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Many of you have probably read my "is this a bad idea thread" about facebook messaging a girl I went to h.s with. Anyway I recently was contacted by some guys I went to h.s with and we were texting each other and making plans to go out to bars and what not, but they seemed to have lost interest and have not responded to my texts for the past week. I really feel like a socially hopeless individual right now because I literally have no one, have no prospects of meeting anyone, had to drop out of school and have no idea what I want to do with my life. I really am confused at this point and feel like god is playing some cruel joke on me to give me false hope than rip it away. I am not looking for pity, I am just looking for advice.

Here is the link to my original thread
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You are 23, 6'4, and have a really nice cock. Yes, the 6'4 can be intimidating to some women. You have so much to offer. If you don't go to school fulltime, why not take one class at a time? There are social events at the school all the time. I don't wish I was your age again, but sometimes there is not enough hours in the day for me. Church is also a good place to get involved and meet people. I know, some will say you don't go to church to meet people. The number 1 objective I learned is that the man and woman must first have the opportunity to meet. So that means, getting out there and meeting the women. You have two and possibly three places to meet women in the course of your day. Work, school, and if you add church that makes three. If there are no women at the first church you go to, visit a number of them. Yeah, I know I am one to give advice about meeting women. I have a number of women friends through school and work. It can be done. My drawback which isn't an issue at all is that I am a little older than the ones I associate with. It seems women my age are looking for something in particular or have their ideas about things and they can come to their conclusions quickly. Good luck, I know the old clique says to have a friend, be a friend. It is true.
 

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Plenty of time for you :) your only 24...... just get out, dont be pushy, nice guys do ok, honest...

I see your in Boston, let me take the time to send my thoughts to those that were caught up in that terrible situation.
 

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I am 23 actually.

There is a young man who works for my father's taxi business in Boston and he had a friend who had 8 of her friends injured in the bombings.




Plenty of time for you :) your only 24...... just get out, dont be pushy, nice guys do ok, honest...

I see your in Boston, let me take the time to send my thoughts to those that were caught up in that terrible situation.
 

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Hey there, glad you are okay with all that happened in Boston.

I briefly read your other thread and do not know if you contacted that girl from high school. I personally have no interest in talking to anyone from high school and I really would not recommend it. If you are from a small town outside of Boston that everyone knows and dates each other, avoid them all. One thing I have learned from New Yorkers is that many of them did not fit in with their small towns and moved to the city. I am not suggesting that you move but suggest you need to make connections outside of that group. You said you are into fitness, then find a meetup group in Boston or find a support group regarding your heart condition. Your condition sounds to be very rare for someone your age. Just make a point of meeting new people outside of your current circle.

If you are interested in this business of flipping houses maybe you can get your real estate license and continue to learn about construction and renovating homes. It would all come in handy in that business.

As to approaching women my philosophy is simple. The man has to approach the women and don't worry if she rejects you. The worst a woman can say is no but she may surprise you and say yes. Men don't realize they hold all the cards. There are more men than women and in our society they are the ones who must approach the women. Yes it is lame in this day in age but it still exists. So if you see a woman that you find attractive go up to her and find a way to break the ice because there are plenty of women out there that want a good man.

Also, it is good that life sucks because it motivates you to do something to make it better.
 

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Yeah I didn't message her as I thought it was kind of a bad idea and would look lame. I am not from a small town, like 30k people, but its not a city lol.



Hey there, glad you are okay with all that happened in Boston.

I briefly read your other thread and do not know if you contacted that girl from high school. I personally have no interest in talking to anyone from high school and I really would not recommend it. If you are from a small town outside of Boston that everyone knows and dates each other, avoid them all. One thing I have learned from New Yorkers is that many of them did not fit in with their small towns and moved to the city. I am not suggesting that you move but suggest you need to make connections outside of that group. You said you are into fitness, then find a meetup group in Boston or find a support group regarding your heart condition. Your condition sounds to be very rare for someone your age. Just make a point of meeting new people outside of your current circle.

If you are interested in this business of flipping houses maybe you can get your real estate license and continue to learn about construction and renovating homes. It would all come in handy in that business.

As to approaching women my philosophy is simple. The man has to approach the women and don't worry if she rejects you. The worst a woman can say is no but she may surprise you and say yes. Men don't realize they hold all the cards. There are more men than women and in our society they are the ones who must approach the women. Yes it is lame in this day in age but it still exists. So if you see a woman that you find attractive go up to her and find a way to break the ice because there are plenty of women out there that want a good man.

Also, it is good that life sucks because it motivates you to do something to make it better.
 

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I can relate. I'm 24 and am also (extremely) introverted. I'm not very social, and am a huge nerd, but don't 'look' like one. I had a set of HS friends with whom I grew up with, but also felt out of place. I was always felt awkward. A lot of the times I call or text them wouldn't get an immediate response and think they'd ignore me, when we had plans that would get cancelled often as well. I eventually moved on from them and out grew them. We really had nothing in common and me interacting with them was just trying to jam a square peg through a round hole.

