn’t be overlooked… no way! Holy moly at the stuff we did.

Then I got into church mainly just for a change. SOMEHOW the preachers son became sort of infatuated with me…

About 3 Sundays later I was having the preachers son for lunch and he was wild as the devil and also delicious! Later, he got initiated as an honorary “farm” boys banger club. How he took all that I still wonder…

Yet everyone of us (7 total) got married most had kids and I guess every of us also were in failed marriages (except the preachers son and he’s totally miserable).

Until Covid we usually tried to all meet up one a year… Most probably think it’s for sex but not really. Its just because we care about each other but sex is never off limits.

I don’t think any of us have had sex other guys since we graduated And I don’t think any one was actually “gay”… (but back then…wild was an understatement)

So my growing up may have messed me up some but in that 6 and then 7 guys never betrayed each other. it was something that became like our own missing famly. And if we had of had access to video cameras we would probably be porn stars.

We still talk and I’m hoping we can start back our meeting up somewhere again soon.
It looks promising ALL accept for one.
He has health issues and by our own code no one gets left out…
SO WE WILL ALL PROBABLY GO SEE HIM…
We never leave anyone out, unless that is what they choose.

Obviously attraction has a lot to do with situations and mindset but if today Zack showed up and that night hopped in bed with me… I know that situation would instantly change to where we were when we were just crazy teenagers.

If it ever does happend I’m not gonna say no… and from the crazy stuff he says?
And now he is totally unattached again… My guess this spring someone is gonna have a sore ass and a lasting smile.
So what are you saying? Every man is potentially homosexual and those who are not homosexual just haven't been in the right circumstances or met the right person? Does that mean men who identify as straight should not be believed and held suspect? Does it mean that there is no such identity as "straight?" Does it mean that heterosexuality does not exist, or only exists absent certain circumstances? Can you make your point plain in something less than a novel-length post?