My penis is not big in my eyes...

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I ALWAYS look at my dick and think it looks small. Probably because I own it and I was never told it was big until people started telling me and when I realised condoms are a bitch to get into. Yet I still look at it and think it's small
 

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I don't really get what you are saying but thanks for explaining your point of view.

Regarding porn, has it occurred to you that they are selecting the largest and best looking dicks because it is for entertainment purposes? Just like the movies and TV. Actors do not represent the everyday persons looks, physiques, etc. and neither do porn actors. I hope you take the time to review more objective points of view like credible research surveys and studies. There is even a plethora of information and resources on this site.

No need to feel insecure about your penis size being small when the facts seem to indicate otherwise.

As for the comments from females. A female response would be best, but my guess is that you may hear that for the most part if they say you are "huge" or the "biggest" they probably mean it. I agree most women would probably be respectful of a guys manhood and not want to be disparaging, but they might not take it to the extreme of being "huge".

As I said to the OP. Just love your dick, it is the only one you gonna get.
What he's trying to say is that, stastically speaking, he knows he's big (or so I almost hope he does). But what he's trying to say is this, and I guess I can understand: when you know no other penis, what you have is just what you have. You grow up with it all your life, so it's really not that unusual for you as it might appear to someone else.

I assume that by now, he knows that he has a big penis. Whether he looked up the statistics or whether he actually does go by what his other partners have told him. And if he did look at other penises when the opportunity ever arises for him to do so, then the fact he has a big penis might be enforced when he does compare it with others.

But he doesn't compare. Because he thinks what he has is normal, and the dicks in porn are comparable in size to his, then that's all just normal to him.

What I'm confused about, personally, is what does he mean by this? (Hopefully you, WhiteMonst3r, can help answer this):

But in my mind, every "big dick" in porn is just the average norm as is mine and all the other ones are just below average.

First of all, what do you mean by "all the other ones" if you don't see other penises? Do you mean the dicks in porn that are smaller than others (which, in case you didn't know, are still considered pretty big)? Or do you mean, indeed, that everyone else who has a smaller dick than you are below average?

I can understand your way of thinking (I tried to explain it, unless I'm totally off with the reasoning), but if I were to see so many "below average" dicks, I would start wondering what exactly is supposed to be average.
 

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What he's trying to say is that, stastically speaking, he knows he's big (or so I almost hope he does). But what he's trying to say is this, and I guess I can understand: when you know no other penis, what you have is just what you have. You grow up with it all your life, so it's really not that unusual for you as it might appear to someone else.

I assume that by now, he knows that he has a big penis. Whether he looked up the statistics or whether he actually does go by what his other partners have told him. And if he did look at other penises when the opportunity ever arises for him to do so, then the fact he has a big penis might be enforced when he does compare it with others.

But he doesn't compare. Because he thinks what he has is normal, and the dicks in porn are comparable in size to his, then that's all just normal to him.

What I'm confused about, personally, is what does he mean by this? (Hopefully you, WhiteMonst3r, can help answer this):



First of all, what do you mean by "all the other ones" if you don't see other penises? Do you mean the dicks in porn that are smaller than others (which, in case you didn't know, are still considered pretty big)? Or do you mean, indeed, that everyone else who has a smaller dick than you are below average?

I can understand your way of thinking (I tried to explain it, unless I'm totally off with the reasoning), but if I were to see so many "below average" dicks, I would start wondering what exactly is supposed to be average.

Quite helpful. Thanks much.
 

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What he's trying to say is that, stastically speaking, he knows he's big (or so I almost hope he does). But what he's trying to say is this, and I guess I can understand: when you know no other penis, what you have is just what you have. You grow up with it all your life, so it's really not that unusual for you as it might appear to someone else.

I assume that by now, he knows that he has a big penis. Whether he looked up the statistics or whether he actually does go by what his other partners have told him. And if he did look at other penises when the opportunity ever arises for him to do so, then the fact he has a big penis might be enforced when he does compare it with others.

But he doesn't compare. Because he thinks what he has is normal, and the dicks in porn are comparable in size to his, then that's all just normal to him.

What I'm confused about, personally, is what does he mean by this? (Hopefully you, WhiteMonst3r, can help answer this):



First of all, what do you mean by "all the other ones" if you don't see other penises? Do you mean the dicks in porn that are smaller than others (which, in case you didn't know, are still considered pretty big)? Or do you mean, indeed, that everyone else who has a smaller dick than you are below average?

I can understand your way of thinking (I tried to explain it, unless I'm totally off with the reasoning), but if I were to see so many "below average" dicks, I would start wondering what exactly is supposed to be average.

No that's about right, as for what I meant any other penises that don't fall in the big dick category might be average to other people but just look small to me, as do other dicks if I do ever accidentaly encounter one.
 

