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This will be my first and last thread I will post here. I am the girl who was with him for nearly a year but like they say there are 2 sides to every story. Here is the story on my side: -

When I first got with Paul, I adored him. He was both my best friend and lover. But eventually I started seeing flaws and he started irritating me. At first this was because he was doing nothing with his life. He didn't work, had no money and was too lazy to go out and get a job. Most women want a man who does something for a living. I have always worked and was working all the time I was with him. I am also working hard for a degree. He never have the money to take me out (his most recent ex agrees with me there). Every other guy I've dated have actually paid for a drink at least.
I used to try encourage him to get a job but he'd just shrug it off and make excuses. He'd say he will, etc. Every bit of advice I tried to give the guy would go down badly. I'm a qualified mentor so its my job to give advice. He'd think I was insulting him and shouting at him. He thought I'd be moody. I must admit, I did get moody because it irritated me, I was fed up of giving him advice and him not using it. I did start shouting.

We went through a stage of breaking up and getting back together. He was the one who used to always come back to me. I spilt up with him in April, didn't see him for 2 months then convinced me to get back with him. I was becoming more and more irritated. Even little things would annoy me about him, like not making his bed, a messy room, etc. Also he was very young mentally. A friend of mine said he seemed to act 16 mentally. He wouldn't talk to my friends unless I prompted him. He told me he was introverted and shy but that wasn't the problem. At least he could have made an effort with them.

Eventually he was becoming an habit so the relationship had become unhealthy anyway. If we'd stuck together the sex would have been all that attached us. We grew apart. I was interested in completely different things.

I was with him until October in that time he met his most recent ex WHILE I was still with him. He denys this and says we were not together. He was planning on meeting her for sex while I was with him and was going to keep me as backup. This really hurt so I had to cut contact with him completely. A week later he met her and had UNPROTECTED sex on the 1st night. In my opinion you wait at least a month before sleeping with someone. She has told me she only slept with him because her ex had just cheated on her. She wanted to get back at her ex. She still loves him but he hurt her. I turned bitter about the situation. Basically I loved the guy (no more) and he really hurt me. He has no feelings. I suffered depression for about 4 weeks. I grew to hate him for what he'd done to me.

I found his recent ex online and started talking to her. She needed to know what he was capable of before she got too attached so I let her know. She didn't deserve to go through the pain I went though. She really appreciated this but had also dumped him a week before. He irritated her in everyway. In that time she went back to the man she loves in Ireland. I just finalized her opinion on Paul.

The other night he started talking to me (like he said). This messed with my head even though I would never take him back. Basically he was talking absolute filth to me, it was horrible. Why bother though? Seems to me that he is a guy who can't stand not having a woman so loves to mess with their heads.

I hope myside of the story is clear. Take care everyone.
 

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This will be my first and last thread I will post here. I am the girl who was with him for nearly a year but like they say there are 2 sides to every story. Here is the story on my side: -

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What are you going to do, follow the guy around for the rest of his life and tell his newest GF to read this post you just made? Why would you do that? He may well be the complete ass you make him out to be, who knows, but you, as a mentor, should know to just move on with your life lesson learned. :smile:
 

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I found his recent ex online and started talking to her. She needed to know what he was capable of before she got too attached so I let her know. She didn't deserve to go through the pain I went though.

I hope myside of the story is clear. Take care everyone.

So you deliberatley went looking for his ex?

Why was that any of your business?
 

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The events you described are woeful, but to leave a place where you are welcome and appreciated will probably do little to help your situation. Do what you think you need to do and know that you will always be welcome when you return.

(Aside to K :notworthy: )
 

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It was on-and-off with -kiss- and we hadn't been together for months. And she had already slept with someone else herself. I didn't cheat because in my eyes we weren't together.

Anyway, she finds me anywhere on the internet and checks up on me and now has started talking to then-current girlfriends and interfering.

And this morning the most recent ex said she only said she went to Ireland and slept with her ex to see if evil ex would tell me (and show she just wanted to split us up/keep us apart/upset me).

So its all fucked up. I'm going now. Even if I made another account SHE would find me.

Anyway...you see what I used to be up against. This -kiss- and my other ex (saying she was in Ireland, still in love with her ex etc)...but that's it now.

Bye everyone!
 