I did eventually go out to bars and tried the typical NYC nightlife for a twenty-something year old and frankly didn't like it. Just not for me. You'll eventually go out and may find it's not for you as well.

Same goes for girls. I had trouble asking girls out despite getting plenty, plenty of attention from them. I eventually built up the confidence and just started asking girls out and rarely get turned down. And when I did, fuck it. Who cares.
 
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There is a place near patriots stadium, tobi keiths, and a lot of people go there and I want to go but it would be on my own. Want to go sometime soon and go lone wolf but I don't know lol.


Hey there, glad you are okay with all that happened in Boston.

I briefly read your other thread and do not know if you contacted that girl from high school. I personally have no interest in talking to anyone from high school and I really would not recommend it. If you are from a small town outside of Boston that everyone knows and dates each other, avoid them all. One thing I have learned from New Yorkers is that many of them did not fit in with their small towns and moved to the city. I am not suggesting that you move but suggest you need to make connections outside of that group. You said you are into fitness, then find a meetup group in Boston or find a support group regarding your heart condition. Your condition sounds to be very rare for someone your age. Just make a point of meeting new people outside of your current circle.

If you are interested in this business of flipping houses maybe you can get your real estate license and continue to learn about construction and renovating homes. It would all come in handy in that business.

As to approaching women my philosophy is simple. The man has to approach the women and don't worry if she rejects you. The worst a woman can say is no but she may surprise you and say yes. Men don't realize they hold all the cards. There are more men than women and in our society they are the ones who must approach the women. Yes it is lame in this day in age but it still exists. So if you see a woman that you find attractive go up to her and find a way to break the ice because there are plenty of women out there that want a good man.

Also, it is good that life sucks because it motivates you to do something to make it better.
 

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Get your own shit together.

Why did you drop out of school? Was that High School or College?
Have you any idea what career you would like to pursue?

The most important thing you can do, at your age, is to determine what it is you would like to do with your life, and then ask yourself, 'okay, what's one thing I can do, THIS WEEK, that will take me even ONE SMALL STEP CLOSER to that goal?'

For example... if you wanted to be in television... it would be better to take a job sweeping a local news stations floor, than to take a higher paying job working the door at some club or any other totally unrelated job. Working at the Station you are at least meeting people In that industry.


As to your social life... if you are not in school, then your next most likely prospect for long term friendships is your job... so, again, the more effort you put into your career, at this age, the more likely you are to find like minded people with which to hang.

And as to romance... women are attracted to men who exhibit self confidence.
Some men are masters at faking it... others have it without any actual thing about themselves over which to feel confident ( which is actually called arrogance )

But most of us will not attain nor exhibit self confidence until we start experiencing some success or at least are seen by our peers as COMPETENT at something, anything.

If there is an area in your life in which you feel competent, then you will do best to play that up in a setting in which women will see that in you... for example... if your a Star Wars nerd who i confident in your mastery of everything Star Warsish, then got to sci fi conventions and comic-cons. Your best bet is a needy girl who thinks nerdy boys are cute.

If you happen to be a good dancer... that is a rare skill among men, go to places where women want to dance... your self confidence in your dancing will make them say yes when you ask them.

If you are a fitness freak... then you might want to try for a job teaching a fitness class to women and men. Women at the gym are going to find a really fit, and knowledgable trainer attractive... especially if he is a little shy and not so full of himself as those men who are more concerned with their appearance than they are with anything else ( Mirror hogging Gym Rat behavior is seen by women as a FEMININE trait... i.e., not really manly )



And if you don't HAVE any area in which you feel self confident, then, again, your best bet is to find something in life about which you feel passionate and get yourself involved in it, be that your career or your hobby.

getting your own life on track, having some small measure of success and direction will result in your exuding a competency and comfort with yourself that will make others want to be around you, to spend time with you.

Lose yourself in something you love, and love will find you.
 

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There is a place near patriots stadium, tobi keiths, and a lot of people go there and I want to go but it would be on my own. Want to go sometime soon and go lone wolf but I don't know lol.

Is it a sports bar? Just go, sit your ass on a bar stool and watch a game. The easiest way to meet a girl is to buy her a drink. She will at the very least feel obligated to talk to you for a couple of minutes. Remember girls go to bars to meet guys too. That is the objective. You are tall, cute with a hot body they will be all over you. Be prepared and bring condoms haha.
 

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I think a lot of people have or are going through something very similar, it's just how they hide it.

You go to a gym? Anyone there male or female you could just get talking to and maybe meet up with?

