My gf wants to have a threesome with my big dicked friend....and I do too?

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i think this is good advice
Okay, I just gotta say- some of you are fucking douchebags- I mean, really? This guy seems young, worried, curious, and insecure.

Dude, I honestly believe that it would probably be in your best interest NOT to have a threesome. Yeah, I said it- and some you reading this know that I LOVE THREESOMES!!!! I've had several. When it comes to threesomes and there's a relationship involved, the third either needs to be a stranger or someone you both feel VERY comfortable with, and you know it wouldn't fuck things up. Because in a threesome, there's always a two-some, and the third should never be neglected. What role do you honestly believe that you would play? And it really sounds like this is two seperate issues. Your girlfriend wants threesome, and you want to explore sexually- those things should probably be separate, just being realistic. The fact that you're insecure with your performance and your size will only fuck your relationship- I promise you- you're going to feel inadequate, and your feelings will be hurt one way or another. And he self-sucks- that's cool, but it doesn't mean that he would let you near his dick- you would need to talk to him about that.

I'm telling you not to have the threesome, but if you decide to do it, I believe that you should ask your friend if he would have a threesome with another guy and how far he would be willing to go. After he answers- if he looks at you and ask "why do you ask, you tell him that you and your gf have been looking at the possibility of having one, wondering if there's an interest- that's all" Loose Lips Sink Ships. So if he says no, no thank you- dude, that's cool. If he says yes, say "cool cool, I'll discuss it with her"

In a threesome, all parties should be satisfied and no the consequences that come with them.

Good Luck

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No, not at all. I'm saying you'd have to be an idiot to take relationship advice from someone who starts an email with "you fucking douchebags." Such a person probably hasn't learned a lot of the nuances.
Excuse the hell out of me, but someone telling this nice man, who's asking for help/advice about this situation, that his dick won't measure up, and his performance sucks so he might as well do the damn thing to get the experience is a fucking a douchebag. That's just pathetic- a douchebag is a douchebag, point blank period- and if you have an issue with me using the word "fucking" then I do apologize but it definitely shows that I mean business. And if you have a problem with what I write in the future, then don't read it.

You stated that I haven't learned a lot of the nuances, and yet in message 24 you told this man, who is obviously insecure and DOES NOT want to feel intimidated by his friend, to be a cuckold. Reading comprehension is truly something that you have yet to master. That's like telling someone who doesn't want to put their hand on the burner off the stove because it's hot to go ahead and push the limits- turn the heat up and put your hand down- it's just fucking stupid.

or,
such a person is quite perceptive and doesn't beat around the bush.

reread the whole thread. we're a bunch of arseholes!

BUT

if you asked a bunch of 'nice' people they might not give it to you straight. sometimes people need to hear things blunt and insensitive.

Thank you sweetheart- luv ya mean it! Don't get me wrong, I'm a very sweet guy! But I can flip the switch and go from sweet to bitch in a second, if the situation calls for it. I'm a realist, and you're right, I don't beat around the bush. I think my advice was accurate, it was honest, and I didn't insult him- merely gave him the guidance that he would need to protect himself. Because even if it did hurt his feelings- JUST A LITTLE BIT, it doesn't compare to what he would feel if he decides to go through with it. So thank you for understanding. It's truly appreciated. xoxo

i think this is good advice

I'm glad to know that a few people in this thread have intelligence, hell, common sense for that matter.
 

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So my gf found out about my friend's huge dong - it's like twice as big as mine:(, and floated the idea of a threesome with him.

I really have jealousy issues with him and I guess I'm a little worried my gf will realize that I suck in bed compared to him.

However, I also have come to terms that I am kinda attracted to him and his penis. I've walked in on him self sucking a long time ago and it really turned me on.

So basically I'm trying to weigh do I go ahead and try to do it, risking my feelings of worthlessness with my gf, but rewarding my sexual urges with him.
You want him and at some point you have to be with him. If your gf leaves you because of his dick then your relationship was never going to last anyway.

