Now if the other partner is okay with the arrangement then that is different, but lets say for arguments sake that one day this same partner who has been sitting on the sidelines while the missus has been going out and about getting her fuck on decides that he wants to indulge in a bit of fun as well, but then has his mate tell him that she wouldn`t be comfortable with that, well I`m sorry but that is bullshit and can in no way be justified imo.
I wouldn't think this was fair of the female, because I think these things need to be discussed beforehand. If he says it's fine for her to play with others, KNOWING that she isn't fine with the same, all is good. However, if she played with others and THEN told him he couldn't, I would be in serious disagreement with her behaviour.
I hope I`ve explained my position clearly here.
You have :smile:.
I don`t quite understand what you mean here, can you elaborate?
To be honest, I think that last post was sort of written in self defense. Basically, I would love to be able to fuck other people. If he actively shares me with them, even better - it results in major arousal (in fact this would be the BEST scenario). But I don't know if I'd feel comfortable with sharing HIM. If I was to agree to an open relationship, I wouldn't want to have to watch it, or hear about minor details. But I would make it VERY clear to him that I felt this way before we began playing outside of the relationship, and if he wasn't in agreement, I wouldn't be playing outside at all.
I think what it comes down to with me is, thoughts and fantasies don't matter so much. What does matter, is actions.
lol, or more likely, shes just a shitty girlfriend and is pretty much taunting how much control she has over him .. the OP needs to do one of 2 things
1. break it off with her and let her do her thing (smart decision)
2. stay with her and let her get plowed by other dudes (whether hes down with it or not, is gonna happen)
Have an open mind. Not everyone is that one dimensional (of course, she could be 'just a shitty girlfriend').