My gf thinks im hot

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Another thing. I like bigger girls. Shes a little more than just bigger though. Is it wrong to think "hey she will lose some weight and i will think she is sexy" because I guess when I think about it..thats what I thought would happen I guess. Like I knew from the beginning she was losing weight. So I guess my mentality was she will lose a little weight and then she might as well be perfect because everything else about her is lol.
I mean somebodys weight doesn't make a person who they are. A person can be an asshole forever but anybody can lose weight. And honestly that is the only flaw i can think of about her.
 

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if you like her for who she is, then that's all that matters. if you can't get past the fact that she's "overweight" and doesn't meet this fucked up society's absurd standards of how women should look, then you've got some major issues to work on.

relationships aren't completely about looks. ask yourself, would you rather be with someone who's tall, thin, drop dead gorgeous and a stuck-up conceited bitch? or would you rather be with someone who isn't drop dead gorgeous and may not be tall or thin, but has a great personality, makes you laugh, and you enjoy her company?
 

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relationships aren't completely about looks. ask yourself, would you rather be with someone who's tall, thin, drop dead gorgeous and a stuck-up conceited bitch? or would you rather be with someone who isn't drop dead gorgeous and may not be tall or thin, but has a great personality, makes you laugh, and you enjoy her company?

I'm no psychologist, but it seems that his original post answered that question.
 

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Geez. :rolleyes:

You dont think your girl is hot.
You dont like where you live.
You are not a big fan of sex.

It must suck to be you.

Now on a serious note.
The problem is that you are trying to use some standard definition of "hot". The only thing that matters to her is if YOU think she is hot. And hot means in this case, "does she do it for you?" And you already said she does.

And just because she calls you hot doesnt mean you are either. But you are hot to her. And in relationships, that is what matters.

Now, if she is asking you if she should try out for Top Model, then maybe you have to have a talk with her. And support her. And let her fall on her ass. Then it is your job to pick up the pieces and console her. But she aint doing that.

So look her in those beautiful eyes you claim she has, and tell her how she does it for you. That YOU find her hot. Because if she does get you excited, then she is hot to you on some level.

I still think it sucks to be you.
 

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The fact of the matter is that for her to be harassing you about you not complimenting her (or whatever it is) means that she recognizes that you're NOT THAT INTO HER and she is afraid of losing you.

I've gone out with alot of girls but I've NEVER gone out with a girl I can't say is sexy or is beautiful in my eyes. Otherwise, I wouldn't go out with her. The only reason you two are still together is that it's a long distance relationship and you don't have to look at her ugly ass all the time. I hate to be completely truthful but this is how I see it. It doesn't bode well for your future together.
 

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And she says it often. She compliments me alot. Well my gf isn't so hot. I feel bad cause I dont compliment her often. You know how every person has thier own personal compulsion. Like some people have to be clean some people have to do this or that. Well for me I have a serious problem lying. I cannot lie for the life of me. It is no personal choice like "oh im not gonna lie" I don't choose to be this way. Well I can't tell her shes hot or anything cause well she isnt. I think she has pretty eyes and great hair and nice lips and shes such a great person but I feel bad because I can't really compliment her on her looks.

I don't know if she notices that I don't really compliment her or not. Should I lie and tell her I think shes like super gorgeous and stuff or what? I feel bad she says im so sexy and shes always worried that im going to cheat on her or something...as if I am hot. She thinks I'm hot but I'm pretty sure I'm not lol. Average looking girls don't give me a second look she has nothing to worry about.

Her face is ok..I think shes kinda cute. Its just she is overweight. She is and has been working on losing weight and I think that if she does she would look really hot. But for now she just doesn't....

I don't know where I'm going with this lol. Just looking for womanly insight maybe?

Don't ever get to lying just to make her "feel better". It'll come apart like a cheap watch at some point in the future.

When you've found someone who really "does it" for you trust me, the compliments will come out without even having to think about it...
 

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Am I just old-fashioned or is it weird that you've got a guy talking about how hot he is and how un-hot his girlfriend is? I mean, I know we're well into metrosexual heaven nowadays, and all the guys are now totally plucking their eyebrows but, holy crap, if one of my friends ever referred to himself as "hot" and started competing in the realm of looks with his GIRLFRIEND, I'd think there was something seriously wrong.