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Paul, do what you need to do, man. There's no problem with taking a break from this site -- but I tend to doubt this is the problem in your relationship drama.

-kiss- suddenly showing up reminds me of DoubleMeatWhopper's brother announcing his death.
 

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I won't be getting involved anymore. If I look at it, I won't gain anything from this so it is a waste of time. The guy is messed up enough (was before I met him) and this will make it worse. But at least you and he can see what he put me through. Back to studying for my degree...since I've finished with him I'm averaging at high 2.1 and 1st.

I think we have both experienced enough pain but why did he get in touch with me again, the other night?

About the other guy, I slept with him when me and Paul were in a stage not together. I didn't want to sleep with this guy but I was drunk and he pressured me. Now I just see it has a past experience and mistake. You learn from mistakes....
 

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She keeps saying she's done with him. She keeps coming here and posting/checking on him. :confused:

Leave him alone already. Sheesh
 

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Paul,

Wow!
The anguish you've suffered becomes more and more clear with this head trip not only tracing you to the site but posting in your thread. I really feel for you. I've already reported her for trolling ( I've never seen a clearer case of it)and encourage you and other readers of this thread to do the same. In the meantime I would suggest putting her on ignore here and in the real world. Same for the recent ex. Nobody needs this kind of drama in their lives. Make it a permanent ban for both of them.
 

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Jeff, I'm glad you mentioned that this person's changed his nick here several times. It confused me that he mentioned MY name in his original post.....I didn't even know the guy as "Paul Vincent." :) This is perhaps the most disturbing of all. That he felt the need to change usernames here. This -kiss- person seems to be stalking him and if so, isn't that illegal? I don't blame him for leaving. And I wouldn't blame him for reporting her if she doesn't leave him, and his future- or ex- girlfriends - alone.
 

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Excuse me....but does anyone see the pain I have suffered in all this? I have probably suffered more then Paul. What is it with you people, have you read my post?

I am suffering depression if thats any interest.

If you saw the situation in real life, you would see how bad he is for yourself. Plus any guy who posts pictures of his manhood online is not worth it. Paul is the only guy I personally know who does that and all my male friends think it is weird. He didn't understand when I was with him, why I didn't want him doing it. Ask any woman and I'm sure she'll explain it to you Paul.

Anyway no need to warn me or ban me or anything cos I won't be viewing this forum again. Goodbye Paul.
 

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This will be my first and last thread I will post here. I am the girl who was with him for nearly a year but like they say there are 2 sides to every story. Here is the story on my side: -

Where do I even begin? You need to let go! Malcolm X said that "Only those who have already experienced a revolution within themselves can reach out effectively to help others." and he's right.

You're a mentor? Great! Want to be a good mentor? Seek counseling. I'm serious, and not being mean, I promise. You do need help letting go. You speak the truth when you talk about your relationship being unhealthy. But you are wallowing in the shit, girl. And you need to stop.

It's your job to give out advice? Leave it in the office, _kiss_, leave it in the office.

You must be very young, or very inexperienced: You have much to learn about men, and about life.

I'll give you a hint- none wants unsolicited advice.

Further, if the situation truly was anything remotely similar to the one you describe, you never had a boyfriend, you had a project. "Oh, he'd be perfect 'if only'..." If a few months in, his flaws irritated you to the point you say they did, then you didn't love him, never loved him. You loved his potential, your idealized version of him.

You are poisoning yourself and him.

Someone had to show the new girlfriend who Paul was, and what she was capable of? Puuhleese! What is he? A Supervillain? Well, thank you, Captain-shagging-Planet. She's a hero!

Sorry. I'm starting to get carried away.

Listen. It's really sad to complain to a man's friends after you break up. They never have any respect for you. And it's the most pathetic existence I can think of to make it your life's mission to make sure he never has another girlfriend. And let's be honest. That's what it's all about.

He's lucky to have lost you. Blessed. You're a curse. To him, to her, and to yourself.
 

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Excuse me....but does anyone see the pain I have suffered in all this? I have probably suffered more then Paul. What is it with you people, have you read my post?

I am suffering depression if thats any interest.

To "Kiss":

I'm sorry to say this, but you are a living example of why guys turn bitter against women.

In your initial post, you do nothing but complain about everything he does and is. I'm sure he was like that when you got with him. If you hated everything about him, why get with him in the first place?

