My Relationship Is Dependent on Help from you guys!!!

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Hi,

I've been a member of LPSG for a few years now and I love the site and the people are some of the most honest and likeable people you'll find on the net. Now, I am at a cross roads in a relationship with my girlfriend.

We've been dating for over a year and a half now and we are very much in love. Everything about our relationship is ideal. Except the sex. First, I'll discuss our situation and then I'll talk about solutions we've tried.

Since our first time, it has been hard for her to take me. She was not a virgin before me and neither was I. We are both experienced and have had more than one partner in our past. My measurements are 8.5" long and 2.5" wide and 6.5" around. My previous partner was an Asian girl who was smaller in stature (I know that has nothing to do with vag size) and she handled me very well. During our first time, she claimed to have enjoyed it, but I could sniff out the lies easily. She was wincing in pain at times and usually it takes me about ~45 minutes to cum so she was in a great deal of pain.

Fast forward a year and a half and she is still having the same problems. The length is in no way a problem for her. I ease all the way in slowly and pull out slowly to adjust her to my dick. She says it feels good for 5 minutes and then it starts to hurt. Her being wet isn't a problem: sometimes when she is walking around school, she drips because she is just naturally very wet down there. (Sorry if that was TMI)

Foreplay isn't an issue either. I give her head each time beforehand and sometimes I let her cum and sometimes I don't. We usually lubricate my penis very well before we engage in intercourse. Positions that hurt her the most are her being on top and me doing doggy.

We do not use condoms and she is on birth control. I have done the "Clone-a-Willy" thing for her to practice when I'm away, but it hurts her too much. I'm frustrated and so is she. Her ex was quite large as well - about my length, just not my girth or even close.

Please, please, please provide good comments and questions so that I can help fix this. I want this to work. Saying "sex isn't an important part of our relationship" may sound nice, but it is not the truth. She is not happy, and neither am I.

Help,

Young White
 

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Has she gone to a physician with regards to this?

She needs to. And if the 1st one doesn't take her seriously, keep looking till she finds one that does.

It's not normal or natural for her not to be able to accommodate you after this long.
 

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I can't offer any help but I hope you can work it out. You have an amazing cock and hopefully she will come to love it and be able to take it. (It deserves to be loved!)
Good luck.
 

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Since our first time, it has been hard for her to take me. She was not a virgin before me and neither was I. We are both experienced and have had more than one partner in our past. My measurements are 8.5" long and 2.5" wide and 6.5" around.
Help,

Young White

sure 8.5 and 6.5

going by your photos your less then that?
 

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Thank you Shyam. That is what I'm doing. I am also NOT discussing my penis size either. I could be 3 by 2 and if she was having trouble with it then I would be posting this as well. It isn't about numbers (which I don't feel like I need to prove anyways because it is pointless and stupid) it is about helping me with my sex like with my girlfriend.
 

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two things for you..

learn to cum faster.
fuck with shorter strokes.

i know, ya saying "no fair, clearly her vagina is faulty" :rolleyes:

no.. the 45 mins of fucking can and does get annoying as all get out. and with bigger boys can be very rough on the girl bits. ya need to shrink your wang, alter ya fuck style, or realize y'all might be sexually incompatible.

what ya can try..
no matter how wet she is, always use a top quality bottled lubricant. always, no.. don't care if she's dripping wet. don't care if ya have gone down on her until ya fingers are pruned and ya tongue is numb. get lube. she's experiencing discomfort, and discomfort pussy is not happy pussy. even the beginning of irritation is going to start her vag going into hostile territory mode. get lube. make sure it's glycerin free, paraben free. apply liberally. reapply often.

take breaks.. give her jenny an option to tap out. go back to fondling and smooching, oral, handies.. whatever y'all both like. keep the arousal levels at a fevered pitch but let the girl parts take a breather.

stop masturbating as much and change the way ya do wank. for true, young dudes, y'all over train ya orgasmic response. over stimulation with the death grip fist of fury. the palm of your hand is WAY less sensitive than her who-ha. relax the grip, slow ya pace on ya ownsone, ya will eventually reprogram ya body. women in general will be very impressed with ya maturity and sweet, sweet loving :wink:

long strokes... the long strokes pulls/tugs on her vaginal lining, pulls out natural lubricants and wears a girl out. shorter strokes for you will feel like faster thrusting, which seems to what boys do to get their, urm, special moment :tongue1: without causing her so much ouch.

