My GF wants me to cum in her mouth, but I can't!

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  1. fivesalive

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    I can have the same problem. Sometimes my girl wants to suck me off, and she'll go and go, with no more than a cramped hand and puffy lips for her and a rubbed raw dick for me. It does make me feel bad because I can get her off at will, and word is guys are supposed to be easier but I don't. It sucks because I have great orgasms from head when it happens.

    Usually if I feel like I won't be able to cum from oral, I try to turn it into full on sex, which is the majority. If it feels right and she can make me cum orally, I let her even at the expense of sex sometimes to give her the 'win' and keep her trying.
     
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    Do what my ex-bf used to do. When you feel kinda close pull out of her mouth and j/o. Maybe let her lick just the head while you do this. Then when you are ready to explode, shove that cock back in her mouth and let her guzzle your load. :wink:
     
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    I've never had a problem cumming in the mouth of a woman who sucked my cock.
     
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    I had trouble cumming in my wifes mouth the first few times we tried because I wasn't used to a mouth on my penis. Her technique improved and I learned to focus on the intensely exqusite sensations of her tongue and mouth. I also find that fantasy can play a significant role in my enjoyment and orgasm intensity. It may be your mastabatory fantasy or one you create in the moment coupled with her oral skills that provide a rich and overpowering experience. I know it intensifies her blow job fo me to the point that sometimes I have to ask her to slow down so I can enjoy her ministrations longer. Strong sucking doesn't do it for me, it is the subtleties of her oral technique and knowing that she wants me to cum in her mouth makes me blow every time, and sometimes twice.

    I would still like to experience deepthroating during oral with my wife but I don't think that it will ever happen.
     
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    My first wife swallowed and it was great. My current wife will suck me but as I get close she gives me a hand job. Have had to use "external" services to let loose.

    Nothing like it. Although if you practice with a fleshlight a few times or get started on a fleshlight and have her finish you off.
     
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    This may seem like a dumb question but, have you told her? I, like a lot of the other guys hare cant cum from oral either, my ex and I figured that out together. I would reccomend just being upfront about it, while still acknowledging the neccessity of oral, and just jerk it in her mouth, after a few minutes of enjoying the ride.
    If you let her know you cant do it, and how common that is, she wouldnt insist, would she?
     
  7. galaxus

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    I told her. I try to jerk off too, but it just won't work.

    I think I'm just gonna have to do the pull out method....
     
  8. CALAMBO

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    galaxus....yes buddy i have same curse...but may i suggest she lube up her fingers and slip into you ass while she is blowing u....relax and let it happen...focus but enjoy....have her also suck your balls and such......but really...a finger up ass maybe first knuckle...and then a bit more....it will happen.....good luck...lemmie know if this helps...
     
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    Suggestion for her: tell her that as she's sucking you, she needs to follow the stroking of her lips with the stroking of her hand closed around your cock.

    It'll get you off, promise.

    And if it doesn't, try what Dan Savage (or The Savage Love column) counsels: if you're not getting off, don't go beat off or fuck 'til you cum when you fail to shoot during a blo. If you don't cum, just stop. Keep doing that, keep frustrating yourself. Pretty soon you'll get off.

    Sounds like you want to do this for her. That makes you a totally great guy.

    Give us an update, dude. We want to hear about how you filled her mouth, then kissed her. (Yup, that'll turn her on so seriously . . . and make her feel totally appreciated. Take a deep breath and do it for her.)
     
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    Weird. I have exactly the same problem. Thing is, I thought I was just about the only guy in the world who doesn't come from getting a BJ :eek:
     
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    jacking off and head i have to extend my toes to cum... its some what weird
     
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    probably happens with regular intercourse, but just remains unnoticed
     
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    This is actually a common problem. Here's my thoughts on it. You have trouble coming because you feel like your girlfriend is "GIVING" you head. If you feel like she's doing it to pleasure YOU, you'll have trouble. When your girlfriend sucks on you and you feel that she is actually sucking your dick not just because it gives you pleasure, but because she actually is turned on herself by sucking that schlong, then it takes pressure off you. When you feel like she's sucking that big one for her own pleasure and not just to give you pleasure, you'll suddenly get turned on. This will require your girlfriend to TRULY enjoy sucking for her own pleasure, or at least able to act like she's doing it more for herself than for you, you might find yourself finally go over the edge and spray that load all over the place.

    My wife says she enjoys when I eat her because she actually understands I get pleasure out of tasting her and feeling her quivering on my tongue, and it's not just about "making her come for her pleasure".

    So there is my tip for the ladies and the men today. If you are sucking/eating your partner because you truly enjoy it, and not just enjoy "pleasuring your partner", then you will find yourself with one horny and happy partner. Enjoy.
     
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    I have a question. What about the tongue concentrating on your cumhole, teasing and probing it, stroking, worrying with the tongue right at your most sensitive spot - does that not help you to cum?
     
  15. TheRob

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    I'm not sure why you should feel pressured to cum at all
    if you like it but wont cum from it telling her that should be enough
    three pages deep and no one says that, yet a woman posts something similar and everyone runs to tell her 'the problem is not with you it's with him'

    double standards are SO boring
     
  16. the_reverend

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    i've never cum from oral sex either. i honestly thought it was strange until i started posting here and found it's not incredibly uncommon. so don't feel bad, and make sure she doesn't either. :)
     
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    With the first girl I was with, I was sure there was something wrong with me because I couldn't cum from getting a BJ.
    And then the second arrived... and I understood the first one knew jack shit about sucking cock. She would get me any time, if she wanted to.

    And so there were some girls I actually had to teach how to suck my cock properly, guide them. And if the girl has the will, and the basic talent, it will work.

    On a side note, I'd much rather cum on a girl's face than in her mouth. I don't know why men are so obsessed with women swallowing their cum. It's cool but never really done anything for me. A face covered in cum is much more rewarding to me!
     
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    tell her that. if you bareback her, and she is a sport, pulling out and cumming in a girl's mouth is the best fucking feeling in the world (got a woody just thinking about it).
     
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    dude, a deepthroat jizz is the best thing ever created...ever...
     
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    I don't understand how a guy can not bust when he's having his dick sucked, regardless of how long it lasts or how good the girl is. Is this a hardwired thing with certain individuals, is it a psychological thing, is it a desensitization from too much porn or too much sex or too much head, or what? This is an honest question, because I genuinely don't understand.
     
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