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My new girlfriend and I are having trouble having sex as she says I have a large penis (9 inches) and we are having trouble making it fit. Is there any way to help this?
 

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More information is required. Is it her first time? Is it your first time? If both of those are no, then were there issues, on either side wth previous partners? Did you try lube? Oral? Were you wearing a condom? Did you do an extended foreplay session or did you just try and ram it in? You say you are 9", what is your girth? Does "making it fit" apply to length, girth or both?
 

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That issue is exactly why I’m on the site.
I truly came for dick advice and stayed for the “pussy,” the camaraderie of the core women on the site.
So, I have strategies.
Here’s what worked for an ex and I:
Long foreplay. Lots of oral on me (he was the first person I truly enjoyed receiving oral with), extended touching. Alas, no quickies were ever possible for us.
My lubrication was adequate maybe 80 percent of the time, but toss in something as innocuous as an allergy pill or extra work hours/stress, and break out the lube. (This is true of my current, girthy partner, too)
Penetration was slooow. I get microtears very easily, and they can lead to infections. No good. Slow and easy was the ticket. We could get to speed, but porn-style jackhammering was not to be undertaken lightly.
It was fun for a bit and then it was definitely not fun, in seconds.
I got used to days of soreness after.
During penetration, I often use meditative breathing to lower any body resistance.

With the girthy partner, we build anticipation for hours, days, and since he works on the road several times a year, weeks.
We discovered new erogenous zones and exploit them.
He got over the idea that if I needed lube it was always a failure on his part.
He considers himself average yet has some girth, so the difficulty was both bemusing and amusing (I laugh at it, too. It is funny. And it’s better than getting angry or frustrated every time).
 

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Is it the thickness or the length? At 9” long, not many are going to take it all, and those that do will need significant warm up, and only certain angles. With that length I would imagine you’ve had this problem before with other partner, unless this is your first time or close to it. You may find that a majority of the time you will only be able to use a portion of your penis for sex rather than the entire thing penetrated to the hilt

Girth is not variable. It either fits nicely or it doesn’t. If it’s the latter, use patience, skill, and lube. @Scarletbegonia gives good advice and has covered all of the stuff I didn’t

Communicate with your partner and us and you will find the best solution
 

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Is it the thickness or the length? At 9” long, not many are going to take it all, and those that do will need significant warm up, and only certain angles. With that length I would imagine you’ve had this problem before with other partner, unless this is your first time or close to it. You may find that a majority of the time you will only be able to use a portion of your penis for sex rather than the entire thing penetrated to the hilt

Girth is not variable. It either fits nicely or it doesn’t. If it’s the latter, use patience, skill, and lube. @Scarletbegonia gives good advice and has covered all of the stuff I didn’t

Communicate with your partner and us and you will find the best solution

Thanks for the shout out for my essay posting. LOL.

One other thing, women do have a fair amount of stretch, but there’s a reason childbirth is painful!
Some women are short, and the formation of the pelvis is a limiting factor. Same with girth. We use a slightly tipped angle because the foramen of my pelvis slammed back down after childbirth.
I swear I heard it pop back into place a couple weeks after.
The oval is extra obvious in mine. (I wonder if that’s why some peens are oval around?) and the room is north-south, not east-west. My sweetie is girthy east-west. Of course.
Transwomen use dilators, and I’m convinced they are helpful in situations where the peen and puss are not of compatible size.
 

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He got over the idea that if I needed lube it was always a failure on his part.

I’m not going to bother looking it up, but a while back, I saw a video of then-UFC darling Ronda Rousey sitting in a make-up chair surrounded by her team ranting about how using lube was just a lazy shortcut for guys who suck at foreplay. That angered me more than it probably should have, but what an ignorant thing that was to say for someone with that big an audience.
 

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I’m not going to bother looking it up, but a while back, I saw a video of then-UFC darling Ronda Rousey sitting in a make-up chair surrounded by her team ranting about how using lube was just a lazy shortcut for guys who suck at foreplay. That angered me more than it probably should have, but what an ignorant thing that was to say for someone with that big an audience.
Geez. Consider the source. (I had to look up UFC)

I was able to explain to my sweetie that I lube unevenly due to trauma, but other aware ladies have suggested similar wet and dry spots within.
 
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Geez. Consider the source. (I had to look up UFC)
I honestly never cared for her even before that, but I actively disliked her after seeng it.

Once my initial “WTF is this bullshit?” response waned, my second thought was, “She’s obviously only fucked guys with small dicks who finish in 2 minutes.”
 
