I can't relate to this at all.. the more I have sex the more I want it. I wonder if he has some negative association with sex?
I wouldn't say either of you are abnormal, just different. If your not happy with it all you can do is talk to him about it and decide if this is making you unhappy to the point that you are not interested in being with him because of it.
I'm sure it has to do with the Catholic brain washing somewhat, that and he isn't very experienced yet and not super comfortable with his sexuality. He is slowly becoming more accustomed to dirtier things though.
. . . I'm always the one initiating it.
. . . he seems uninterested.
. . . I have to put in a lot of effort to achieve this.
. . . he sometimes "feels like a piece of meat".
-Normally, when I get dressed up either in a sexual manner or just to go out to dinner, men I've been with seem to be all over me, new guy seems to care less.
. . . (he) is very comfortable publicly with sexual things, in the bedroom he seems not to be. He rarely makes noise and is not quite into some of the kinkier stuff . . .
. . . am I just a mini-sex addict and am being too hard on him? . . . I hate not being able to be my full, horny self . . .
-I have never had an issue with making a man rock hard(and staying that way) before I was with my new guy, now it seems like I have to put in a lot of effort to achieve this. I know I don't have the most smokin' body of all time, but I know how to work what I've got and I know I'm sexy... As you can imagine, this situation makes me feel very NOT sexy.
-He was raised Catholic, and although he is not religious now and is very comfortable publicly with sexual things, in the bedroom he seems not to be. He rarely makes noise and is not quite into some of the kinkier stuff I am. This could be due to lack of experience, but it makes me feel like I can't approach him to do certain things.
To sum it up, I am just wondering which one of us is abnormal? Should a man in his 20's seem so disinterested in sex? Or am I just a mini-sex addict and am being too hard on him? Or both?
Looking back, I believe that he had actual hangups that would have required a qualified sex therapist for him to get past.
Mine couldn't even cum during sex.
And I just realised I used the word 'problems' in relation to him. So maybe in my heart of hearts, I don't REALLY feel that he was 'normal' :redface:
The not cumming thing is just weird!
It's only not weird if he's on antidepressants, and I remember that you said that he wasn't on any.
The not cumming thing is just weird!
if i do go back, how did u girls go about asking them for more sex without getting them mad? i think i did it wrong.
I know lots of guys that cannot. I mean 5. 3 of which have confided to me they have this problem. (the other two confided to my close friend they had the same problem) Funnily, this is about half of my friends!
Frankly, I think he knows it is only a matter of time until she leaves him, which is sad because he is one of my favorite people, and frankly a hopeless romantic, real sweet guy.
All five of these men were or are heavy drinkers. 4 of them also have a history of heavy drug abuse, and two of them are current drug users. (more than marijuana). Although my close friend (the O faker) only drinks.
Wow, it's more common than I thought!