Men are not home-improvement projects. I can imagine how he must have felt...it's obvious he fell very hard for you and you did nothing but try to change him. We all need unconditional acceptance. Who gives a shit if he works or doesn't work; if he takes you out or doesn't take you out?

If you wanted a guy who worked and spent money taking you out, why didn't you just find one in the first place?

It sucks that you're depressed, but blaming him is just demented. And following him around the internet is absolutely pathological.

Get a life.

To Paul:

I hope you don't get too permanently jaded from the self-centeredness and histrionics of these women.

Believe me -- we are not all like them.

Hugs --- Chrysalis
 

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Yes, I read your post. I'm sorry that you weren't happy with him. However the majority of your pain is from your need to keep digging in the wound time and time again. Leave it alone, leave Paul alone, leave his future girlfriends alone and finally leave here!

If you're out of his life as you say, get the fuck out of his life and stay out.
Every person on this planet has relationship issues and at least one relationship that didn't work out. Deal with it.

From what I've read so far it sounds like the most recent ex was a lying bipolar slut. From what I've SEEN of you is a self important drama queen who didn't get to manipulate the man she wanted into the mold of her choice. He didn't buy you drinks? Tough titties. I wouldn't think that would bother a woman as emancipated and evolved as you claim to be.

I have to wonder just how much time you invested tracking down his recent gf online. Even if it were as simple as googling "Paul's gf" it shows that your synapses aren't firing in perfect harmony that you would look at all. I think you're more than a little twisted.

By being in cahoots with his gf behind his back you have lost any chance for sympathy here. Take your "poor me" act to the campus pub, maybe some self-improving college bloke will buy you a drink while you tell it.
 

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Excuse me....but does anyone see the pain I have suffered in all this? I have probably suffered more then Paul. What is it with you people, have you read my post?

I am suffering depression if thats any interest.

It is of interest, yes. As I said above, you shouuld seek professional help. For your sake. For your clients' sakes. Now. Like shut off the computer, go to your office, get a referral. I'm serious, and not trying to hurt you when I say that. I know you don't think you're crazy, but crazy people are the last ones to know, anyway.

If you saw the situation in real life, you would see how bad he is for yourself. Plus any guy who posts pictures of his manhood online is not worth it. Paul is the only guy I personally know who does that and all my male friends think it is weird. He didn't understand when I was with him, why I didn't want him doing it. Ask any woman and I'm sure she'll explain it to you Paul.

You're barking up the wrong tree here. A lot of the guys here do it, so do some of the women (though not all of the guys, or women) and all of us just think you're a repressed prude. And maybe your male friends really agree with you, and maybe they all want to fuck you and will tell you anything. Or maybe they all know you're batshit nuts and will tell you anything. *shrug* We don't know. But you must be mad, coming to a site with a gallery specifically for the purpose of comparing genetalia, experiencing freedom, and expressing lust, and telling us Paul is weird for participating. I'm sorry, -kiss_, but seventy-thousand members can't be wrong, right?

Anyway no need to warn me or ban me or anything cos I won't be viewing this forum again. Goodbye Paul.
I'm sure Paul has heard that bullshit before.

I hope you get help. And if you don't, I hope the state forces you to get help.
 

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Depression for a whole 4 weeks, oh how my heart bleeds for you :rolleyes:

You might want to remember that this has on the whole fuck all to do with who suffered what and more to do with the fact that someone here made a post about basically being stalked, and then you go arriving proving the point, you're making yourself look like a joke.

As for your comment about "Ask any woman" why, hello there, I happen to be a woman, and if he's got something he's proud of, and he's on a site where its not only permitted but encouraged, then why the hell shouldn't he show it off?

I mean any normal woman, who doesn't have the need to post of a filthy site like this. Sure I might be a prude, but I don't care because I have self-respect. I don't have the need to post pictures of my genetalia online. Its dirty and replusive.

A mans penis stays in the bedroom in my eyes and in his pants when hes out. It is something that should be shared between a couple ONLY. Not half the world online.
 

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As for your comment about "Ask any woman" why, hello there, I happen to be a woman, and if he's got something he's proud of, and he's on a site where its not only permitted but encouraged, then why the hell shouldn't he show it off?

Why? Because he's with a controlling, puritanical, maniacal, (I better quit while I'm ahead)