My girlfriend got an offer to do porn. Can this work?

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  1. Machete69

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    We've been together for 3 years.

    She's a college student and a part time model and a promo girl. She's also a very confident and uninhibited girl. She dresses provocatively and has an extremely high sex drive.

    Anyway, last week she got an offer to do porn for a very reputable big name company. It's an actually offer, not an audition and it's paying $2500 a scene.

    After telling me, she said she told the guy no. However, in our discussion I could tell she wanted to do it.

    Her argument is that it's not cheating cuz it's acting, and she can have sex unemotionally quite easily.

    She also thinks she'd be quite good as she has certain assets that make her have a lot of potential for porn such as,
    1. Looks almost identical to Lela Star but prettier
    2. Has an amazing body
    3. Can take very large penises (mine is an average 5 incher, but he ex was 8 and she said she took the entire ting easily)
    4. She has perky natural 34C breasts
    5. She as a 24" waist.

    I'm not making an argument for her to be in porn, those were just some of the things she mentioned not me.

    The porn agent also told her that if she can take large cocks and have real orgasms on film she'd get up to 50% extra. which is almost $4000.

    I can tell she really wants to do it. She also has plans to disguise her appearance so that she wont be easily recognized.

    How do i feel about this?

    While I do not like other guys putting their large penises in my gf (for obvious f*cking reasons). I can't control her, and if she wants do it, so be it. I don't want her to regret it later on in life.

    But she wants to stay together. I don't know if I can. She tries to justify it by saying it's just a job, blah blah blah.

    I've very comfortable with her getting almost naked infront of photographers as she was a model when we first met.

    This is different storey and while it mite be cool to say my GF is a f*cking hot porn star......I don't know.

    How do porn actors & actresses have real relationships?
     
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    Doesn't sound like it's going to work. If you see one of her films or if your friends comment then what? If you're reticent now then I imagine you'll be even moreso later. It takes a lot of compartmentalizing to accept that sort of thing.
     
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    My advise is to stay out of the porn industry at all costs. It's dangerous. One of my best friends from high school got into the industry, has worked with many big names, became a minor porn star in her own right ... and has finally gotten out of it and given her husband the ultimatum that he has a year to get out, or she's leaving him. (They were both porn stars.)

    Among the many things that are dangerous about a career in porn (drugs and disease among them), is the societal stigma and the fact that it is not a career that can be brushed up under the rug. Footage of you fucking will be around for the rest of your life. Once you go that way, you can never go back.

    And beside that ... the porn industry is going into the toilet thanks in large part to the internet. Why pay when you can download porn for free?
     
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    Incidentally, this is exactly the situation my friend was in. She was a mainstream fashion model; in college she became a stripper to make extra money ... and this led to hardcore porn.

    If your girlfriend has an extremely high sex drive, then just fuck her more often. Don't let her fuck other guys (and girls) on camera. Or, if she wants to ... leave her.
     
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    I'd have to agree. Besides, have her check out some of the big names, they all have blogs and none seem very happy. This will stay with her forever! It's not like she can just do it once, or twice, make money and be done with it. How old is she? What if she wants to be a doctor or a lawyer, or a cop, or a teacher? No way...she should really think about it. Money sounds great...but maybe too good to be true?

    best of luck -- that sounds tough for you, either way you are a loser...I mean if you try to show her how dumb it can be, or if you let her....try showing her those sites...maybe watch some hard, hard core porn with her... you know the ones that completely degrade the woman? That might scare her!
     
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    I know some of the porn film makers who used to be in Boston
    and to my knowledge they don't pay for "real" orgasms.
    This is strictly an acting job good or bad.
    Somebody is yanking her leash.
    She does know that her agent may get a piece of this as will the porn "agent"?
    The real money in porn doesn't go the actors
    it goes to the guys handling distribution darling!
    Believe it!
    C.B.:saevil:
     
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    If it's what she wants to do then I'd say let her do it. You don't want her to look back in 20 years blaming you for her not being popular in this industry. If she fails then at least she can't blame you for it.

    If she does it and it puts your relationship with her at risk, you either accept it or you don't. But this is not your life, it's hers. You either take her for everything she is and everything she wants to be or you don't.

    Also, what if it was the other way around? If you were offered a job you think you'd be really good at and she didn't want you to take it, would you take it anyway?

    But that's just my personal take on things.
     
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    Depends on you and her. I'd guess "No".

    For me, it wouldn't work.
     
