Do Kegle exercises to tighten your vaginal muscles; have your husband try to enlarge his penis with various methods - by the way, he appears to have good girth - his penis doesn't look small to me (I had one, 4 1/2" - couldn't keep it in but too prudish to do anything about it), try new positions for more depth, AND, concentrate on the FULL aspect of marital sex, which is supposed to be a UNION, a way of expressing your LOVE together - it's not all about penetration. I also agree that the outside of the vagina does not = the inside - you have to care enough to try different things to enhance your relationship and make it stronger.