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I have been in a similar boat with you. I agree with those who say don't worry too much about labels right now. And yes, you should watch out about experimenting only for experimenting sake. For some, that was the answer and it worked for them, Others, it was a grand mistake that haunted them.
Let me make this first point crystal clear. It is absolutely foolishness to allow how what sexual feelings you have or what sexual experiences you have had or not have dominate your life.
Worry about finishing high school. I assume you are a senior. Concentrate on developing a career first and developing non sexual relationships with people you own age and now that you are 18 or older with adults older than yourself. That should be your first concern.
My second concern is that you want to marry a woman, but have sexual feelings for guys. I've been there and done that. My fear is that the only reason you want a relationship with a woman, get married and all is that is conforms to what you have been taught and what you have seen and experience.
You don't want a relationship with men because you haven't seen that before for one reason and secondly because in your mind that would cut you off from your present set of friends and maybe your family and possibly your church.
If I'm right, you don't need to worry about relationships right now with men. Let that simmer for a while.
About labels. Keep in mind that about 10 percent of the population is exclusively gay and another 10 percent is exclusively straight. What that means is the the rest of us are capable of having both straight and gay relationships or sexual experiences. That 10 percent on each end just will never go there as far as sexual wants are concerned. That means that one out of 10 guys will never have any feelings for a man and another one out of ten will never have any feelings for a woman. That leaves 8 out of then or four out of five that are capable of having feelings for both genders. In our society most of that middle group will go with the straight relationships publicly. Many of them though will have some gay relationships or gay flings at some point or all throughout their life.
When you masturbate, do you think of only the cute guys at school or do you think of the cute girls? That will give you a clue of what your sexual feelings are right now. Remember if you are in that middle group those feelings can change for whatever reason.
Again don't experiment on a whim. If you do have a sexual act with a guy or even a short term relationship and it doesn't work, don't let that dominate the rest of your life. Just check it off as experience and MOVE ON! Don't let GUILT trip you up.
Think about what we all have said and come back and ask more questions if you wish. Hopefully we can be of help to you.
Let me make this first point crystal clear. It is absolutely foolishness to allow how what sexual feelings you have or what sexual experiences you have had or not have dominate your life.
Worry about finishing high school. I assume you are a senior. Concentrate on developing a career first and developing non sexual relationships with people you own age and now that you are 18 or older with adults older than yourself. That should be your first concern.
My second concern is that you want to marry a woman, but have sexual feelings for guys. I've been there and done that. My fear is that the only reason you want a relationship with a woman, get married and all is that is conforms to what you have been taught and what you have seen and experience.
You don't want a relationship with men because you haven't seen that before for one reason and secondly because in your mind that would cut you off from your present set of friends and maybe your family and possibly your church.
If I'm right, you don't need to worry about relationships right now with men. Let that simmer for a while.
About labels. Keep in mind that about 10 percent of the population is exclusively gay and another 10 percent is exclusively straight. What that means is the the rest of us are capable of having both straight and gay relationships or sexual experiences. That 10 percent on each end just will never go there as far as sexual wants are concerned. That means that one out of 10 guys will never have any feelings for a man and another one out of ten will never have any feelings for a woman. That leaves 8 out of then or four out of five that are capable of having feelings for both genders. In our society most of that middle group will go with the straight relationships publicly. Many of them though will have some gay relationships or gay flings at some point or all throughout their life.
When you masturbate, do you think of only the cute guys at school or do you think of the cute girls? That will give you a clue of what your sexual feelings are right now. Remember if you are in that middle group those feelings can change for whatever reason.
Again don't experiment on a whim. If you do have a sexual act with a guy or even a short term relationship and it doesn't work, don't let that dominate the rest of your life. Just check it off as experience and MOVE ON! Don't let GUILT trip you up.
Think about what we all have said and come back and ask more questions if you wish. Hopefully we can be of help to you.