So I have a friend who's bi-sexual (or maybe gay?) but still completely shoved into the closet. I know this because of the thousands of things he's done and said, his transparent, homophobic attitude towards gay men (this has calmed down though over the years), his over-awareness and his questionable criticism of other men, along with other things as the fact that every single guy who was in his group of friends during high school have recently came out as bi-sexual or gay. I've never confronted my friend about this because he's still super sensitive about it and I feel our friendship would be severly damaged or totally ruined if I asked him (It's weird though, sometimes I get the feeling he's ready for me to ask him and other times it doesn't feel that way at all...eitherway, I know he knows he could confide in me, not just because I am not homophobic but because he's a really great friend of mine). Anyway, his dad obvioulsy feels the same way and knows him better than I do, I'm sure. I don't know how long his dad has implied it to him (because he does, pretty often actually), but it has been for at least a year or two now. Over the summer I moved back home and the only person I ever really wanted to hang out with was him. Everyone else was gone and/or were just people I didn't feel like wasting time with. We hung out all the time, after a while he told me that his dad would say certain things implying that I was his boyfriend or something. I am straight and even though like I said I'm accept homosexuality, it still really bothers me that his dad thinks I'm his boyfriend or something. I'm not metro/feminine at all by the way, so it's not some kind of insecurity in that sense, I just feel very weird that everytime him and I would hang out and do things normal guy friends would, his dad things we're up to something else. About his dad though, I've talked to him for long periods of time about all sorts of things. He is very fond of me and tells my friend that he's happy he's hanging out with me as opposed to some of the other kids he would hang out with (they're pretty seedy people and kind of lowlifes). Anyway, I'm stuck in this weird situation where I obviously cannot talk to his dad about it since I can't even talk to my friend about it. What do you think I should do at this point? When do you think I'll know is the proper time I can talk to my friend about it? One last question I have which is somewhat off topic but still about my friend is this--When gay couples go out, do they set up things in a certain way to let other gay couples know they're gay, or dating, or something? I sometimes noticed my friend wanting to be in uniform with me, he would ask me to wear sunglasses when he was, jeans when he was, etc. These examples might sound a bit extreme out of context, like the jeans thing, we were originally going to go to the beach but then bailed last minute and decided we were going to go out elsewhere, he very agressively told me to put jeans on (as he had his on) and not in my boardshorts, which I go out in public with all the time. He would really make a point out these things. It got me thinking when we went to get something to eat and he said something like "omg ew..a gay old couple just checked us out, did you see that?" rolleyes: ) From what I remember they seemed kind of like they were dressed the same. Am I just reading into this too much or does this actually happen?