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- Sackville, Nova Scotia, Canada
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- 99% Gay, 1% Straight
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I find it very VERY easy to pick out guys in the crowd. The ones that are gay... bi... or metro... It's easy...
it's not their mannerisms... it's not any kind of lisp... it's not the way they sway their hips or the way they dress or anything.
It's the fine details... things you notice in a stolen interested but not trying to be creepy glance...
Fags and even bi dudes in general... have a way about them. I'm not sure what it is but I'm super good at picking them out.
I admit I've pegged a few straight guys wrong lol... I usually chalk it up to wishful thinking... but I guess none of this is really the point of my post...
even the title doesn't make much sense...
but I shall continue regardless lol.
for the ease I have in picking out the gay dudes... in class, on the bus... wherever... I have NO idea how to approach anyone... I don't know how to cruise or give hints or do anything... In fact my complete lack of knowledge in this department frightens me to the point where I don't even try.
I don't go to the bar because I don't know how to pick up on anything that isn't a direct grope... and because of this I tend to attract only the most daring of older men. Not that I have issues with older guys but it'd be nice to know how to read younger dudes... I'm too self concious to dance also... heh... I don't use public washrooms except in emergencies... and when I do I always use a stall... Unless it's a single person bathroom...
I really avoid men in general except in controlled environments. I'm not afraid to wear flamingly queer clothes or to just let go and be a compelte faggot for a day or two... but get me in a cruisy spot or a bar... I clam up. I get social anxiety. I don't know what to say or what to do. I know a hot guy when I see one... I know if he's gay or not... and I can pickup on someone in the mall I just happened to catch checking me out from the corner of my eye... but what do I do next? It's so... confusing... I've never had a relationship or friendship with a complete stranger... anyone I've ever been with I've either met online or has been part of our group of friends for a while... I've never gone out and just kinda... hooked up... or like met someone at the bar and become friends... I guess... I don't know much about socializing and it scares me and makes me kinda awkward.
*vent vent vent vent*
I Want to be able to go to the bar... and know how to act and look... and how to interpret the way people are interacting with me... I want to know if that rather dashing tall dark italian man I just passed was sizing me up or checking me out. I wanna know if my trainer at work is flirting with me or just goofing around... I want to feel more secure about it... but *laughs* the very thing I need to do (practice... which I know ALL of you are going to say) is the thing I fear most... everyone else out there... has spent so much longer than me... I feel naive... vulnerable... and not in that cute way or that "I want to be taken advantage of" way. I want to know who's just cruising me cause I'm fresh meat... I wanna know all this shit...
I'm backwards...
my gay friends... they can pick up on social queues REALLY well... but for the life of them they can't figure out a gay man from a piece of cheese... I can pick the gays and straights out like clockwork... but have no idea how to proceed if I find something I like... and ultimately... I'd like the self esteem boost... of someone attractive... finding me attractive and flirting with me... but how will I know unless they're dead obvious? most people like to be subtle when they flirt just in case... but I'm so dense... I can't pick up on it...
*vent vent vent*
I don't know how to... cruise. I feel like a broken fag lol.
Truly,
Lexx
it's not their mannerisms... it's not any kind of lisp... it's not the way they sway their hips or the way they dress or anything.
It's the fine details... things you notice in a stolen interested but not trying to be creepy glance...
Fags and even bi dudes in general... have a way about them. I'm not sure what it is but I'm super good at picking them out.
I admit I've pegged a few straight guys wrong lol... I usually chalk it up to wishful thinking... but I guess none of this is really the point of my post...
even the title doesn't make much sense...
but I shall continue regardless lol.
for the ease I have in picking out the gay dudes... in class, on the bus... wherever... I have NO idea how to approach anyone... I don't know how to cruise or give hints or do anything... In fact my complete lack of knowledge in this department frightens me to the point where I don't even try.
I don't go to the bar because I don't know how to pick up on anything that isn't a direct grope... and because of this I tend to attract only the most daring of older men. Not that I have issues with older guys but it'd be nice to know how to read younger dudes... I'm too self concious to dance also... heh... I don't use public washrooms except in emergencies... and when I do I always use a stall... Unless it's a single person bathroom...
I really avoid men in general except in controlled environments. I'm not afraid to wear flamingly queer clothes or to just let go and be a compelte faggot for a day or two... but get me in a cruisy spot or a bar... I clam up. I get social anxiety. I don't know what to say or what to do. I know a hot guy when I see one... I know if he's gay or not... and I can pickup on someone in the mall I just happened to catch checking me out from the corner of my eye... but what do I do next? It's so... confusing... I've never had a relationship or friendship with a complete stranger... anyone I've ever been with I've either met online or has been part of our group of friends for a while... I've never gone out and just kinda... hooked up... or like met someone at the bar and become friends... I guess... I don't know much about socializing and it scares me and makes me kinda awkward.
*vent vent vent vent*
I Want to be able to go to the bar... and know how to act and look... and how to interpret the way people are interacting with me... I want to know if that rather dashing tall dark italian man I just passed was sizing me up or checking me out. I wanna know if my trainer at work is flirting with me or just goofing around... I want to feel more secure about it... but *laughs* the very thing I need to do (practice... which I know ALL of you are going to say) is the thing I fear most... everyone else out there... has spent so much longer than me... I feel naive... vulnerable... and not in that cute way or that "I want to be taken advantage of" way. I want to know who's just cruising me cause I'm fresh meat... I wanna know all this shit...
I'm backwards...
my gay friends... they can pick up on social queues REALLY well... but for the life of them they can't figure out a gay man from a piece of cheese... I can pick the gays and straights out like clockwork... but have no idea how to proceed if I find something I like... and ultimately... I'd like the self esteem boost... of someone attractive... finding me attractive and flirting with me... but how will I know unless they're dead obvious? most people like to be subtle when they flirt just in case... but I'm so dense... I can't pick up on it...
*vent vent vent*
I don't know how to... cruise. I feel like a broken fag lol.
Truly,
Lexx