This will be my first and last thread I will post here. I am the girl who was with him for nearly a year but like they say there are 2 sides to every story. Here is the story on my side: -
When I first got with Paul, I adored him. He was both my best friend and lover. But eventually I started seeing flaws and he started irritating me. At first this was because he was doing nothing with his life. He didn't work, had no money and was too lazy to go out and get a job. Most women want a man who does something for a living. I have always worked and was working all the time I was with him. I am also working hard for a degree. He never have the money to take me out (his most recent ex agrees with me there). Every other guy I've dated have actually paid for a drink at least.
I used to try encourage him to get a job but he'd just shrug it off and make excuses. He'd say he will, etc. Every bit of advice I tried to give the guy would go down badly. I'm a qualified mentor so its my job to give advice. He'd think I was insulting him and shouting at him. He thought I'd be moody. I must admit, I did get moody because it irritated me, I was fed up of giving him advice and him not using it. I did start shouting.
We went through a stage of breaking up and getting back together. He was the one who used to always come back to me. I spilt up with him in April, didn't see him for 2 months then convinced me to get back with him. I was becoming more and more irritated. Even little things would annoy me about him, like not making his bed, a messy room, etc. Also he was very young mentally. A friend of mine said he seemed to act 16 mentally. He wouldn't talk to my friends unless I prompted him. He told me he was introverted and shy but that wasn't the problem. At least he could have made an effort with them.
Eventually he was becoming an habit so the relationship had become unhealthy anyway. If we'd stuck together the sex would have been all that attached us. We grew apart. I was interested in completely different things.
I was with him until October in that time he met his most recent ex WHILE I was still with him. He denys this and says we were not together. He was planning on meeting her for sex while I was with him and was going to keep me as backup. This really hurt so I had to cut contact with him completely. A week later he met her and had UNPROTECTED sex on the 1st night. In my opinion you wait at least a month before sleeping with someone. She has told me she only slept with him because her ex had just cheated on her. She wanted to get back at her ex. She still loves him but he hurt her. I turned bitter about the situation. Basically I loved the guy (no more) and he really hurt me. He has no feelings. I suffered depression for about 4 weeks. I grew to hate him for what he'd done to me.
I found his recent ex online and started talking to her. She needed to know what he was capable of before she got too attached so I let her know. She didn't deserve to go through the pain I went though. She really appreciated this but had also dumped him a week before. He irritated her in everyway. In that time she went back to the man she loves in Ireland. I just finalized her opinion on Paul.
The other night he started talking to me (like he said). This messed with my head even though I would never take him back. Basically he was talking absolute filth to me, it was horrible. Why bother though? Seems to me that he is a guy who can't stand not having a woman so loves to mess with their heads.
I hope myside of the story is clear. Take care everyone.
When I first got with Paul, I adored him. He was both my best friend and lover. But eventually I started seeing flaws and he started irritating me. At first this was because he was doing nothing with his life. He didn't work, had no money and was too lazy to go out and get a job. Most women want a man who does something for a living. I have always worked and was working all the time I was with him. I am also working hard for a degree. He never have the money to take me out (his most recent ex agrees with me there). Every other guy I've dated have actually paid for a drink at least.
I used to try encourage him to get a job but he'd just shrug it off and make excuses. He'd say he will, etc. Every bit of advice I tried to give the guy would go down badly. I'm a qualified mentor so its my job to give advice. He'd think I was insulting him and shouting at him. He thought I'd be moody. I must admit, I did get moody because it irritated me, I was fed up of giving him advice and him not using it. I did start shouting.
We went through a stage of breaking up and getting back together. He was the one who used to always come back to me. I spilt up with him in April, didn't see him for 2 months then convinced me to get back with him. I was becoming more and more irritated. Even little things would annoy me about him, like not making his bed, a messy room, etc. Also he was very young mentally. A friend of mine said he seemed to act 16 mentally. He wouldn't talk to my friends unless I prompted him. He told me he was introverted and shy but that wasn't the problem. At least he could have made an effort with them.
Eventually he was becoming an habit so the relationship had become unhealthy anyway. If we'd stuck together the sex would have been all that attached us. We grew apart. I was interested in completely different things.
I was with him until October in that time he met his most recent ex WHILE I was still with him. He denys this and says we were not together. He was planning on meeting her for sex while I was with him and was going to keep me as backup. This really hurt so I had to cut contact with him completely. A week later he met her and had UNPROTECTED sex on the 1st night. In my opinion you wait at least a month before sleeping with someone. She has told me she only slept with him because her ex had just cheated on her. She wanted to get back at her ex. She still loves him but he hurt her. I turned bitter about the situation. Basically I loved the guy (no more) and he really hurt me. He has no feelings. I suffered depression for about 4 weeks. I grew to hate him for what he'd done to me.
I found his recent ex online and started talking to her. She needed to know what he was capable of before she got too attached so I let her know. She didn't deserve to go through the pain I went though. She really appreciated this but had also dumped him a week before. He irritated her in everyway. In that time she went back to the man she loves in Ireland. I just finalized her opinion on Paul.
The other night he started talking to me (like he said). This messed with my head even though I would never take him back. Basically he was talking absolute filth to me, it was horrible. Why bother though? Seems to me that he is a guy who can't stand not having a woman so loves to mess with their heads.
I hope myside of the story is clear. Take care everyone.