what she needs to do...

stimulate you more. if ya both know she's comfortable/enjoying with about 10 mins of actual PIV smexing, you need to be in the home stretch of orgasm before you start fucking. she needs to be an active lover and help ya get there. more head, hand jobs, more attention to ya non-crotch happy zones. for true... boy foreplay *and, yesh, there is such a thing :eek:* is damn important too.

and she needs to get her birth control checked. she might be on the wrong pill or too high a dose. in spite of what commercials tell you that shit is not a day at the beach, or frolicking in the garden.. or what the fuck ever those women are doing since they don't have unwanted children. that shit is hormone Hiroshima. it can/does/is designed to throw her body out of wack. one of the side effects can be thinning of the vaginal wall, changes to her natural lubricant.

warning: ladies are loyal to their BC. and trying out various formulas can be physically, emotionally hellish. heaps of ups and downs, crazy cycles, plague like PMS. ya get the gist. on the other side, finding a better method might be cakes and lemonade in the park if she feels better and is enjoying sex more, ya know?

sorry for the long post.. but.. is not a quick fix issue, ya know?
been a year and half to say "this really is an issue" might be a few months to fix.

anyway.. good luck.
happy humping.
 

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Thank you Shyam. That is what I'm doing. I am also NOT discussing my penis size either. I could be 3 by 2 and if she was having trouble with it then I would be posting this as well. It isn't about numbers (which I don't feel like I need to prove anyways because it is pointless and stupid) it is about helping me with my sex like with my girlfriend.

I think I love you!! :fing02: in a straight, high five kinda way :tongue:
 

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In my experience there are some women who at first love extra girth and being fucked for a long time but it fades away eventually and while they'd happily 'do their duty' for an average sized dick that came in 10 minutes what was once a bonus becomes a liability.

I guess you have to figure out how important this woman is to you. You could maybe spend a bit of time working out what positions and lubes help and how often she'll fuck you and for how long. But if, for the state of your relationship, you settle for less than you need you will end up frustrated and not be able to stop fantasizing about big cunted nymphos who would love to take you balls deep for hours. Could your relationship stand that? I know two of mine couldn't and one of those women (who came very quickly and often herself) told me as we split that she'd have fucked me every day if my cock was thinner and I could cum in 5 minutes.
 

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two things for you..

...sorry for the long post.. but.. is not a quick fix issue, ya know?
been a year and half to say "this really is an issue" might be a few months to fix.

anyway.. good luck.
happy humping.

Some great advice there and some I wish I could have followed but some of us sadly don't realise there is a problem until our partners are basically completely off the idea of sex entirely and even trying to fix it just isn't going to happen. Hopefully the original poster isn't at that stage yet.
 

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Advice from yes a gay guy that used to fuck women. One of the ladies used to frequently get yeast infections which makes sex awful for her (and for me, a "sandpaperish" kinda feeling. 45 minutes is a very long time to "get pounded" even for a gay guy (even though most gay guys wouldn't admit it). Especially with a larger guy like yourself.

Another possibility is during the act itself she is losing some of her natural lubrication and perhaps some additional store bought lubrication if you have tried that. Tip from a gay guy here. Silicone lube will last much longer than a water based lube. It's much more slippery than water based; it is more effort to clean up after you're done though.

Some water based lubricants are awful and dry up very fast. If you are trying water based lubes the problem could be the stickiness after not too long a time.

Another is if you are using latex condoms. She may be allergic or sensitive to latex.

What types of complaints does she have? Does she complain during sex sometimes that it's beginning to hurt?

Sometimes instead of fucking for a str8 45 minutes, fuck her for awhile and then do something else and then go back to it, etc. Gives her time to recover and I haven't met many women yet who don't like the other things (back then man!).

And someone advised seeing a doctor above. If you've tried a lot of things and nothing is helping, something may be "going on" in there that needs attention by a doctor.
 

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I missed the Birth control part. I totally agree with that and it's quite possible a visit to her gyn is in order. I'm sure they have heard it all before!