My sex drive is way higher then my mans, this sucks.

[B_subgirrl]

Actually, I get this if we have sex more than once in a 24 hour period. My first orgasm comes normally around 15 minutes if I hadn't ejaculated in a few days. If we have sex 2 hours later, forget about me cumming again. I can go and go and go and never cum. Sometimes the sex is actually better and more intense when I'm in perma-hard mode.

But that's fair enough! If you've already cum once, it's okay if you can't get any more orgasms. This ex didn't cum at all!!!!

 

[petite]

I know lots of guys that cannot. I mean 5. 3 of which have confided to me they have this problem. (the other two confided to my close friend they had the same problem) Funnily, this is about half of my friends!

That is so weird! I've never been with a man who couldn't cum! Ever!

 

[blutrane]

It exists. It took me a while to be able to cum with a girl. And I've never cum from a blowjob before.

 

[NumberTwentySix]

Although the prior responses are more likely scenarios, I know birth control pills can have wild effects on a woman's sex drive. Obviously he isn't taking those, bit there could be something in his endocrine system that is preventing things from getting really revved up. Has he ever been tested for hypothyroidism or similar?

 

[B_crackoff]

The poor guy's having sex "almost every day"!

Does he have an interesting job or pasttime? It's not exactly the most important thing in the world you know - there are other pursuits just as interesting, but some people sound like they've just got an itch that needs to be scratched!

Hell, we've all been like that, but it means it's all that drives you. What do you do - do you have other interests, because sex alone is just a waste of a life.

You've got to be quite driven to want sex everyday - sort of needy in a way - validation issues etc - & yes I've been like that. It's quite an investment of time that a lot of people don't have. I might masturbate each day, but I'd feel guilty about not being whole heartedly in the moment with someone if I had sex everyday with them, & they'd notice the deterioration in standard.

I do a lot of things that take up a lot of my time & create a lot of stress, because I work hard, & spend most of my free time being creative, & being around creative free thinking people - the spiritual side of life.

Catholic guilt - balls - the most perverse people I know are Catholic as they have a higher degree of satisfaction from the frisson of doing something very non standard. Upbringing may have a bearing on sexuality, but I don't think that's anything to do with religion, just the personality types of parents.

Not being able to come - happened to me for a year - with at least 20 partners - yes men fake.

Maybe I'm wrong, but I'd always prefer to be led by my head rather than my dick, but good for you if you wanna bang all day long - though I don't see how it can last - it's boring enough over the long term screwing the same person - but as your boyfriend said about "too much of a good thing" - less can add to the sparkle & surprise.

That said - you're just 26 - still within the 1st year -& in your prime, so your lust is pretty normal. What are you going to do when all those little things about him you've ignored, start to annoy your domestic bliss - though you must have a good relationship if you're still potty about him.

I wish I'd known girls like you when I was 13-18 though!

 

[B_crackoff]

I hope for her sake he does. I was in a marriage that sounds very similar. It NEVER changed. I went months waiting on him to initiate or show interest. His idea of foreplay eventually was to grab my butt or breast while in bed and ask for some. Yeah, that got me going...NOT!!!

Hahahaha. It's like you knew me! The only difference was I used to do that outside of the bedroom. It does work! Woman frustrated with man - then he just grabs her - this makes her even madder - which means he can't have her - which makes him very horny - so he tries harder - cue nudity, kitchen sink,& broken crockery.

Yes, my sex life ran like a poorly scripted bad porn movie!

 

[petite]

You've got to be quite driven to want sex everyday - sort of needy in a way - validation issues etc - & yes I've been like that.

Oh, I completely disagree with that! You can't presume that someone who desires sex a lot just needs "attention."

While "validation issues" might be some people's reason for desiring sex a lot, other people are just hornier than others. You can't ascribe a single motivation to a single type of behavior. That motivation is just one possible reason why someone might behave that way.

Look at me. The fact that birth control pills dampens or completely kills that desire in a lot of women like me just goes to show that women like me have a naturally higher level of desire and that has nothing to do with immature psychological issues like a need for "validation," it's just how our hormones affect us. When I went on birth control pills, it was so effective at killing my sex drive that I called it "chemical castration." Now if I just needed "validation" then I would have continued to seek sex as much as before despite my own lack of desire for sex, because birth control pills aren't a substitute for validation.

 

[B_crackoff]

Oh, I completely disagree with that! You can't presume that someone who desires sex a lot just needs "attention."

While "validation issues" might be some people's reason for desiring sex a lot, other people are just hornier than others. You can't ascribe a single motivation to a single type of behavior. That motivation is just one possible reason why someone might behave that way.

Look at me. The fact that birth control pills dampens or completely kills that desire in a lot of women like me just goes to show that women like me have a naturally higher level of desire and that has nothing to do with immature psychological issues like a need for "validation," it's just how our hormones affect us. When I went on birth control pills, it was so effective at killing my sex drive that I called it "chemical castration." Now if I just needed "validation" then I would have continued to seek sex as much as before despite my own lack of desire for sex, because birth control pills aren't a substitute for validation.