Also, how do you know he would want to date him. He gets a random fuck, that may be all he wants.

The one thing I would make sure of is that he knows he has to satisfy both of you.
 

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The OP is not worth the bother. He's not giving us the extra information which would help us give him decent advice, which leads me to think he' only doing this for the sympathy. These kind of 'advice' posts should only be allowed when the OP is willing to co-operate!
 

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Excuse the hell out of me, but someone telling this nice man, who's asking for help/advice about this situation, that his dick won't measure up, and his performance sucks so he might as well do the damn thing to get the experience is a fucking a douchebag.
I see, so anyone who disagrees with you is a douchebag. Does that include the OP who is asking the question, and who clearly wants to go through with this and is seeking some support? Re-read his post – he is the one who is saying his dick doesn’t measure up and his performance might suck compared to his friend.

That's just pathetic- a douchebag is a douchebag, point blank period- and if you have an issue with me using the word "fucking"
I have no problem with fucking. I say it and do it all the time. I have a problem with people who start their posts with an insult and can't discuss things in a mature manner.

then I do apologize but it definitely shows that I mean business.
Educated people show they mean business by being articulate and well reasoned.

And if you have a problem with what I write in the future, then don't read it.
How would I know I have a problem with it until I read it?

You stated that I haven't learned a lot of the nuances, and yet in message 24 you told this man, who is obviously insecure and DOES NOT want to feel intimidated by his friend, to be a cuckold.
N
o I did not tell him he is a cuckold, I told him he reminds me of cuckolds I've read about. This is what I mean by not getting the nuances. I think he just might be turned on by being intimidated by his friend. Read the history. This happened before with a previous girlfriend and he was "humiliated" by that experience. Now he is considering doing it again. Does that make sense unless the thought of his friend showing him up turns him on? If that’s what he’s into no one else should tell him not to do it just because that’s not what they are into.

Reading comprehension is truly something that you have yet to master.
Another insult, plus by misunderstanding message 24 you have proven you are the one who truly has the reading comprehension problem.

it's just fucking stupid.
More insults.

I can flip the switch and go from sweet to bitch in a second
*snap*
*snap*

I'm glad to know that a few people in this thread have intelligence, hell, common sense for that matter.
There you go again being insulting for no reason. See a pattern here?
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I agree with Countryguy63. You have been asked some really good questions in this post. Take the time to read & answer before going forward. Correct me if i'm wrong, but I think you're thinking if given the rght situation your friend will let you in on a little action due to having caught him in a self-suck situation? Self suck does not always translate to being bi/gay. Good luck with this one.
 

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Sorry I just feel overwhelmed with all the questions feels like it would take a day to answer them. I guess I wish I had a friend to talk to about this but it's embarrassing topic to bring up.

Seems like most people are saying that my gf wants a bigger dick and I should leave her.
I think she is just excited about getting fucked by something that will be a lot better than me and that she'll feel so much better(orgasms and better feelings from sex in general) than she's felt in a long time - been together for over a year. I don't think she'll leave me after a threesome with my friend, but I guess you never know?

To answer some questions, I've seen his dick several times...some he didn't know, two were super embarrassing for him as he was self-sucking. But honestly my interest seems to stem from two things 1. Yes I'm sexually attracted to his dong and him 2.Hearing him have sex(we were roommates) and how he made girls scream out in pleasure(never happened like that for me), and because of all the locker room talk that goes on between guys i.e. his sexual conquests and the "wow" factor from girls who would talk about him. Remember he dated an ex of mine and she couldn't stop talking about how amazing he is and better than me:(

My gf knows about his dick/has seen it because of a site like this:(((( She walked up behind me while I was looking at his picture. And yes, his dick is abnormally large like 10 to 11 inches, this was kinda common knowledge because girls would measure it ect. and talk about it behind his back, and I'm only five or six.

