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My new girlfriend and I are having trouble having sex as she says I have a large penis (9 inches) and we are having trouble making it fit. Is there any way to help this?
Is it the thickness or the length? At 9” long, not many are going to take it all, and those that do will need significant warm up, and only certain angles. With that length I would imagine you’ve had this problem before with other partner, unless this is your first time or close to it. You may find that a majority of the time you will only be able to use a portion of your penis for sex rather than the entire thing penetrated to the hilt
Girth is not variable. It either fits nicely or it doesn’t. If it’s the latter, use patience, skill, and lube. @Scarletbegonia gives good advice and has covered all of the stuff I didn’t
Communicate with your partner and us and you will find the best solution
He got over the idea that if I needed lube it was always a failure on his part.
Geez. Consider the source. (I had to look up UFC)I’m not going to bother looking it up, but a while back, I saw a video of then-UFC darling Ronda Rousey sitting in a make-up chair surrounded by her team ranting about how using lube was just a lazy shortcut for guys who suck at foreplay. That angered me more than it probably should have, but what an ignorant thing that was to say for someone with that big an audience.
I honestly never cared for her even before that, but I actively disliked her after seeng it.Geez. Consider the source. (I had to look up UFC)
Or, she was sucking up to a male tv audience.I honestly never cared for her even before that, but I actively disliked her after seeng it.
Once my initial “WTF is this bullshit?” response waned, my second thought was, “She’s obviously only fucked guys with small dicks who finish in 2 minutes.”
Or, she was sucking up to a male tv audience.
A few pics of ur silly would be much appreciated!! And a lot of foreplay and maybe some toys in first her would make a huge different
A few pics of ur silly would be much appreciated!! And a lot of foreplay and maybe some toys in first her would make a huge different
To throw in a different perspective: I’m not massively girthy and sometime my wife feels really tight to the point that it hurts me a little bit.
That being said, she prefers quickies. she enjoys most the quick grab, bend over the bed, do it and be done.
I guess different women like different things. Who knew?
That issue is exactly why I’m on the site.
I truly came for dick advice and stayed for the “pussy,” the camaraderie of the core women on the site.
So, I have strategies.
Here’s what worked for an ex and I:
Long foreplay. Lots of oral on me (he was the first person I truly enjoyed receiving oral with), extended touching. Alas, no quickies were ever possible for us.
My lubrication was adequate maybe 80 percent of the time, but toss in something as innocuous as an allergy pill or extra work hours/stress, and break out the lube. (This is true of my current, girthy partner, too)
Penetration was slooow. I get microtears very easily, and they can lead to infections. No good. Slow and easy was the ticket. We could get to speed, but porn-style jackhammering was not to be undertaken lightly.
It was fun for a bit and then it was definitely not fun, in seconds.
I got used to days of soreness after.
During penetration, I often use meditative breathing to lower any body resistance.
With the girthy partner, we build anticipation for hours, days, and since he works on the road several times a year, weeks.
We discovered new erogenous zones and exploit them.
He got over the idea that if I needed lube it was always a failure on his part.
He considers himself average yet has some girth, so the difficulty was both bemusing and amusing (I laugh at it, too. It is funny. And it’s better than getting angry or frustrated every time).
Can you unpack the hurts you bit? I’m guilty of the same, I’m told, and I’m curious about the sensation, and what to do about it on the outie side rather than the innie side.
Gracias.