Hi divine Ms P. I think I did ameliorate my position a bit anyway.

The hormonal point is a bit interesting.

It's bloody odd though that young boys & men are constantly beaten upon for their hormones though too!

They're magically supposed to control them at an age when they can barely articulate their needs, & then get accused of only wanting one thing & pressurising girls into sex!

As an adult, you're meant to recognise, empathise, & learn to control hormonal behaviours a little more - especially if they negatively affect others.

That's why if you're sex drive mismatched, but all else is fine (& sex always tails off eventually), it's important for individuals to expand their mind & interests so that they're not obsessed over just one aspect of life.

An awful lot of guys find that sex goes to nothing after the birth of a child, so good luck, but beware ( though I'm sure you've read extensively around this subject)!

 

[petite]

Hi divine Ms P. I think I did ameliorate my position a bit anyway.

The hormonal point is a bit interesting.

It's bloody odd though that young boys & men are constantly beaten upon for their hormones though too!

They're magically supposed to control them at an age when they can barely articulate their needs, & then get accused of only wanting one thing & pressurising girls into sex!

As an adult, you're meant to recognise, empathise, & learn to control hormonal behaviours a little more - especially if they negatively affect others.

That's why if you're sex drive mismatched, but all else is fine (& sex always tails off eventually), it's important for individuals to expand their mind & interests so that they're not obsessed over just one aspect of life.

An awful lot of guys find that sex goes to nothing after the birth of a child, so good luck, but beware ( though I'm sure you've read extensively around this subject)!

I do like being called "divine." :tongue:

Looking back over the posts, I think I can see how you might get "validation" as a motivation when so many women described feeling badly if their partners aren't receptive to their advances or if they don't initiate sex. I don't think that it's a need for validation that causes that feeling, it's because being rejected sexually is so unusual, as a woman, I mean. All the other men I've ever been with have been appreciative of my high sex drive and happy to keep pace with me, or have had even higher sex drives than me. So it's not a conscious conclusion, but I think that most women expect that the average man would be thrilled to be with a woman who desires a lot a sex, and if a man suddenly starts regularly rejecting her advances or he never initiates sex himself, then the automatic assumption isn't that he just doesn't want sex but that as a woman she must not be attractive or sexually alluring enough to arouse him.

I agree with you about mismatched sex drives. It really does matter just how mismatched they are really, and if the other things in the relationship make up for what's missing in the bedroom. I know people who have almost no sex drive at all, and they're happy that way, but if you want sex at least 3x a week and your partner is happy with just once a month or less, then you have a big problem! Like I said before, in my LTR with the man who had a mismatched sex drive from me, it wasn't the frequency, but the routine of boring conservative sex that got to me, but I could have lived with it because I was happy with him as a lifelong companion. (Unfortunately we had a different huge problem that I could not live with.)

I'm lucky now. TheBF has never complained about my sex drive. He loves that I want him so much and that he turns me on. Sometimes his sex drive is a little higher than mine, sometimes mine is a little higher than his, but we're never too far apart from one another, and we're both eager to please, so we make each other happy. We're a good match.

I'm aware of how one's hormones can go out of whack after the birth of a child and how that can affect a couples sex life. Some women also suffer from actual pain during sex for months or even years after the birth of a child, and that would put a damper on my desires. We've talked about it, and if a problem arises, then we'll have to find a solution together. We have the kind of relationship where we can talk openly and comfortably about those kinds of things, and that's wonderful. I'm sure that we'd work it out somehow. :smile:

 

[B_crackoff]

I do like being called "divine." :tongue:

Hehe

I think that most women expect that the average man would be thrilled to be with a woman who desires a lot a sex, and if a man suddenly starts regularly rejecting her advances or he never initiates sex himself, then the automatic assumption isn't that he just doesn't want sex but that as a woman she must not be attractive or sexually alluring enough to arouse him.

Tell me about it. Women's egos are a lot more fragile than men's when it comes to this problem!.

It's happened in all my relationships:frown1:, & I always start a relationship by letting them know that the tsunami of 20 times a week, will turn into a leaky tap of at best once a week after a year, if we don't work at it.

Oddly enough, it turns out it's either hereditary or more commonplace, as all my cousins & uncles etc feel the same - it can get boring no matter what you do - which is why they're all cheats.. I don't do that because it just causes even more problems in the long run, unless you truly want a bachelor life.

Maybe there is something genetic for some of us that switches off your desire for one person after a while, trying to force you to find another. It's pretty disheartening when you love someone.

It's socially more acceptable for women to go off sex, & it's harder for men to even fake interest because we have to get wood. The stress of worrying that we won't, or might lose it half way, doesn't help at all!

I think a lot of women don't realise that men change as they get older, & that most of them will need, ahem, a helping hand, i.e a bit more foreplay, especially if the guy's interest seems to be decreasing. I don't think this is covered enough in all kinds of sex ed.