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I guess that's how you would perceive them when you compare something... But... I do hope that you actually come to realize that you're big and those other guys are considered average because they are average :p
 

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Bud, you have a nice cock. The girls that don't think so have been around way too long. It takes some good hunting to find a big cock. Do you want someone like that. Most women want a big cock once, or dream about it until they have to have it all the time. Then they dread it, same with guys. Guys like what they call a good fucking cock. That's a cock that doesn't break you open every time, but just feels good, especially when the guy knows how to use it.
A nice medium to large cock, not too big is ideal. You are there. Have some confidence. Most people aren't telling you the truth when you are having sex anyway. You'll know when you are turning on your partner. It's a feeling inside. You are both in ecstasy.Good Luck.

You sound as though you're saying he doesn't have a big cock. He does.

His girth is big (top 20-25% I believe) and if it is non-bonepressed, his length is borderline huge (less than 5% - I forget the exact figure).
 

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...stastically speaking, he knows he's big (or so I almost hope he does). But what he's trying to say is this...when you know no other penis, what you have is just what you have. You grow up with it all your life, so it's really not that unusual for you...

I can understand your way of thinking (I tried to explain it, unless I'm totally off with the reasoning)...

No - your reasonong is perfect.

It can actually be applied to any attribute. You see, or feel your body all the time, so nothing about it can be viscerally unusual. For example, I'm 6'2", yet I subconsciously feel that I'm average height and certainly not taller than most people. I sometimes see a guy on the tube or whatnot and think "he's tall" only to realise that his head reaches the same point on the overhead rail that mine does. It's really only when I happen to catch sight of my reflection alongside say, a girl of averge height that I realise how tall I am.

Similarly many quite attractive people don't realise quite how attractive they are or they may do in akind of academic sense, but not appreciate the effect they have on other people.
 

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Statistically speaking I am 7 3/4 - 8" non bone pressed 8 1/4 - 8 1/2 bone pressed and 5 3/4"-6" around towards to top by th head of my cock. When my wife and I first got together she thought i was 9". I thought she was lying because I was almost an inch shorter than what she said. She also said that I was really long and she would like it to shorter but she could take a little thicker, not that she wanted thicker but she could handle thicker. (Meaning she has had thicker...)

She has constantly said I was big but now she is so turned off by it she doesnt say anything. But subconciously I'm thinking she isnt' saying anything because she has been lying all along. I know this may be confusing but my first girl messed me up after she cheated on me and I was self conscious since then.

I've done everything most big guys have done, gone too deep, can feel the anterior fornix (gripping around the head area), I've stretched girls too much and have torn them(caused the burning when they go to bathroom), I've had girls cum uncontrollablly (convulsions) on insertion. I had a girl I worked with see a pic of member and wanted to meet up in the showers at the gym so I could f*** her. etc
However, I still don't feel big.
I'm working to try to understand what I can do to change this perception and thats what brings me to this site. Just trying to build my confidence and get advice from some of the members on this site.
 

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For a long time I thought I was quite normal, then it seems I was big indeed. But without much proof I again thought I was quite normal. In the end it turned out I'm really big enough to be called big.
I'm used to this thing being this size, to me it's perfectly normal. :smile:
 

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Same as you. It looks small and feel small to me but I like to think that it's because I see it everyday than thinking it's because I'm small for real.

I think your is big by the way!
 

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I'm wondering if there are guys over 7" length or over 5.5" around that do not believe they are big?

Doubtless there are...and some complain that they're not big enough even at 8" or 9" length and 6+" girth. (Read enough posts on this site and you'll find both.) But...? It's most often more helpful to focus on what one has rather than on what one doesn't have.....

I had a straight college roommate, by the way, who was a perfect 6"x6" (I measured it myself!)--and, lacking gay experience, thought himself small. I disagreed--correctly or incorrectly...?
 
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yeah I think it's just from being on this site or watching porn. It's also based on your personal experience, which is totally a random selection from a HUGE human population. So, if you happen to see larger cocks irl, PLUS you see the monstrous dicks here and in porn, you would think you're small.

I'm nearly 9" long, but only like 5.8" girth and very Big and Tall body type with big hands, so I feel smaller and wish it "felt" bigger in my hands. However, EVERY person I'd slept with has been shocked at my size, even insisting it was 10"+ (which just proves how much smaller other guys are).

but, rationally, you *know* you have a big dick :cool:
 

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I always felt small growing up, you know, before I became a whore. LOL. I have the smallest cock in my family. I know this because I have walked in on both my dad and my brother with full on erections. Embarrassing all involved. Then during college I saw a lot of dicks in communal showers and at the gym. I then realized that I am no where near the largest. Some guy I saw at the gym looked like a conjoined twin was connected where his dick should have been. Seriously I have never seen anything like it, even in porn. But I also realized that I was bigger than the average Joe. Luckily.