I thought guys were created to do manly things that result in scars so they can draw the attention of hot girls, and not complain that their girlfriend isn't hot like me. I guess that's almost sexist, hunh? I suppose there's some kind of utopian ideal where we can all be image-obsessed to the point where a relationship is a beauty pageant between a man and a woman. It just sounds kinda suck to me.
 

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Am I just old-fashioned or is it weird that you've got a guy talking about how hot he is and how un-hot his girlfriend is? I mean, I know we're well into metrosexual heaven nowadays, and all the guys are now totally plucking their eyebrows but, holy crap, if one of my friends ever referred to himself as "hot" and started competing in the realm of looks with his GIRLFRIEND, I'd think there was something seriously wrong.

I thought guys were created to do manly things that result in scars so they can draw the attention of hot girls, and not complain that their girlfriend isn't hot like me. I guess that's almost sexist, hunh? I suppose there's some kind of utopian ideal where we can all be image-obsessed to the point where a relationship is a beauty pageant between a man and a woman. It just sounds kinda suck to me.

no, he was just saying he's hot to his girlfriend, dear. if you read on in his original post he says how average girls won't even look at him, soooo...

basically he has no choice but to keep fucking her, since the option isn't there to fuck someone else.

maybe he can just get a fleshlight??? :biggrin1:
 

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Bullshit, spoken by women who gain weight and then don't understand why hubby isn't attracted to them anymore.
Honestly...if you actually cared about her, looks or not, you would think she was beautiful on the outside because of who she is on the inside. Dumbass.
 

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Bullshit, spoken by women who gain weight and then don't understand why hubby isn't attracted to them anymore.

Gotta agree with christina on that one, looks can be important but shouldn't be more so than everything else.

That's like saying if the woman you loved lost a leg to an accident, you'd suddenly not care about her anymore. Sadly, there are probably plenty of people that would think that way too.
 

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Hubby, boyfriend, whoever

i have no boyfriend, so your comment still makes no sense.

i'm single by choice, so don't use any unoriginal lame jokes, either.

oh, and my comment is just true. i've been there from personal experience WITH MEN. god forbid, i spoke about both men AND women!??!?!?!?!?!
 

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You're all very negative lol. I guess I haven't been emotionally destroyed yet or something. My life may not be the greatest but its your mentality that really decides whether or not it sucks to be you.

I figure..I love this girl and there are tons of things I love about her. Her weight isn't and issue if it was I never would have dated her. I just felt bad because I felt like I can't compliment her as well as she does to me. To all of you its like "omfg looks are #1 priority if you don't think shes a smoking hot babe then dump her!" I don't really understand that mentality. If a hot girl came up to me and said "hey lets do it" I wouldn't.

Actually..I just dumped a hot girl! All she wanted was sex and if thats what I wanted I could have had it. The only reason I was with said hot girl was because she had a kid and was looking for anybody to support her and her child. So its not like I'm a guy who gets hot girls but I certainly could have had one and I declined that opportunity for someone a hundred times better who doesn't look as good. I guess to everyone else you have to go for the gold or die alone.

So much negativity brought out of what I said, like you took an iphone and opened up my words to expose horrible halloween nightmares. Most of what you guys said was completely untrue in my opinion. I don't hold the same negative values as everybody else I guess. Maybe I'm misguided and in time I'll have my heart trodden on like everybody else and I'll become a dark bitter person but for now I'm happy and I was upset about a small thing and hoped to get some help. I got very little but to those who did say something worthwhile thanks anyways.
 

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This thread made me stop and think about all the things I love about Stacy and how much I care for her and love her. We're long distance, just like you. And it's hard sometimes not seeing someone that you care about. All you hear is a voice on the phone. I keep pictures on my wall of her from the first time we met. It was the meeting that made me fall in love with her.

Men are visual people, and lets face it, mainstream media and porn are bad influences on the male mind and ego. Beauty is more that just what's on the outside. You can be with the most beautiful woman in the world, but it doesn't mean jack shit if she has an empty soul. You have to have that internal connection or there's nothing there.