As for the am I/we gay/bi factor. I don't know about myself I guess. He's always been with girls all throughout college so I have no reason to assume he would let me suck him or jack him off - I don't think I could do anal sex with him he's too big lol and I assume he wouldn't even entertain the idea, he would probably just have sex with her. I've jacked off with guys and had oral sex with guys but it was always just kind of a secret and I and the other guys knew it wasn't a long term thing...maybe just drunk college guys experimenting is how I would term it.

The cuckold idea is a turn off for me. I do want to see his big dick slam into my gf and hear her moan like I heard those other girls moan, but I don't want to feel bad as a result. More of him fucking her while she sucks me, then me fuck her while I suck/jack him. Lol I wonder how much alcohol we'll have to ply him with for me to get to touch him?

I do know for a fact that sex is just sex for him. We are good friends and he definitely told me he doesn't want a long term relationship or marriage. So from that, maybe he could care less if we do some bi stuff.

Sorry if this post makes some of you mad, I never write on message boards so I don't even really know how to "quote" your questions and respond, you don't have to respond if you don't want to or if I upset you with my post:)
 
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Sorry I just feel overwhelmed with all the questions feels like it would take a day to answer them.

Despite the tone of some of the posts, I think you'll find most people on this site are genuinely friendly and some have genuinely good perspectives on a variety of topics from either life experience, personal knowledge, or professional studies.

I guess I wish I had a friend to talk to about this but it's embarrassing topic to bring up.

So, you do have friends.

Now... there is one unwritten rule on how to make this type of site work for you: you should be truthful. I'm not saying that because you sound untruthful; I'm saying that because there are a handful of posts you can find where it is clear the OP was trying to incite an electronic riot by offending common sensibilities. Likewise, there are a handful of posts that were probably 'one-handed typing' exercises merely posted to satisfy the prurient interests of the OP while he rubbed one out.

Seems like most people are saying that my gf wants a bigger dick and I should leave her.

I think she is just excited about getting fucked by something that will be a lot better than me and that she'll feel so much better(orgasms and better feelings from sex in general) than she's felt in a long time - been together for over a year. I don't think she'll leave me after a threesome with my friend, but I guess you never know?

Personally, I don't think that she just wants a bigger dick. I think she's bored. You haven't captured her imagination. There is a great blog post by member BBW36 called 'The Numbers Game' that you should read. You can find the entry here. It will make you think twice about size as a determiner of happiness (hers or yours).

You should also do away with the myths that "bigger" gives better orgasms or better feelings from sex. I have a friend who is seriously hung (at least 10") and he told me that he can count on one hand the number of women he has had sex with simply because he lacks the ability to understand how to make them happy sexually. I read that this way: he has no game, no technique, no mojo -- the je nais sais quoi quality necessary to understand how to please a woman.

Guys who believe "big dick" = "great sex" are thinking more about how cool it is to have a big dick and are engaging in one-sided thinking. There are women who LOVE big dicks, but in my experience, they actually love the ideal of a big dick more than a big dick. I do not know a single woman who will put a big cock ahead of good sex when it comes to selecting a partner. They may be out there, but I don't know them.

Finally, most woman don't leave a man over the size of his dick... women select mates / partners / potential husbands from a whole host of checklist items. If she does leave you, it wasn't about your dick. And if you do leave her, it won't be about your dick... it will be about insecurity, anxiety, distrust or something else. You can blame your dick, but the problem is in your head.

Remember he dated an ex of mine and she couldn't stop talking about how amazing he is and better than me:(

Sorry, but this seems like pointless self-pity. Are you telling me that you'd actually buy stock in the opinion of an ex? Of course she's going to say something hurtful like that; exes rarely possess the maturity to accept part of the blame, move on, and reflect positively on the experience. But don't be an idiot and buy into it. You should move on, too.

My gf knows about his dick/has seen it because of a site like this:(((( She walked up behind me while I was looking at his picture. And yes, his dick is abnormally large like 10 to 11 inches, this was kinda common knowledge because girls would measure it ect. and talk about it behind his back, and I'm only five or six.

