i like what porter says... theres more to life than sex! Obviously you can talk all of this through with your husband, and try endlessly to get him to get in shape and change his sexual approach, but if you really love him, i dont see why its necessary to go out and find someone just for sex. i mean really, i know this is a large penis forum and we all enjoy sex, but there is so much more in life. who cares about a good fuck, wouldnt you just rather be happy and content with knowing you have someone in your life looking after you?
If I read correctly I don't think penis exercises are going to help this. It seems his weight and his technique are more the issue.I asked him if he'd want to watch or have a threesome with another guy - he said no.
Thanks for your thoughts Endcapper - I'll have to look up jelquing.
Hi, sent you a private message hon , go for it !! MarcusI've been with my husband for 20 years married for 8 and have only ever been with him. I have only cum once with him during sex all the rest of my cumming experiences are on my own.
I have tried telling him what I want, showing him, talking, toys ...
Last night after sex he told me he wanted me to be happy and that if I found that sexually with someone else he was ok with it as long as I didn't tell him or talk to him about it and as long as I came home to him. He said he just wants me to be happy and that he's not sure he can do that sexually.
He's of average penis size - bigger may be nicer but I just want it hotter stronger and for more time - I've talked to him on all this.
I know it always looks "greener on the other side" and know that cheating is a selfish act.
I have heard all kinds of bewares from friends but since I have very little experience since I've never been with anyone else - I thought I'd ask you guys and gals who have had experience in this arena.
So do I find sexual happiness elsewhere and do the expirimenting that I wish I had done before I got married or should I stay true knowing that we may never have a great or good sex life?
BTW it's not like this is a new change for us sexually - it's never been earth shattering for us even though we are best friends.
i think he's being a lazy, selfish arse!
this isn't him thinking it would be fun to spice things up.
this is him being too lazy & selfish to work on being healthy and giving you the sex you need, and it's a complete cop out to tell you to go find it elsewhere...he doesn't want you to cheat. that's why he doesn't want to know. but it's the easy option for him...you'll quit expecting him to work at satisfying you. then he can have as little sex as he likes, in the least giving way, without feeling an obligation to make it work for you.
how do i know this? because it's exactly the same shit i pull for pretty much the same reason! i don't care that much and i can't be bothered to keep making the effort. difference is, i'm honest that i'm a selfish bitch.
you want some decent loving? go out and get it.
but i'll put money on you finding someone more giving, start resenting mr too-fat-to-shag and leave his arse for someone who makes you feel like a goddess!
...do i lack tact?
I think it really comes down to my feelings and what I want in my life - I guess I just don't know since I have never been with or really dated anyone else.
right on the money there well saidOpening a relationship depends on an absolute trust in maintaining what works and letting go of what doesn't. Set limits that are mutually agreeable and do not cross those lines, ever, no matter what.
Good luck.