This is my first relationship, and you obviously don't go into it thinking that it's going to end someday. You just don't. I worry all the time about how things are going, or how I feel about her or how much I love her or if I love her enough. I believe the biggest culprit in that worrying and uncertainty is not being about to be with her all the time. That's hard on anybody, especially when it's their first. I didn't think about that happening, who would? But whenever it feels like it's getting hard, I just look at those pictures of our first time together, and they always remind me of who I fell in love with and why. And also whenever it feels tough, I'll imagine how I would feel if I had to say goodbye to her and walk my separate way. It makes me tear up every time thinking about it, and I say to myself No, I can't live my life without her. Because I know it would create a hole in my heart that could never be filled.

Relationships are hard work, and they can be scary. But the love that comes from them can be the most special thing in the world. I'm a worrier, always have been, it's just my nature. I don't like it, but I can't help it. I'll worry myself into a frenzy about this stuff, and it makes me sick inside. But I remember that love, and it always pulls me through. She makes me laugh, she makes me smile, she loves me for who I am, she comforts me and makes me feel comfortable with myself. I love her eyes, her smile, her beautiful hair, the crinkle she gets above her nose when she smiles, her giggle, her butt and they way they look in a pair of pink velour sweats (lol), and the way she closes her eyes as if she's being swept off her feet when she kisses me. All these things make her beautiful to me. And no matter how hot the hottest woman in the world is, she doesn't have that beauty. Love is a scary ride, but I hope it never ends. your girlfriend should be your soulmate. I think I got lucky and found mine my first time out. :redface:



If you can ask yourself all these things about your girl, then you'll have the answers your looking for and you will know how beautiful she is to you.
 
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You're all very negative lol. I guess I haven't been emotionally destroyed yet or something. My life may not be the greatest but its your mentality that really decides whether or not it sucks to be you.

I figure..I love this girl and there are tons of things I love about her. Her weight isn't and issue if it was I never would have dated her. I just felt bad because I felt like I can't compliment her as well as she does to me. To all of you its like "omfg looks are #1 priority if you don't think shes a smoking hot babe then dump her!" I don't really understand that mentality. If a hot girl came up to me and said "hey lets do it" I wouldn't.

I think most of the women, though, are trying to make the point that you keep saying her weight isn't an issue, however...

you feel you can't compliment her.

Whatever the case may be, whether you think we're right, you're right, he's wrong, she's wrong...WHATEVER...if you love her, you already know the wonderful person she is. Therefore, if you know the reasons you love her, you should be able to easily think of wonderful compliments I'm sure EVERY woman would love to hear.

Tell her you're proud that she's losing the weight, and encourage her to reach her goal. Write her a letter as to all the many reasons why you love her so much (or phone call, you get my point...), and pick the physical things that you DO find attractive at this moment to compliment her on. I'm sure she'd appreciate all of it.

Sorry if we came off as an incredibly asshole-ish community, but...well...we kind of are most of the time. hahaha. A lot of us have extremely strong opinions, and if you come in here with one ounce of insecurity we'll find it. (I'm speaking generally.) So next time, just know that no matter what you post...no matter what it's about, you will get negative and even horribly rude comments. It's nothing personal, we've all done it, and we've all done it to one another at some point here. :shrug: It's the nature of the beast.

Just hold your ground, and make your point or question more clear each time. After a while most of us will get bored and move onto some other thread to either be positive or negative about.
 

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I think most people are trying to tell you this:

Jessica Alba may be hot, but that does not mean that hot is Jessica Alba. If you are strongly attracted to her, she is hot to you. And whose opinion matters to her? Yours. So don't muddle up your definition of hot, it should be personal.

Example, a lot of people think Paris Hilton is hot (at least I assume so, since she is a star etc), but I do not, so I would not call her hot.

People who like BBW really think they are beautiful.
 

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Pendlum as usual has great insight:

Jessica Alba may be hot, but that does not mean that hot is Jessica Alba. If you are strongly attracted to her, she is hot to you. And whose opinion matters to her? Yours. So don't muddle up your definition of hot, it should be personal.


it comes down to your definition of hot.

wish ya the best of luck.