It seems to me that you have an excellent opportunity to engage one of your girlfriend's fantasies and maybe address some of your own. I can't imagine that her walking up behind you while you check out dick didn't generate a conversation. Use that kind of a situation to your advantage and tell her (honestly) why you were looking at it...

As for the am I/we gay/bi factor. I don't know about myself I guess. He's always been with girls all throughout college so I have no reason to assume he would let me suck him or jack him off - I don't think I could do anal sex with him he's too big lol and I assume he wouldn't even entertain the idea, he would probably just have sex with her.

Forget about 'doing him' for a second... is that the reason you want to engage in this 3way? If so, you're doing it for the wrong reasons. That's just you using your girlfriend's pussy to justify your own selfish actions. Selfishness isn't allowed unless you're honest about it. Also, MFM liaisons rarely break out into porn-worthy man on man action. Most guys engaging in a MFM liaison are doing so because there is a female in the mix. That doesn't mean that your equipment isn't going to touch his at some point or that he will reject you offering up a little oral assistance while he's engaging some part of your girlfriend's anatomy. But -- generally -- most women assume that they are the center of the attention and I think a woman would be put off if she were gradually worked out of the picture during a MFM encounter. Likewise, most men would be freaked out if you started paying more attention to them than the woman in bed with you. A little contact is to be expected... a lot is not cool for anybody.

I've jacked off with guys and had oral sex with guys but it was always just kind of a secret and I and the other guys knew it wasn't a long term thing...maybe just drunk college guys experimenting is how I would term it.

Good for you; however, you should recognize those experiences do tend to color your interests and you should be honest about them with your girlfriend. And here's why: it is your responsibility to make sure you are engaging in safe sex activities and NOT potentially exposing your girlfriend to STDs you may or may not have picked up along the way. Your "on the down low" activities can affect more than you and your "secret" partners. You're a grown-up, you ought to act like it.

I do want to see his big dick slam into my gf and hear her moan like I heard those other girls moan, but I don't want to feel bad as a result. More of him fucking her while she sucks me, then me fuck her while I suck/jack him. Lol I wonder how much alcohol we'll have to ply him with for me to get to touch him?

Alcohol is not necessary for consensual sexual activity. If you want to risk your friendship with this guy, go ahead. But that whole idea of plying him with alcohol just seems stupid and fraught with potential risks.

I do know for a fact that sex is just sex for him. We are good friends and he definitely told me he doesn't want a long term relationship or marriage. So from that, maybe he could care less if we do some bi stuff.

If you are that good of friends, I would think you could broach this subject with him directly. I've had friends do that... in some cases, I knew that their interest was more about me than it was for their girlfriends/wives. But, the direct approach (for me, anyway) is the only approach I want to be involved in. Misreading or mistaking visual, verbal, or physical "cues" just have too many bad outcomes to follow up on them.

I really hope you're able to take my perspective, weight it, and use it to help make up your mind. But I see a lot of 'yellow flags' in your discussion of this topic that make me think you have more to tell your girlfriend before you approach your friend. There will be some people who will disagree with these points (and believe me, you'll hear from them) but I've had a few 3ways during my lifetime and the best ones were the ones that started off with everybody understanding up front what everybody else wanted out of the deal.

Good luck, samfro.
 
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I see, so anyone who disagrees with you is a douchebag. Does that include the OP who is asking the question, and who clearly wants to go through with this and is seeking some support? Re-read his post – he is the one who is saying his dick doesn’t measure up and his performance might suck compared to his friend.

I have no problem with fucking. I say it and do it all the time. I have a problem with people who start their posts with an insult and can't discuss things in a mature manner.

Educated people show they mean business by being articulate and well reasoned.

How would I know I have a problem with it until I read it?

No I did not tell him he is a cuckold, I told him he reminds me of cuckolds I've read about. This is what I mean by not getting the nuances. I think he just might be turned on by being intimidated by his friend. Read the history. This happened before with a previous girlfriend and he was "humiliated" by that experience. Now he is considering doing it again. Does that make sense unless the thought of his friend showing him up turns him on? If that’s what he’s into no one else should tell him not to do it just because that’s not what they are into.

