[Sidenote: Hello all! I haven't actually posted here yet, so I suppose a greeting is in order!] To get to the meat of it, pun only slightly intended, sex is painful, uncomfortable, and stressful for my girlfriend. I just want to make her enjoy it more. I'm not comically oversized or anything, just 7" in length by 6.5" in girth, but it's never been particularly good for her. I am her first, which I can imagine could be a contributing factor, but we've been having sex semi-regularly for months now and it's not improving for her at all. If we don't use enough lube she bleeds slightly, and once the condom has even started to flake away at the bottom (the brand is a Durex Avanti Bare. I've got a latex allergy and it's the only brand I've found that has enough stretch to fit me). She's not in pain when I use my hands, but she can only get off from clit stimulation if that's a considerable factor. She enjoys penetration with my fingers and vaginal stimulation in that sense, but she just can't finish from that. Is there something we/I/she can do to make it more enjoyable for her? We've considered the fact that she's just not getting physically used to it because we don't have sex often enough (due to living in different cities), could that be as huge a factor as we think? I just want her to enjoy it; I hate feeling like having sex is a chore and a sacrifice for her.