Therapists talk about openly discussing things, but most men know that their partner will tell their best friend, who'll tell theirs etc, until all his friends find out too - & so that probably puts them off.:frown1:

Still, the OP is having the best sex she's had everyday, & is grumpy she's not getting a marathon at the weekend - most people are thinking - lucky bitch!:wink:

 

[RawDog]

You've got to be quite driven to want sex everyday - sort of needy in a way - validation issues etc - & yes I've been like that.

Bullshit. Even if you can identify with this, it's bullshit for you to cast judgements. It's like saying, "Don't take offense to this, but you're stupid and arrogant."

I'd love to have sex 3 or 4 times a day (more on the weekends) and I'm 45 with no needy or validation issues. Masturbation can't curb the appetite either. Some people love riding bikes, some people love painting, and some people simply love fucking. Most of the time your posts are funny in a sardonic, witty manner, but for some reason that whole post rubbed me the wrong way. And I'm not the one your addressing!

Maybe I'm wrong, but I'd always prefer to be led by my head rather than my dick, but good for you if you wanna bang all day long - though I don't see how it can last - it's boring enough over the long term screwing the same person - but as your boyfriend said about "too much of a good thing" - less can add to the sparkle & surprise.

It's pretty hypocritical and condescending of you to judge someone as being needy and having validation issues and turn around and say "good for you if you wanna bang all day long".

Oh, and too much of a good thing is... GREAT!!

 

[Enid]

i love sex, could have it multiple times daily, can settle for a bit less, and i don't take offense if i come across someone with a pronounced lower sex drive which ends up causing a major issue. i just end the relationship (a large part of the reason i ended my last relationship was for mismatched sex drive, actually). it's no bother to me, someone else will appreciate it very much!

 

[petite]

Tell me about it. Women's egos are a lot more fragile than men's when it comes to this problem!.

It's happened in all my relationships:frown1:, & I always start a relationship by letting them know that the tsunami of 20 times a week, will turn into a leaky tap of at best once a week after a year, if we don't work at it.

I haven't had this experience. After the initial honeymoon period of a few months, all my LTR have quickly settled into the pattern that they stayed in. That guy who had conservative sex with me, I knew that I had a problem after only 2-3 months together. And the one I was with for 5 years? Sex stayed at a constant pace throughout.

Oddly enough, it turns out it's either hereditary or more commonplace, as all my cousins & uncles etc feel the same - it can get boring no matter what you do - which is why they're all cheats.. I don't do that because it just causes even more problems in the long run, unless you truly want a bachelor life.

Maybe there is something genetic for some of us that switches off your desire for one person after a while, trying to force you to find another. It's pretty disheartening when you love someone.

If you and them are able to get turned on by a new woman more than the one that they're with, aren't you confirming the suspicion that women have that you aren't as sexually attracted to her as you used to be? Since a new woman would actually flip that switch back on again? So why shouldn't she feel insecure when he stops initiating sex or he starts turning her down?

Therapists talk about openly discussing things, but most men know that their partner will tell their best friend, who'll tell theirs etc, until all his friends find out too - & so that probably puts them off.:frown1:

I would never share anything with friends regarding sex that my partner doesn't want other people to know. I would consider that a serious violation of his trust! What we do in bed is between us, and one of the reasons why I'm discreet is so that he'll feel safe being totally open with me.

 

[Enid]

I would never share anything with friends regarding sex that my partner doesn't want other people to know. I would consider that a serious violation of his trust! What we do in bed is between us, and one of the reasons why I'm discreet is so that he'll feel safe being totally open with me.

ditto moi

i have kind of a secretive personality anyway

 

[D_Hillary_Clitton]

I can't believe what I have spawned.

 

[B_625girth]

I think the 'newness' has worn off. he went 5 mos without, so you guys hook up and he's "catching" up, and honestly, now he just may be tired of you. he's not that in to you for whatever reason. don't blame yourself, it's his head and all the crap in it.

 

[D_Barbi_Dahl]

I am an extremely horny woman. I've always been this way. I've been on the pill most of my adult life...14 to 39...except when pregnant or breastfeeding. I always have a higher sex drive than my partner. I wear men out. I am a nympho...And PROUD of it! And I love BIG Cocks!

 

[B_New End]

And the one I was with for 5 years? Sex stayed at a constant pace throughout.

same here. (5.5 years) we finished about how we started, about 3 times a week. Never had a honeymoon period.

The last 6 months, it got rocky, so the sex frequency did too.

 

[RawDog]

I can't believe what I have spawned.

It's a rarity to hear out loud how a woman's sex drive could be so much higher than her partner's, that we all feel compelled to contribut to the topic for different reasons. Some who feel your plight and offer their advice and support. And there are some like me, who just wants to hear there are women out there who can probably outfuck guys like me.

 

[B_subgirrl]

And there are some like me, who just wants to hear there are women out there who can probably outfuck guys like me.

And there are plenty of us who'd like to try to :biggrin1: