my gf . .soon to be wife wants bigger

[emu]

love isn't sexual gratification.
they are two seperate things.

but,
think of it this way. say you have a career you love. you have a good job you like and thoroughly enjoy working in an office building say on wall street. but you always had this nagging feeling that you wished you could try a job working as a forest ranger. but you never went to school for it and have no experience in it, you just think it would be nice to have a job working outside in nature.

so you decide to leave your cozy job and go for it in the forest.
sure the company may hire you back, but even if you're an officer of the company,they can't guarantee you will have your same job and title and pay if you do get hired back if after a year you decide typing on a computer all days beats getting bit rabid squirrels. is that fair to your company to expect them to hire you back with the same pay, job and title, are they supposed to hold your position open and screw themselves over all because you are selfish and want to do whatever you want. some cmpany's will try to guarantee tha, but they would really have to like you and even then there is no guarantee, they are a corporation and their bottom line answers to their investors....

so why should you as a man in love with this woman sacrifice yourself for her own selfish needs. a relationship between two people who love eachtoher would be of compromise and equal agreement. sex is just a part of a relationship. your size is more than adequate to do the job but more importantly, if she loved you, she would be willing to try and experiment with things, toys, positions and techniques to reach the level of pleasure she thinks she needs. if she loved you the size of your cock would not matter, but the level of her pleasure does not have to be sacrificed. you can do a lot with a unit your size...i know from experience. and you can do plenty with extensions that look, act and feel like the real thing, watch porn lately...many of those things that are being used are extentions.... it's called living in reality. so unless she is not in love you and just wants to LOOK at a bigger cock and think of that bigger cock when she gets fucked by it which would probably turn her as she thinks about getting fucked by it, then maybe she is more in love with the idea of just a bigger cock and not really in love with you.

just a thought

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[somavert]

hi thanks for all the comments. Majority of here are opposed it. i do agree with nineinchcock . . . love does not = sexual gratification. maybe i havent made myself clear. my lovely gf likes me to lick her . . . and she gets off with me working on her with my tongue but she just wants to feel a bigger man inside her.

Yes we have toys and she totally loves it. bear in mind that none of this is to replace me but solely to add some spice as well as some satisfaction to certain extent.

anyway, thanks.

 

[G4Girl]

Sweetie you may not be aware of how huge of a mistake it would be to bring another man into your relationship to "Satisfy" your gf....
But keep this up and you'll find out.

Think about it...
If she's not "satisfied" with you as "her man"....to the point where she's requesting someone else to enter the picture...(and her)
Then are you "her man"???? Are you "the one for her"???
Is this a loving, committed, and worthwhile relationship??

Dont do it.

 

[G4Girl]

Or at the very least, Don't get married.

"Marraige", and the whole idea of two people engaging in a lifelong committment should be based on something deep and meaningful....and it should be sacred.

Your Gf "needing" another man for any reason sorta blows that theory out of the water.

Sorry, I'm pretty against this, but its just my opinion...

 

[joker]

Okay, I know I said I wasn't coming on here anymore, but this guy needs help...because he seems to be in the same situation that my hubby and I are in. I'm only curious about why this topic has come up between you and your soon-to-be-wife. Who brought it up? If you did, I can understand, and congrats on being open in your relationship enough to admit each other's faults and shortcomings...that shows your relationship is strong. But if she brought it up I would worry. Believe me, I'm not trying to scare you to death, and I'm sure that this isn't the case (or I would hope not), but speaking from experience, a woman MAY not even think about a larger member unless she already had a taste of one. I know this sounds brutal, but I'm just trying to comprehend why the subject would come up and who brought it up. The problem with my husband and me is that we don't talk enough..it seems as though you have that covered well...just always make sure you're honest with each other, no matter what your decision turns out to be.....a mind as a hiding place is no good thing.

 

[readingHelpsMe]

This goes for the original poster and for joker's husband (as it seems he feels inadequate, and for good reason with his wife coming here all the time), go check out measurection.com. This is a great site but measurection.com will give you guys the other side of things and offer a lot of support for average to smaller guys.

 

[Jessica]

That is very sad, there is no way I would tell my man such horrible thing.
She does not love you. And you are not acting like a man. That relationship will go now where. If she needs another man to satisfy her, that other man is her man. What part will you have in her relationship with another man?
Perhaps you are not telling the whole story. Perhaps she wants to leave you , and, she has told you you do not satisfy her ( which is still mean, I would never tell a man he does not satisfy me because of her size, I would find another reason, I do not enjoy destroying people )
>> and you are insisting. The only way I would tell a guy he is too small for me, would be , in a situation were this guy is not getting my NO!
In order to get rid of him, I might tell him something like that.
Perhaps she did, and you are not listening, to the point where she tells you, "oK, I will need to have sex with another man to satisfy me, and only like this, we can stay together"
and you, in a total show of no esteem, you are agreeing to it.

What would drive a man to be humilliated like that?
only you can respond. You are not respecting yourself. Perhaps you like to be humilliated. In any event, it will be short lived ( your enjoyment of self humilliation ) because she will leave you for the other guy on the spot.

 

[baseball99]

Yes, right, tell her, you need a blonde, with green eyes, 5'11" tall, who is sexy and feminine........you need that once a week, but....you know....."you love her".
She will understand.:smile:

mmmmmmmm drop her heght down to 5'7" and you have my perfect woman

 

[Wonderboy]

If you do go ahead with this one-sided plan (what pleasure do you get from it?)

just DO NOT get married. Or she will have half of everything and most likely run off with a big hung stud. Maybe that's her plan all along...be careful.

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

I would only agree with most of the statements being made here because I know that in fact most people are extremely selfish, jealous, neurotic, controlling and insecure. This is the basis upon which is built your reality of sexual fidelity and monogamy being parallel to love and a healthy relationship. Personally I think this is a bit sad. But I also understand its truth.

 

[dong20]

True or not, it's their life, their choice and, maybe, their mistake; no-one here can make it for them and if this choice makes them happy, great, we should all be so fortunate...

Just take one precaution....A cast iron Pre-nup.

 

[AllTatersNoMeat]

Perhaps it's just my suspicious nature, but after reading the OP I'm thinkin' it's probable that she's already schtupping someone on the side, and wants permission to legitimize it without having to admit she's been cheating. A little ex post facto bootay call ground clearance, if you will.

Of course, I always think the worst of people and they rarely disappoint

 

[Lordpendragon]

I would only agree with most of the statements being made here because I know that in fact most people are extremely selfish, jealous, neurotic, controlling and insecure. This is the basis upon which is built your reality of sexual fidelity and monogamy being parallel to love and a healthy relationship. Personally I think this is a bit sad. But I also understand its truth.

Good to see you using that IQ.

Love Sex and Marriage are three different things, but one would normally expect a honeymoon period when your reality is that all three coexist within one person.

Maybe though this guy is just a cuckold fetishist.

My considered advice would be

1/ Don't marry her - what is it in it for you?????????
2/ Fuck her up the ass every now and again as clearly her front bottom is more suited to her boyfriend.

 

[citygirl]

From this post I gathered that your soon-to-be wife must have been really experienced to know that she wanted a bigger dick, and the fact that you are insecure and appear to have low self-esteem that you were the unexperienced one. I read your other post on this similar topic and I was shocked that you were the experienced one and she was a virgin. Maybe she's naive or simply doesn't know the consequences of what she is saying ... does she know how much her words hurt you? If she has half of the heart that you have, she will not dwell on this or bring it up again. And if you love her as much as you do, I'm sure you will do everything in your power to satisfy her. And you do not have a small penis! It is more than enough to please a women! If she still continues to bring up this topic, I would say she is not worth marrying (yet); she is still very young and may be getting cold feet or whatever. I definitely don't want to see you get hurt. You sound like a sweet guy.

 

[Mattness]

hi, if u have remembered me from the last post "my gf wanted bigger man/penis" . . . well we had a real good chat and we figured she is really not satisfied with me sexually. just a quick recap . . .. we r both young, gd looking chinese couple . .. i'm rather small for her (i'm just above 5 in x 4.75 in around)

she loves me lots and wants to marry me . . . . however, sex shouldnt be the only reason why we separates. so after along talk and pondering . .we agreed to go ahead and allow her to spend the nite with another man (that we r both comfy with) max of 4x/mth

we would like to hear from other cpl who had done this. PM me any one interested in building friendship 1st . . . . something good may turn up

After you ask her why her pussy is so loose, tell her YOU want a woman with a tighter pussy and see how she takes it. If she doesn't take it well, dump her ass.

 

[pexman]

You're nuts, crazy, and idiotic if u go thru w/this. You will get what you deserve in the end, sad to say, if you don't dump her now.

This shows me that there's two facets to the adage, "Love is blind."

Usually it is used in to comment on what's actually a very positive thing for 2 people in love: someone has overlooked what most of society would perceive as a negative trait in the other mate (usually, but not always, physical--often looks, weight).

Your love is blind in a negative way in that you're so into this b*tch that you'll sacrifice the very essence of your maleness and your being for her stupid whim/cheap thrill and not even SEE that you're meaningless to her.

She evidently does not have the capacity to fall in love so deeply that her love could be "blind," where she could overlook a very, very normal-sized cock (there are millions out there smaller than yours, dude) in favor of some fantasy stud-boy. Get out before it's too late--I guarantee you'll regret it if u don't.

 

[ruffboy]

kay, i realize this is a way old post, but MAN there are some big opinions and feelings flying around here. i'll play devil's advocate assistant here and say that nineinchcock has some good things said here, and obviously, whoever brought it up, for whatever reason, this thing needs to be worked out BEFORE they get married, not avoided or put off at ALL. what many of you seem to be asking him/them to do is simply repress something she's apparently stated (in what reportedly are quite thought-out chats adn thoughtfulness between the two of them) and that they have ageed is the best course of action for THEM. we here do not know the full nature of the conversations. certainly many of you have probably had similar experiences to give advice from, but try and leave it at that and try not to delve into telling the guy how much NOT a man he is for doing this, how he's "meaningless". has anyone had dinner and drinks with this couple?? do you know them at all other than his dozen or so sentences posted here? youch.

 

[Aplus]

kay, i realize this is a way old post, but MAN there are some big opinions and feelings flying around here. i'll play devil's advocate assistant here and say that nineinchcock has some good things said here, and obviously, whoever brought it up, for whatever reason, this thing needs to be worked out BEFORE they get married, not avoided or put off at ALL. what many of you seem to be asking him/them to do is simply repress something she's apparently stated (in what reportedly are quite thought-out chats adn thoughtfulness between the two of them) and that they have ageed is the best course of action for THEM. we here do not know the full nature of the conversations. certainly many of you have probably had similar experiences to give advice from, but try and leave it at that and try not to delve into telling the guy how much NOT a man he is for doing this, how he's "meaningless". has anyone had dinner and drinks with this couple?? do you know them at all other than his dozen or so sentences posted here? youch.

Everything I've ever heard says that entering into a swinging lifestyle, which is what this would essentially be, is a very bad idea if the sexual side of the relationship isn't very strong. Even the most secure person can experience bouts of jealousy and insecurity if put to the test, I think this would be a serious test on anyones relationship considering the circumstances. The only way I could ever see this working is if it was something that really turned that guy on and fulfilled his fantasies, even then, I don't know. Its been about 4 months, so I expect whatever would happen, has. From everything the original poster said, it just seemed like a recipe for an even greater disaster. Intersting that he never came back and told what ultimately happened.

 

[fri2219]

Three thoughts:

1. Dump her. You're not ready, and neither is she.
2. If you want to fuck up a normal relationship, try swinging. Yeah, there's plenty of people who'll post how great it is, but if you want to lay money down on it, I'd bet that 95% of relationships can and will be trashed by fucking around. Oh hell, ignore me, and try it.. and post how things are in two years.
3. Did I mention dump her?

 

[sares]

what, you don't think there will be dudes lining up to get sex 4x a month with an unfaithful woman who's just using them for their cocks? NO.