My Size talked about at gathering

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by PinkSteel, May 28, 2006.

  1. PinkSteel

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    Last night my gf and I were at a dinner party. After dinner the 6 of us were sitting in the living room and out of the blue, my gf's best friend says mentions my endownment to the group. The room was dead quiet. I tried to reply with a joke to lighten the situation and she could feel my embarasment and replyed that it was a complimnet. It was very awkward.
    Usually I've mangaged to make light of a situation like this but when you arn't prepared or see it coming....

    This stuff will never end and I'm glad I have lpsg as an outlet.
     
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    It's just a bit of baggage that goes with the territory, PinkSteel, and after looking at your profile pictures, I certainly understand why. From the earliest I can remember growing up in the small town like I did, there lived two men who were widely known for their endowments. I suppose I knew about their 'stuff' even before going through my own puberty. The importance of the phallus could have it no other way! Keep in mind that many, many guys would gladly suffer this to be so richly rewarded as you!
     
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    I certainly understand your feelings about this. A similar issue is what brought me to the site.
     
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    dude...take the well deserved compliment!
     
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    Yeah, but there is a difference betwen being complimented and being objectified. Objectification never feels good and it's really nobody's business if your cock is huge or not.

    Tell the group that you are simply NOT going to talk about your cock and I would directly say something to both your GF and her friend. I think what she did was rude (especially if she knew it would make you uncomfortable).
     
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    I woudl have been extremely uncomfortable as well...

    Not because I am ashamed of my dick, but more because, I was the only one exposed.

    Had this been a sexual conversation, I would have bene fine with it... but had she done this to me, my retort to the best friend would have been.. " Yah, it's big.. but have you seen (insert gf's gf name) HUGE VAGINA?:biggrin1:
     
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    This is an important issue and where once upon a time I would have made light of it but no more.

    Lex is right - we gotta look beyond the endowment and focus on the person

    I recently turned down a couple of encounters with ladies who were simply looking for a piece of meat - I guess as I have gotten older I want to be seen not as a cock attached to a guy but first and foremost as a guy who just so happens to be more well endowed than is average

    This probably doesnt make any sense but I wanted to just pitch in and offer some support

    Peace and Love
     
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    I never felt anything but happy when people commented on my size but a few weeks back I was drinking with a couple of friends and we were talking about successes with women etc etc. One of my friends said "but it's easy for you, you got a a big cock that's why you get so much". It's the first time I'd felt vaguely insulted by someone saying something along those lines. It was like he was implying that my cock is my main attractive quality. Cheers mate!! There I was thinking it's cos I'm a nice guy....
     
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    I never fully undestood how women felt about being objectified by men until I found myself being objectified by men. It does not feel good (when people see you as defined by your penis).
     
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    I'm certainly an open guy, so I can easily talk about such topics in any sort of gathering, but in this case, it was brought up quite inappropriately, and thus it caused the awkwardness that occured. I'd certainly be feeling a little uncomfortable too if the topic suddenly changed like that.
     
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    I agree for sure!

    No way i would tell girlfriends about my guys size.. if they notice by themselves its another thing...but to comment something like that saying is a compliment, its no ok with me. Just imagine the situation reverse and a guy commenting about your gf "attributes" like that ?!

    :rolleyes:
     
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    I've had stuff like that recently.

    In the last job I did my penis was a very frequent topic of conversation, although I was never involved in the conversations (I'm very noisy, which I know I shouldn't be, and I have very very good hearing).

    The worst thing for me was as my name and previous posts suggest, I'm in no way well endowed, which I even told them twice, three times if you count what they read on this forum.

    It even got to the stage where every morning when I came in one of the girls (who sat near the door, but with her back to it) would look at my crotch every morning and coment to everyone near her on the size it was that morning (as I'm sure all you guys know while flacid it changes all the time).

    There was alot of other stuff going on (which is not related to this topic) and in the end I had to leave (although it screwed me finacially, and in a few other ways, but thats life).

    While work isn't really like a gathering, I did feel objectified (mainly by the women) and I just wanted to say what I have learned, if people make you feel awkward or objectify you, just think fuck them, as there not worth worring about.

    Sorry if my rant was a little of topic, but I think the point is simaliar.
     
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    How did the girl find out about your size?

    I hope your gf had not been talking to her best friend about your private parts. I would find that most indiscrete. And even more if she is aware that the best friend is not quite one for keeping secrets.
     
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    I was wondering if someone would beat me to it! Yeah, you need to have a very stern conversation with your gf, and let her know that under NO circumstances is it appropriate for her to discuss your penis size with ANYONE, best friend or not. As for the friend who made the comments - next time something like that happens, an appropriate response would be along the lines of "I'm terribly sorry that you are so uncouth, let me educate you: my penis is neither your business, nor an appropriate topic of conversation at a dinner party."
     
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    I've said it before, but my size has gets brought up fairly often amongst my friends. I think the key difference is I have a very tight knit group of friends that loves to goof off and joke around and we all take little jabs at each other. Additionally, damn near all of my friends know for one reason or another - word of mouth, people sharing/showing my pics, etc.

    Being a tight knit group, however, also means they all know me pretty well and I know I don't have take any real issue with it being brought up past going red in the face for a few moments.

    When somebody doesn't know you that well or brings it up in front of a bunch of people that don't know without knowing how you feel about it or knowing that it would make you uncomfortable is just rude. Talk to your girlfriend and her friend about it. Maybe even the other girls that were there. A quick, "This is awkward for me, but please don't ever do anything like [whoever] did the other night and just randomly tell people things about my body. It's rude and makes me uncomfortable," will probably do the trick.
     
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    Indeed, it was rude. That's what I call a backhanded compliment. The fact that the GF and friend were not embarrassed (and they were the ones who should have been) shows a lack of social decorum and common sense.
     
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    it is rude to just blurt it out like that.....i personally am an open guy.....but not when there is a bunch of people and my gf's best friend blurts it out......

    ive had it where my gf said i have great girth, but we were on the topic of sex and there was only me, my gf and another couple we frequently hang out with, and we were all not phased by the comment.....cause it was part of the topic.
     
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    Right after we were married my wife hosted a ladies card game at our house. Lots of wine was flowing. When they got giddy she mentioned to her friends about my size. She confessed to me later what she had said, and kept apologizing over and over saying it was the wine that was talking and making her brag.

    Of all people, it was my sister-in-law (no, not her sister, her brother's wife) who made mention of it later joking about inviting me to a swim party at their house. Just me and trunks were optional.

    My wife never lived that one down.
     
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    People will look ... and occasionally stare. It's human nature. It doesn't mean anything's wrong with you, or them. Your "visual attraction" of the moment may have caught the attention of the commentator - who then may have felt "caught looking" and felt compelled to comment as an "excuse" for looking. It's kinda similar to when you may see an usual person in a store, look at them maybe a few seconds longer than the norm and someone else sees you staring.
     
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    It all depends on the situation. Who is there. Where you are. What the occasion is. The spirit of the comment also plays a major role.

    A comment about a 3L Chardonnay bottle being a MagnumXL, at a bar is different that at a New Year's Eve dinner party. When just casually joking around with friends, I have no issue with the mention of my big cock. I have even at times "whipped it out" for people's drunken amusement. However, at a occasion event, even with the same people, the atmosphere is different and comments about my cock are not appropriate. Most of friends get this, a few don't.
     
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