I'm a black male, my wife is a beautiful red headed white female. Very attractive and has had her share of men. I have had confidence issues in the past. From the top I measure between 7.25"-7.5" from the side because i have a curve i measure8-8 1/4". I measure between 5.5 to 5 3/4" around.
I too have had this type of conversation with my wife and she has gotten very upset. To the point where it disgusts her. Take it from me do not push the subject or you will regret it.
It makes you look like you are not confident and it just doest sit right with the person you are with. She will not mention any guys sizes except finally she said one partner who she really had great sex with was alot smaller than me.
It turns me on slightly and just the thought of wondering if these other guys have been bigger, if they give her a bigger orgasm or more orgasms. Just excites my curiosity.
The first time we were together I lasted over an hour and she could barely walk for 3 days but in my mind that didnt mean i was big. I still hurt her sometimes when we have sex, she doest let me put her legs on my shoulders and I dont get to take her from the back or other positions with deep penetration.
But just to make my point just be happy with the sex... Try to control your thoughts. Its still tough for me but it can ruin your relationship if you let it go to far.
This whole issue with my size happened because the first girl I was with told her best friend I wasnt anything special and it hurt my ego, though her friend told me i was big. Just try to be happy with her and try to make love to her mind and not just concentrate on the size... Check my pics out, do you think I should be worried about the size of my penis and of her other lovers?