What do you like to do?
Do you want to meet a girl for something casual or something else - having this in mind and being clear about what you want from the start will be a good thing - especially in a small town.

Spot a girl you like, smile and say hi, she's either going to smile back or turn you down. Never know if you don't try
 

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Many of you have probably read my "is this a bad idea thread" about facebook messaging a girl I went to h.s with. Anyway I recently was contacted by some guys I went to h.s with and we were texting each other and making plans to go out to bars and what not, but they seemed to have lost interest and have not responded to my texts for the past week. I really feel like a socially hopeless individual right now because I literally have no one, have no prospects of meeting anyone, had to drop out of school and have no idea what I want to do with my life. I really am confused at this point and feel like god is playing some cruel joke on me to give me false hope than rip it away. I am not looking for pity, I am just looking for advice.

Here is the link to my original thread
http://www.lpsg.com/342296-is-this-a-bad-idea.html
UM.... You live in Boston. Did you know there was some terrorism there recently? Yeah, people's first thought just might not be about you right now. People might not be making lots of social plans right now. Chill in the cut for a bit, and see how everyone is doing next week. Just see how they are doing. Ask about their families. If you're not back on track in a couple of weeks, go join a meet-up group.
 

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I used to got a gym, have a garage gym now, but left because people were hating on me, literally lol. I used to go to a local golds gym and they catered to everyone, including bodybuilders and crossfit, and I was one of the more intense exercisers. Anyway the guys there always gave me an attitude and were always on my case about stupid shit, so I ended up leaving because I did not feel welcome there.

I would like to meet a girl and hopefully develop it into something steady, like a real GF not just something to stick my cock into once in a while.




I think a lot of people have or are going through something very similar, it's just how they hide it.

You go to a gym? Anyone there male or female you could just get talking to and maybe meet up with?

What do you like to do?
Do you want to meet a girl for something casual or something else - having this in mind and being clear about what you want from the start will be a good thing - especially in a small town.

Spot a girl you like, smile and say hi, she's either going to smile back or turn you down. Never know if you don't try
 

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If you read the link to my "is this a bad idea thread" then you would know why I dropped out this semester. But assuming you didn't I had to drop out because I had to have a pacemaker put in and I missed way to many classes to even hope to get a D lol.



Get your own shit together.

Why did you drop out of school? Was that High School or College?
Have you any idea what career you would like to pursue?

The most important thing you can do, at your age, is to determine what it is you would like to do with your life, and then ask yourself, 'okay, what's one thing I can do, THIS WEEK, that will take me even ONE SMALL STEP CLOSER to that goal?'

For example... if you wanted to be in television... it would be better to take a job sweeping a local news stations floor, than to take a higher paying job working the door at some club or any other totally unrelated job. Working at the Station you are at least meeting people In that industry.


As to your social life... if you are not in school, then your next most likely prospect for long term friendships is your job... so, again, the more effort you put into your career, at this age, the more likely you are to find like minded people with which to hang.

And as to romance... women are attracted to men who exhibit self confidence.
Some men are masters at faking it... others have it without any actual thing about themselves over which to feel confident ( which is actually called arrogance )

But most of us will not attain nor exhibit self confidence until we start experiencing some success or at least are seen by our peers as COMPETENT at something, anything.

If there is an area in your life in which you feel competent, then you will do best to play that up in a setting in which women will see that in you... for example... if your a Star Wars nerd who i confident in your mastery of everything Star Warsish, then got to sci fi conventions and comic-cons. Your best bet is a needy girl who thinks nerdy boys are cute.

If you happen to be a good dancer... that is a rare skill among men, go to places where women want to dance... your self confidence in your dancing will make them say yes when you ask them.

If you are a fitness freak... then you might want to try for a job teaching a fitness class to women and men. Women at the gym are going to find a really fit, and knowledgable trainer attractive... especially if he is a little shy and not so full of himself as those men who are more concerned with their appearance than they are with anything else ( Mirror hogging Gym Rat behavior is seen by women as a FEMININE trait... i.e., not really manly )



And if you don't HAVE any area in which you feel self confident, then, again, your best bet is to find something in life about which you feel passionate and get yourself involved in it, be that your career or your hobby.

getting your own life on track, having some small measure of success and direction will result in your exuding a competency and comfort with yourself that will make others want to be around you, to spend time with you.

Lose yourself in something you love, and love will find you.
 

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Yeah I figured I would just give it a few weeks and just work and work out then maybe hit them up to see how they are. Its hard because it feels like you there is a glimmer of hope of meeting friends than it turns sour, which makes you realize how lonely you truly were before. But......I don't know I just have no one to really talk to besides my Mom lol.




UM.... You live in Boston. Did you know there was some terrorism there recently? Yeah, people's first thought just might not be about you right now. People might not be making lots of social plans right now. Chill in the cut for a bit, and see how everyone is doing next week. Just see how they are doing. Ask about their families. If you're not back on track in a couple of weeks, go join a meet-up group.
 

