irishlad: So there is this new guy I'm seeing. He smart, good looking, financially secure, very giving to me - all the good things one could possibly want. In the gay world, men seem to categorize themselves as either a bottome or top. My boyfriend is a bottom, I'm neither. I love making out, cuddlind, giving and receiving oral. I'm not into fucking or getting fucked. My problem is my boyfreind is large and I don't feel like I'm satisfying him. He hasn't said anything but I feel like I should be doing more. He is about 10 inches and thick. It's hard for me to get my mouth around him - definately too hard to deep throat - which I think he likes given the pressure on the back of my head. Anyway, I have played with his ass, but after awhile he wants he to blow him and that is very uncomfortable. The last time we were togeather I had a stuffy nose and was forced to breath through my mouth. You guessed it, it's hard to breath through your mouth when you have something in it. Anyway, I'm looking for advise on how other guys handled situations like this.