Another insult, plus by misunderstanding message 24 you have proven you are the one who truly has the reading comprehension problem.

More insults.

*snap*
*snap*

There you go again being insulting for no reason. See a pattern here?
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You're absolutely right! I wasn't even referring to you to begin with , so I should have just let you make your snooty comment about me and kept my mouth shut. That would have been the mature way to go about this matter. We're obviously not going to see eye to eye, so have a good one.
 
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Sounds like you've got your head on Samfro. I do agree with ColoradoGuy that alcohol just muddles shit up. Some people need it so they've got an avenue for denial. I think of alcohol as stupid in a bottle, but then I'm a non-drinker.
 

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I think that we have 2 distinct situations here.

1) your GF wants to fuck your friend. she could have fucked him without even telling you. but instead she told you she wants a threesome. maybe she just feels too guilty to cheat on you and she thought the best way to handle her desire is to ask you to jump in. Or, maybe, she gets wet thinking of you both sharing this new experience, using your friend as a sex toy. I think you shoult ask her kindly wether she would really like a threesome or if she would like just to fuck him alone. Because this brings us to point 2...

2) you want to fuck your friend. you don't care for the threesome asid the bad part of it: comparison. You fear she will stop liking you in bed. So: we have anoter 2 sub-points here:
a) you feel insecure about youself, your cock and youself as a lover in the whole
b) you would like to fuck your friend, possibly leaving out your gf!

this is the key of this situation, imho. is you that want to fuck your friend and it would even be better without your gf. if you fuck your friend without your gf, she won't find out how good he is and you will enjoy his dong.

So, in one side we have a gf that, at least, is proposing you a threesome.
In the other side, is you, that are only worried about comparison but that carve so much for cock that are willing to take the risk.

Solution: you should be more honest with everyone, starting with yourself.
Want to suck cock? suck cock! leave your gf outside. talk to your friend about this.
Feel insecure with your gf? talk to her. don't wait for her to find out by herself. talk her.

A threesome can be ok if all three are ok with it. You have too many issues to be fixed before even thinking of giving it a go!
 

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Tell her it'll be a proper MFM, that you & he have done it before, & that she'll have to be at some point licking your ass, while you're sucking his cock.

Also, tell her you need an MFF beforehand with an enormous boobed, or ultra hot babe before hand - or just tell her to bring such a girl along.

Then at least you'll know just how into it she is!

F*cking friends is normally never a good idea, especially if you're close, or socialize frequently. Ask him if he's ever done a MFM before evn suggesting anything else.

Your GF probably has this fantasy of being the centre of attention - dispel it, or get some quid pro quo. Is she hot?

It does seem like you have an unhealthy obsession with your friend's cock!

I wouldn't worry about losing your GF - women like her are easy to come by, & you should be more concerned about your friendship.
 

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Despite the tone of some of the posts, I think you'll find most people on this site are genuinely friendly and some have genuinely good perspectives on a variety of topics from either life experience, personal knowledge, or professional studies.



So, you do have friends.

Now... there is one unwritten rule on how to make this type of site work for you: you should be truthful. I'm not saying that because you sound untruthful; I'm saying that because there are a handful of posts you can find where it is clear the OP was trying to incite an electronic riot by offending common sensibilities. Likewise, there are a handful of posts that were probably 'one-handed typing' exercises merely posted to satisfy the prurient interests of the OP while he rubbed one out.



Personally, I don't think that she just wants a bigger dick. I think she's bored. You haven't captured her imagination. There is a great blog post by member BBW36 called 'The Numbers Game' that you should read. You can find the entry here. It will make you think twice about size as a determiner of happiness (hers or yours).

You should also do away with the myths that "bigger" gives better orgasms or better feelings from sex. I have a friend who is seriously hung (at least 10") and he told me that he can count on one hand the number of women he has had sex with simply because he lacks the ability to understand how to make them happy sexually. I read that this way: he has no game, no technique, no mojo -- the je nais sais quoi quality necessary to understand how to please a woman.