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I considered getting my personal trainer certification and doing that as a side job, already have 2 other things I do for work now. Actually have been considering that for a long time but put it off, cant make a living doing it but it would be a way to broaden my social network. One of my problems is my work really only involves me and just a couple other people, who are relatives and friends of family, so it kind of limits your potential to make friends.



Get your own shit together.

Why did you drop out of school? Was that High School or College?
Have you any idea what career you would like to pursue?

The most important thing you can do, at your age, is to determine what it is you would like to do with your life, and then ask yourself, 'okay, what's one thing I can do, THIS WEEK, that will take me even ONE SMALL STEP CLOSER to that goal?'

For example... if you wanted to be in television... it would be better to take a job sweeping a local news stations floor, than to take a higher paying job working the door at some club or any other totally unrelated job. Working at the Station you are at least meeting people In that industry.


As to your social life... if you are not in school, then your next most likely prospect for long term friendships is your job... so, again, the more effort you put into your career, at this age, the more likely you are to find like minded people with which to hang.

And as to romance... women are attracted to men who exhibit self confidence.
Some men are masters at faking it... others have it without any actual thing about themselves over which to feel confident ( which is actually called arrogance )

But most of us will not attain nor exhibit self confidence until we start experiencing some success or at least are seen by our peers as COMPETENT at something, anything.

If there is an area in your life in which you feel competent, then you will do best to play that up in a setting in which women will see that in you... for example... if your a Star Wars nerd who i confident in your mastery of everything Star Warsish, then got to sci fi conventions and comic-cons. Your best bet is a needy girl who thinks nerdy boys are cute.

If you happen to be a good dancer... that is a rare skill among men, go to places where women want to dance... your self confidence in your dancing will make them say yes when you ask them.

If you are a fitness freak... then you might want to try for a job teaching a fitness class to women and men. Women at the gym are going to find a really fit, and knowledgable trainer attractive... especially if he is a little shy and not so full of himself as those men who are more concerned with their appearance than they are with anything else ( Mirror hogging Gym Rat behavior is seen by women as a FEMININE trait... i.e., not really manly )



And if you don't HAVE any area in which you feel self confident, then, again, your best bet is to find something in life about which you feel passionate and get yourself involved in it, be that your career or your hobby.

getting your own life on track, having some small measure of success and direction will result in your exuding a competency and comfort with yourself that will make others want to be around you, to spend time with you.

Lose yourself in something you love, and love will find you.
 
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You will be ok. people go through dry periods when it comes to socializing. Just gotta keep your head up and find something you like to do in the meantime.whatever it is you decide to do i wish you luck. just dont end your life. Thers always someone that maybe looking for you.

Good luck.
 

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It has been a tough few months, again read my other thread, but I have a feeling the bumpy road I have been on will soon come to an end, not sure why. It has been tough because it is one thing to another, back to back, with no real positive events in my life, I just hope I see some good times soon.


You will be ok. people go through dry periods when it comes to socializing. Just gotta keep your head up and find something you like to do in the meantime.whatever it is you decide to do i wish you luck. just dont end your life. Thers always someone that maybe looking for you.

Good luck.
 

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I used to got a gym, have a garage gym now, but left because people were hating on me, literally lol. I used to go to a local golds gym and they catered to everyone, including bodybuilders and crossfit, and I was one of the more intense exercisers. Anyway the guys there always gave me an attitude and were always on my case about stupid shit, so I ended up leaving because I did not feel welcome there.

I would like to meet a girl and hopefully develop it into something steady, like a real GF not just something to stick my cock into once in a while.

you sound sweet, I'd go out with you if it weren't for the distance, age difference etc.:wink: I'm sure you'll find a nice girl once you start getting out a bit more
 

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Yeah I figured I would just give it a few weeks and just work and work out then maybe hit them up to see how they are. Its hard because it feels like you there is a glimmer of hope of meeting friends than it turns sour, which makes you realize how lonely you truly were before. But......I don't know I just have no one to really talk to besides my Mom lol.
Maybe it is just Boston. It took me YEARS to make friends when I lived in Malden. By the time I formed close relationships, it was time to move. In Miami, as soon as I put my feelers out, I had acquaintances. These people are flaky, bu that's just SFL culture, not personal. I'm even very close to some. Maybe you need to transplant yourself. In Malden, people were just not warm and friendly. People were very standoffish. My neighbors ignored me. My co-workers talked shit behind my back, and my boss deliberately subjected me to psychological torture. It was cold, and gross, and I put on weight. I had no one but my fiance. Before, when I lived in NY, I had none of that static, and loads of friends. In Miami, as I said, it is easy to meet people. My neighbors suck, and so did my boss, but in general, I have had fun down here.