Fredneck1951
Legendary Member
Jeanrose, any time you pursue a non-standard lifestyle you put stress on yourself, your spouse, your children, your extended family, your neighbors, etc. That means you have to be capable of withstanding all that stress. Since you've already embarked on this path, I hope you've got the means to deal with it, but since you're posting here on a public forum my guess is things are confused and getting more so. The first thing that gets thrown overboard, no surprise, is the niceties, the small things, the back rub, the foot massage, the kind words between two people, the things you're saying you're missing. You're developing some big appetites, sounds like he's developing an increasingly fetishistic approach to sex and whoa were did the love go?
From my own experience, back before you were born (if that's the 1978 reference in your handle), my wife and I discussed pursuing a similar lifestyle to the one you're into now. We didn't do it. I have to admit that for a while I thought I was missing something, maybe she thought she was missing something. Thirty years later, we both realize that we didn't miss anything at all.
I wish you courage and strength as you explore your life. If you and your husband are still together thirty years from now, I will be impressed.
From my own experience, back before you were born (if that's the 1978 reference in your handle), my wife and I discussed pursuing a similar lifestyle to the one you're into now. We didn't do it. I have to admit that for a while I thought I was missing something, maybe she thought she was missing something. Thirty years later, we both realize that we didn't miss anything at all.
I wish you courage and strength as you explore your life. If you and your husband are still together thirty years from now, I will be impressed.