My GF isn't interested in me manually stimulating her G-spot

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I wanted to ask the ladies of LPSG for some advice.

My GF and I have been together 10 years. We both have high sex drives and our sex life is great. She is very orgasmic and we joke that in the bedroom I am the woman and she is the man as I like our sessions to last while she gets straight to the point (her record is cumming as I bent her over the kitchen table and lightly touched the outside of her soaking pussy with my dick).

My gf comes from either clit stimulation or penetration (obv depending on our position) and says that both orgasms are good as each other. I would really like to try manually stimulating her g-spot, though. I'll not lie to you guys, I would really like to try and she if she can squirt. I'm guessing that its prob not linked, but she gets very very wet when she comes. Furthermore the vids that I've seen online of girls doing it, their orgasms are incredibly intense and I would love to help her experience that.

Any thoughts on how to encourage her to try it? We have spoken about it but very briefly. She's not incredibly interested (she's not a big porn fan) but I genuinely think she's missing out if she could experience those types of orgasms.

Any ideas?
 

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If you are both enjoying a good sex life and she's not interested, then I think you need to listen to her. Pushing her into something she's not wanting, could affect your whole relationship and not just your sex life. Plus if she's not into porn and thinks/knows you want it because you've seen it on a vid, could be a major turn off for her.
 

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Any thoughts on how to encourage her to try it? We have spoken about it but very briefly. She's not incredibly interested (she's not a big porn fan) but I genuinely think she's missing out if she could experience those types of orgasms.

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You wanted it mostly for you, and she doesn't want to. I think it is for the best that you got over it already.
 

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You guys already have a good sex life, going by what you said, so it seems as though she's happy already. I'd suggest not pushing her into something she doesn't really want to do. As much as you say you 'want her to experience an orgasm/sensation like that', we all know its also for your own pleasure :eek:). I, for one, am not interested in 'squirting' either. So just let it be, and enjoy the sex :)
 

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Firstly, stop thinking videos online have much to do with reality. If she's not interested, then you should try to convince her with well reasoned facts rather than citing some bogus porn video. If she's still not interested, respect her decision and move on. It seems like you have a lot of fun anyway, like others have mentioned.
 

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I do not subscribe to the mantra that good is good enough. Good could be great, and like the OP I tend to explore for the better. It may not be of course, but what is the harm in trying?

It is not unusual at all IME for partners to be nervous of trying the "unusual" and I am not going to try to analyse that here, but I would suggest trying a different tack. For example if you search tantric yoni massage you ought to find techniques for all over body massage culminating in Gspot massage. "I want to give you a sexy massage" may be better received than "I want to see if I can make you squirt like a fire hydrant like I saw this hot chick in porno." :smile:
 

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forget porn as a motivator. not the point.

squirting n g spot stim is great, tho. i am in love with it myself.

dont approach this situation like theres some brass ring you want her to catch. just try exploring her gspot more as part of regular sex, if it feels okay to her. nothing wrong with that. see where it takes you. or try changing positions when you fuck so that you are hitting her gspot more.

also - maybe try looking at some books from places like good vibrations or babeland.

dont hang onto squirting like a sex trophy. not every woman who squirts does it when she comes anyhow.

pleasure, tho - is beautiful. that is a good goal.

(also she may already be squirting. kind of sounds like it.)
 

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forget porn as a motivator. not the point.

squirting n g spot stim is great, tho. i am in love with it myself.

dont approach this situation like theres some brass ring you want her to catch. just try exploring her gspot more as part of regular sex, if it feels okay to her. nothing wrong with that. see where it takes you. or try changing positions when you fuck so that you are hitting her gspot more.

also - maybe try looking at some books from places like good vibrations or babeland.

dont hang onto squirting like a sex trophy. not every woman who squirts does it when she comes anyhow.

pleasure, tho - is beautiful. that is a good goal.

(also she may already be squirting. kind of sounds like it.)

They have it right. You won't convince a woman to cum in a way that isn't natural to how she feels at that time. The first girl I made squirt loved it, and I could make her do it over and again...but she had to hide it from her boyfriend normally - so she really let loose with me. She wanted that. The next few, I told them I would try to make them, and how they needed to relax and let loose when they felt like it. If they were comfortable with that, they did. Some just didn't though. And I didn't press them about it.

If you can get her to become sloppy wet, just go even harder. That's an indication that she loves what you are doing. If she doesn't do it, don't press her about it. It's only going to make her less comfortable when you have sex, and she will probably stop becoming as wet and excited as she currently is.
 

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Thanks for all the advice guys. As I posted above I'm over it. It's something I would love to try but I know its not her thing and I totally respect that. Maybe one day it'll just happen when we're in the moment.
 

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Im choosing to post my question in this thread because it is the most recent g-spot thread.

My wife and I have been married for 15 years. We have good sex. She likes when I use my fingers on her. In particular she likes clit stimulation and stimulation her anterior fornix (along the front wall, but deeper than the urethral sponge). This makes a big orgasm and she can have several more from penis penetration, but does not like me to use my hands again after the first one.

Last weekend we were doing our thing and she was really getting into it. Then (as sometimes happens) she squirted a bit of liquid. Unlike every time before, I was really paying attention this time. Her body tightened like before an orgasm. Eyes closed, concentrated, hips trusts forward, thighs tight, vagina tented (this was very hot) then she squirted 2-3 times maybe a table spoon each time and all buildup was gone. She told me to stop.

My wife does not like the sensation of being wet (around her butt) from the ejaculate. She says that the buildup is great but squirting itself is a letdown that does not feel at all like an orgasm. There is no release feeling or specific pleasure. She mentioned that she sort of felt the need to pee - but said her bladder was full but it felt too good to get up.

Past posts here by women have "agreed" that some women have g-spot orgasms and some don't. Since my wife enjoys the buildup and ejaculates, I assume that she has a g-spot.

My question is how to prevent the letdown? If the buildup is good and ejaculate is released, why is the sensation neutral to annoying for my wife and very pleasurable for other women? Several women here have posted about the need to relax or even push down for the orgasm to come - what exactly do you mean by that?

Im more curious about the answer than looking for suggestions. My wife will not allow my to experiment on her and she does not masterbate, so this question is really meant to generate a discussion. Perhaps there is a woman willing to share her experience in which she started out disliking g-spot stimulation and wound up enjoying it after altering her partner, technique, or attitude.

Thanks all
 

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From my experience, the woman who squirted did one thing completely different from the other women: they flex their PC muscles "outward" rather than flexing "inward" or relaxing. It is almost like they were trying to push me out.