Guys who believe "big dick" = "great sex" are thinking more about how cool it is to have a big dick and are engaging in one-sided thinking. There are women who LOVE big dicks, but in my experience, they actually love the ideal of a big dick more than a big dick. I do not know a single woman who will put a big cock ahead of good sex when it comes to selecting a partner. They may be out there, but I don't know them.

Finally, most woman don't leave a man over the size of his dick... women select mates / partners / potential husbands from a whole host of checklist items. If she does leave you, it wasn't about your dick. And if you do leave her, it won't be about your dick... it will be about insecurity, anxiety, distrust or something else. You can blame your dick, but the problem is in your head.



Sorry, but this seems like pointless self-pity. Are you telling me that you'd actually buy stock in the opinion of an ex? Of course she's going to say something hurtful like that; exes rarely possess the maturity to accept part of the blame, move on, and reflect positively on the experience. But don't be an idiot and buy into it. You should move on, too.



It seems to me that you have an excellent opportunity to engage one of your girlfriend's fantasies and maybe address some of your own. I can't imagine that her walking up behind you while you check out dick didn't generate a conversation. Use that kind of a situation to your advantage and tell her (honestly) why you were looking at it...



Forget about 'doing him' for a second... is that the reason you want to engage in this 3way? If so, you're doing it for the wrong reasons. That's just you using your girlfriend's pussy to justify your own selfish actions. Selfishness isn't allowed unless you're honest about it. Also, MFM liaisons rarely break out into porn-worthy man on man action. Most guys engaging in a MFM liaison are doing so because there is a female in the mix. That doesn't mean that your equipment isn't going to touch his at some point or that he will reject you offering up a little oral assistance while he's engaging some part of your girlfriend's anatomy. But -- generally -- most women assume that they are the center of the attention and I think a woman would be put off if she were gradually worked out of the picture during a MFM encounter. Likewise, most men would be freaked out if you started paying more attention to them than the woman in bed with you. A little contact is to be expected... a lot is not cool for anybody.



Good for you; however, you should recognize those experiences do tend to color your interests and you should be honest about them with your girlfriend. And here's why: it is your responsibility to make sure you are engaging in safe sex activities and NOT potentially exposing your girlfriend to STDs you may or may not have picked up along the way. Your "on the down low" activities can affect more than you and your "secret" partners. You're a grown-up, you ought to act like it.



Alcohol is not necessary for consensual sexual activity. If you want to risk your friendship with this guy, go ahead. But that whole idea of plying him with alcohol just seems stupid and fraught with potential risks.



If you are that good of friends, I would think you could broach this subject with him directly. I've had friends do that... in some cases, I knew that their interest was more about me than it was for their girlfriends/wives. But, the direct approach (for me, anyway) is the only approach I want to be involved in. Misreading or mistaking visual, verbal, or physical "cues" just have too many bad outcomes to follow up on them.

I really hope you're able to take my perspective, weight it, and use it to help make up your mind. But I see a lot of 'yellow flags' in your discussion of this topic that make me think you have more to tell your girlfriend before you approach your friend. There will be some people who will disagree with these points (and believe me, you'll hear from them) but I've had a few 3ways during my lifetime and the best ones were the ones that started off with everybody understanding up front what everybody else wanted out of the deal.

Good luck, samfro.

Lots of good advice here. Sounds like the voice of experience to me.
 

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If your gf has been honest enough with you to tell you she wants sex with your friend, you should be honest enough with her to tell her that you want sex with him too. Then if all is cool you can approach him with the proposition of a bi threesome that both of you want. If you don't settle the bi issue in advance with each of them separately, bringing it up in the moment could end up hurting you with either or both of them. A mmf threesome in which you don't get any bi action but are hungry for it sounds more like torture than fun to me. Especially with all the insecurity vis-a-vis your friend and cock size. But if everyone is cool with a bi scenario it could be a wonderful and perhaps even a healing experience.