My Last Thread Ever

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by Paul Vincent, Dec 11, 2006.

  1. Paul Vincent

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    Here's the basics:

    My ex 'found' me on a Myspace-like site. My (ex) girlfriend was also on it. She started telling my gf lies and painting me as a cheater and a nasty piece of work who only uses girls for sex. I hope there are SOME here that don't believe that.

    Anyway that caused some roughness in our road. Then, Sunday (I stayed over at my girlfriend's on Saturday) was the second worst day of my life. We woke up, she didn't want to be touched or kissed as usual (usual for morning afters anyway) and was very distant. So I was distant and wasn't very happy. I left and waited for an hour for a train. No train. Waited another half hour in the freezing cold for a bus. Eventually got home.

    She said she never wanted to see me again. Then later she said she was still in love with her ex. Her ex always texts her and got her flowers and all sorts for her birthday.

    I, because I really cared about this girl more than I've cared about anyone else (isn't that always the case?) was very hurt by this and thought that was the end. In a rage(ing) depression I started talking to my ex again. I don't fancy her or anything so I just started talking about sex and stupid horny things...which repulsed me at the time and repulse me even more now.

    Tonight, my ex said she didn't mean it when she said she loved her ex and wanted to see me etc etc. I lit up on the inside. But then my (other, evil) ex told her about last night. And so that's it now. I know what I did was foolish and there was no meaning or sense in it...but am I really a bad person after she made me think it was over?

    I'm really sad now, because I really cared and still care about my (most recent) ex. I hate my other ex.

    I'm not coming back here either (at least for a LONG time), this site was an issue in the breakup and I need to sort my life out tbh. Just really to say bye, and soften the blow...I thought I was a good person and I know I was a stupid person but sometimes I'm so weak...

    Bye everyone. Jeff Black, Pecker, Mercurial, DudePiston, et al.

    :frown:
     
  2. LeeEJ

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    I'm really trying to not sound like I'm taking this too lightly, but...

    This is temporary. We've been there, done that, as they say. Maybe there will be more to your story, maybe this "book" is finished and you'll start another one... who knows.

    Really... who knows? Nobody knows.

    You can't dwell on the past, nor can you predict the future; either one will just stress you out. Stay healthy, stay sane. You'll feel better before you know it.
     
  3. Principessa

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    "She said she never wanted to see me again. Then later she said she was still in love with her ex. Her ex always texts her and got her flowers and all sorts for her birthday."


    Did you ever watch the US sitcom Friends? Cause it sounds like you were on a break, actually a breakup. Looking for solace in the bed of an ex-lover is not uncommon.

    I don't know that telling her was evil so much as foolhardy. I think when you really care about someone (as you say you did for her), you want to be totally open and truthful at all times. It isn't even something which you think about.

    Then again what do I know I'm a singleton.
     
  4. OmahaBeef

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    Your not evil. Your ex is. The new chick pulled the trigger, but blames YOU for patching your wound?

    Perhaps a 3-way is in order to diplomatically resolve this problem? (Kidding).

    The best way to get over a woman, is to get under one...

    Don't bail out on us bro...

    ...OB
     
  5. Pecker

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    Alas, poor Paul! I knew him, Horatio...
     
  6. Paul Vincent

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    Okay!

    So now it emerges (evil ex emails me):

    There's something I should know. This bitch ex, who was always on and off, hot and cold went to fucking IRELAND for her birthday seeing her bastard ex. And slept with him. Which I pretty much thought was what had happened. She said she was in Italy seeing some girl.

    So after that, she goes mad at me for having this one moment of weakness!? I fucking hate her. I hate all my ex's but this one...I've never had a happy moment with her and she's been constantly lying. Fuck her.

    This is my last post (and thread) for awhile. Things need to be sorted.

    Peace and love!

    Oh and bye Gisella :smile: you a cool lady. Merry Christmas y'all.
     
  7. Mr. Snakey

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    Good luck to you.........
     
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    "Yorick! Yorick! Pecker how many times to we have to go over these Hamlet lines?"

    Aside to Paul Vincent:

    From your perspective do what you gotta do. From my perspective - don't go. This place needs more regular leaded testosterone.:smile:
     
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    For the love of God, Paul!

    I don't even know you but it is obvious these %#&%$* women have brought you intense suffering.

    Just a brief observation from someone who has only read your posts for a few weeks: You belong here.

    Don't let the nagging complaints of controlling, unhappy women dictate where you can and can not be.

    That said, take care of yourself, and have a merry Christmas.
     
  10. Matthew

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    Gosh, I wonder what that's supposed to mean. :rolleyes:
     
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    Paul-when the drama is over, we'll be waiting for you. Do what you need to do. Don't be a stranger.

    :hug:
     
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    Paul--

    There isn't anything wrong with you. What do "The League of Ex--Tawdrinarily Gentricunts" have to do you with leaving LPSG? Fuck them bitches.

    You're young. Young folk aren't committment oriented. Anyway, you ought to sue your ex for slander and harrassment. Date a bunch of girls. Keep them on a revolving basis. You keep putting all your attention on one girl and that one girl always keeps on fucking you over. That's her "issues" not yours, guy.
     
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    I normally stay out of these threads, but you have my sympathy. And since I'm already here, you have my unsolicited* advice, too:

    Stop listening to these two girls. They're playing you like a tennis ball, and I wouldnt believe anything either one says.

    You're young. As you get older, you'll be able to spot the kind of bullshit you've been subjected to, a mile away. Or possibly, you still won't be able to spot it, but your paramours will mature to the point where they stop inflicting it on you.








    * The least desirable and most frequently encountered advice out there.
     
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    Oh, Paul.

    I am sorry to hear you are out.

    I always said those ladies wrecked you, man. I mean, you have really really bad luck with them.

    Give it time, buddy. Take all the time you need. I should be here when you get back.:rolleyes:
     
  15. Pecker

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    Paul, you're chief problem is that you fall in love with every woman you meet. The next one is right around the corner.

    We're here for you. Don't go far, or for too long.
     
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    I always liked you, Paul. I hope it's a brief absence. Cheer up! Happy holidays!
     
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    Paul,

    if you happen to come back on remember you owe me a chat and a look at the puppy. Sweetheart, you are the sensitive man that women of the Baby boom hoped to raise... It may sound crass but it will look better down the road...
     
  18. Lito

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    Ouch. Something similar happened to me not long ago. In fact, it was my 1st thread here, I believe (although I thought I was guilty at the time).

    All in all, take your time, sort things out. And do come back... this is a fun place, after all :D
     
  19. OKFarmer

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    Paul,

    Having been cheated on myself, I can understand how you feel. Some people will use anything you enjoy against you in an arguement. If you decide to log out for a while, understandable. However, this is a support group and we're here when you need to return. As already stated, there are plenty of good women out there. Its easy to overlook someone's shortcomings when you fall in love. Take it easy and be good to yourself; eventually someone else will be too.
     
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    Paul, I hope that you stay with us. At least here you know that the people you're communicating with have no vested interest in trying to control you.
    If anything this place is a good place to be at a time like this so that you can vent your spleen and get feedback from neutral parties.

    Both of these girls sound like they are completely toxic for you. Even if either of them really do care for you, they way that they do so is very, very unhealthy. Get as far away from them as you can. I hope you manage to get off the emotional rollercoaster you've been on and get yourself some equilibrium.

    We'll miss you while you're gone. Here's hoping it's a short absence.
     
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