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    You can do what you want.... thats just my outlook on the issue. Personally i think it would be a very disrespectful job, you are the super hot lady paired up with not so hot looking guys and you have to act like you are having the time of your life. I wouldnt want to have some guys smelly slimey hot load up my nostrils. And if i were my boyfriend i wouldnt want to be making out with my lady with some other guys sperm swimming around in the crevices of her teeth.

    I also wouldnt count too much on dating eye candy, they tend to not fair too well later in life when they don't look as good as they used to. All that insanity looks a bit more obvious when they arent sporting the hotness.
     
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    I skimmed this thread. For me it wouldn't work and it sounds like it won't work for you either. I'd take the advice of CigarBabe and Praying_Mantis they seem to know what they are talking about on this subject.
     
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    When in doubt, don't.

    You have doubts so urge her not to do porn.

    If she still wants to, ask her to wait 1 year. Once the initial urge to do porn dies down, she will likely forget about the whole idea. If she still really wants to do porn after waiting a year, fine let her find out. The porn industry aint going away in a year. If they want her enough, they can wait.

    Meanwhile, it sounds like you two have some other relationship topics to talk about.
     
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    There's no way I'd have a woman that (post-porn) had taken 100's of cocks. I don't care if it is acting. It seems like there are more reputable ways to make money. If she's so hot, send her to Hef's and then do a reality show.
     
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    Oh dear, if this is really what she told, she's either lying or been lied to.

    I have worked as a (semi-popular) porno actress, I know the field better than I'd like to. They do not, ever, pay that much more a scene for big guys or ''orgasms''. They might if she'd take it up the butt, let a guy piss on her, do scat or work without a condom. But even then, it's almost never that much more. Also, the prices she told you are quite high for a first-timer, so we're probably talking one of the better known companies here. What does that mean? It means most scenes will be featured on an endless number of dvds (most 'new' dvds are just a mix of old and new material, they always use scenes multiple times!), can be freely used on the internet, tv and the like. And that means? It could become a problem with both her studies and jobs in the future. No one models forever, dear.

    In my personal experience, relationships and porn does not mix. You do understand that by her doing this and her greater risk on a std, you are too? Yes, there are tests and condoms, but tests are only meaningfull at the exact time of testing and HIV/AIDS can take some time to even be noticable. Condoms can break, and swallowing is almost always a must. High risks.. Is that really worth those few bucks?

    Porn isn't glamorous, it's nasty. Not, saying it can't be fun, but it's nothing like modeling. The industry is even tougher, there are much more assholes in it. Not every girl can handle it.
     
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    I was meaning to mention that. I've heard the industry pays per scene, but ... that scene can be added to other DVDs/movies without royalties. It's exploitative.
     
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    I'd like to add that sometimes the compensation proffered is bait-and-switch. They tell you one price, but come up with a completely different set of numbers when you actually sit down to sign the contract. Years ago, an acquaintance and I were approached to do some porn. I declined, but she did the scene. They paid her significantly less than they quoted us when we were approached.

    It sounds like your boundaries are in danger of being breached. You need to calmly, and openly discuss and defend your boundaries. If you two can find a compromise, that's great! That's what a relationship is about. If you can't, then perhaps your coupledom has come to its final season.
     
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    if you are unhappy with her doing it and she plans to do it anyway I don't think you two can really stay together
    I mean reguardless of if SHE thinks it's cheating or not if ONE member of the relationship thinks it's cheating then it is
    not saying you should guilt trip her but if your feelings are less important to her then a quick buck hell your relationship aint gonna last

    sorry
     
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    don't forget that to be fair the job would have to involve screwing other women...
     
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    now, if you leave your man you are going to be marrying me right? we are still on for that...
     
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    you are too pretty to be a porn star : o)
     
  20. Machete69

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    Well just giving you guys an update here.

    She just did it.....just came back from a the shoot about an hour ago.

    Don't know how I feel....I part of me is turned on by it and part of me is a little turned off. But I agreed with it so I have to live with my decision.

    She said it was fun and that the guys take Viagra and some desensitizing lotions to make them last forever. She she said she had 4 really good orgasms.

    For Katt who said they don't pay for orgasms or ability to take big cocks, well I don't know if that's true in this case because she is definitely being encouraged to do both and was in fact paid extra because of it.

    She said to her, porn is really fun way to make money and that she obviously has no emotional attachment to the guys.

    So I guess my girlfriend is a future porn star....
     
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