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I honestly never cared for her even before that, but I actively disliked her after seeng it.

Once my initial “WTF is this bullshit?” response waned, my second thought was, “She’s obviously only fucked guys with small dicks who finish in 2 minutes.”
Or, she was sucking up to a male tv audience.
 

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A few pics of ur silly would be much appreciated!! And a lot of foreplay and maybe some toys in first her would make a huge different

Photos aren’t needed to discuss options for his GF.
 

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A few pics of ur silly would be much appreciated!! And a lot of foreplay and maybe some toys in first her would make a huge different

The OP stated in his Opening Post that his penis size was an issue for his new girlfriend. In this case, and as @Scarletbegonia said above, a picture is not necessary for folks to weigh in who've had similar experiences.

I notice this is your first post since joining in November 2018. Welcome. You've been here for 7 months now. What took you so long to make your first post? And why in this particular forum asking to see pictures?

If you haven't already, take some time to look around the site. You'll find plenty of forums with plenty of pictures that have been posted for you and others to enjoy. Have fun!
 

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There are 918,772,249 cock pictures here on lpsg and you're going to ruin a thread broaching a serious and real problem.

Imagine going to a doctor for gallbladder stones and after you ask him about it he says "how about you send me some pussy pics first."

Bad form.
 

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To throw in a different perspective: I’m not massively girthy and sometime my wife feels really tight to the point that it hurts me a little bit.

That being said, she prefers quickies. she enjoys most the quick grab, bend over the bed, do it and be done.

I guess different women like different things. Who knew?
 

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To throw in a different perspective: I’m not massively girthy and sometime my wife feels really tight to the point that it hurts me a little bit.

That being said, she prefers quickies. she enjoys most the quick grab, bend over the bed, do it and be done.

I guess different women like different things. Who knew?

Can you unpack the hurts you bit? I’m guilty of the same, I’m told, and I’m curious about the sensation, and what to do about it on the outie side rather than the innie side.
Gracias.
 

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That issue is exactly why I’m on the site.
I truly came for dick advice and stayed for the “pussy,” the camaraderie of the core women on the site.
So, I have strategies.
Here’s what worked for an ex and I:
Long foreplay. Lots of oral on me (he was the first person I truly enjoyed receiving oral with), extended touching. Alas, no quickies were ever possible for us.
My lubrication was adequate maybe 80 percent of the time, but toss in something as innocuous as an allergy pill or extra work hours/stress, and break out the lube. (This is true of my current, girthy partner, too)
Penetration was slooow. I get microtears very easily, and they can lead to infections. No good. Slow and easy was the ticket. We could get to speed, but porn-style jackhammering was not to be undertaken lightly.
It was fun for a bit and then it was definitely not fun, in seconds.
I got used to days of soreness after.
During penetration, I often use meditative breathing to lower any body resistance.

With the girthy partner, we build anticipation for hours, days, and since he works on the road several times a year, weeks.
We discovered new erogenous zones and exploit them.
He got over the idea that if I needed lube it was always a failure on his part.
He considers himself average yet has some girth, so the difficulty was both bemusing and amusing (I laugh at it, too. It is funny. And it’s better than getting angry or frustrated every time).

This exactly with my ex as well. And I too consider myself average at the time. Lube was our best friend and I had to pay attention if thing were not sliding well. Even with our best efforts she would be sore.

Also had similar issues with some other women as well since our divorce.

Lube helps greatly.
 
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Can you unpack the hurts you bit? I’m guilty of the same, I’m told, and I’m curious about the sensation, and what to do about it on the outie side rather than the innie side.
Gracias.

Well, the worst is from going in from behind. The skin on an erection is stretched pretty tightly. On mine, that is. I assume it is for all guys. That’s how it’s smooth...and hard....yet...soft to the touch.....but anyways, there’s not a lot of “give.” Maybe in an uncircumcised one there’s more looseness, I don’t know.

When the tight thin skin gets pulled back away from the head toward the base all around at the same time it can feel like it’s splitting and peeling away.

And, like, you want to get it in there so you’re pushing in, but it hurts, and she’s pushing back against you because she wants it in, too, and you pull out a little and push in a little farther, and pull out and push in a little farther and you’re waiting for it to pick up a little (natural) lubrication, and she’s rocking back onto you, and it takes three or four good pushes until it feels like the skin is literally tearing.

And not to be gross but when you get in far enough and her fluids start spreading around it feels slippery as if your skin really did finally give way and you’re feeling blood.

But then it’s all good.

I guess the alternative is to use lube. We never did, because these were usually spontaneous quickies.
 
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