I am too impatient to suffer fools. That is my greatest flaw. On the one hand, I think, "Why should I? The universe takes care of idiots and children. Let morons manage on their own." On the other hand, even the very, very stupid deserve a little bit of patience from me. Deaf people too! Sometimes I mistake them for jackasses, but it turns out we just haven't properly communicated. This too is my fault. I cannot control other people. I want to. Desperately. You would all be perfect if you just gave me my way. I am a petulant child. :biggrin1: Alas, I cannot control any of you, even though I make a very good living controling some people. I have long-since accepted that I generally cannot manipulate the thoughts, actions and reactions of others. With that acceptance comes a certain amount of responsibility. It relieves me of responsibility for everything you do, and simultaneously reinforces that I AM responsible for everything I do. I am, and I alone. So when you say or do something dumb, or participate in asshattery, I am not responsible for that, but I alone act out my response, and for my response I alone am culpable. Me. Diamonds to doughnuts, if you are a dipshit in my presence, I am going to be angry. If you ask a stupid question, I'm going to be very, irate. <tangent> Everyone seems to think there's no such thing as a stupid question. I disagree. A stupid question is a question to which you already have the answers, or a question which is just beneath your intelligence or dignity. </tangent> However, I should not be irate about someone else's stupidity. It has nothing to do with me. That person over there is the jerk. I can just keep on keeping on. Unfortunately, I don't. I have no poker face. So, when Asshat says some asshat thing or other, and I get annoyed, the contempt is instantly (if only for an instant) splashed accross my face. Face to face, I am utterly guileless. I say something sarcastic, snide,or just plain rude. This reaction is immediate, and I'll do it with friend and stranger alike. I have surrounded myself with brilliant and dynamic men and women, so it doesn't happen too often with friends, but sometimes, and sometimes with family. I LOVE these people! I don't want to hurt them. My reaction is my responsibility. And, if it is my responsibility, then it is also my choice, and I can choose differently. I have a relationship with this flaw of mine. It is that of habit, and the addicted. Intolerance of stupidity is the habit, and I am the one who must be broken from it. It's time for a break up. I want a divorce. To that end I wondered what the root might be. I assume the root is arrogance. Does that sound right to any of you? Arrogance? Snobbery? Do I think I'm better than people or actions I perceive as stupid? Is there fear? I am arrogant, and kind of a snob. And I am afraid of stupidity. So I must, if success will be had, become less arrogant, and less afraid. And I must practice first not reacting with anger. Second, I must practice a patient and understanding response. I hope I can do it. It's kind of a lot to ask of myself all at once. What about you? What's your greatest flaw? Are you interested in dumping it? How do you think you should go about that? Maybe, as we get insight into ourselves, we can help each other out. What say you?