My Size talked about at gathering

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Irish said:
I've said it before, but my size has gets brought up fairly often amongst my friends. I think the key difference is I have a very tight knit group of friends that loves to goof off and joke around and we all take little jabs at each other. Additionally, damn near all of my friends know for one reason or another - word of mouth, people sharing/showing my pics, etc.

Being a tight knit group, however, also means they all know me pretty well and I know I don't have take any real issue with it being brought up past going red in the face for a few moments.

When somebody doesn't know you that well or brings it up in front of a bunch of people that don't know without knowing how you feel about it or knowing that it would make you uncomfortable is just rude. Talk to your girlfriend and her friend about it. Maybe even the other girls that were there. A quick, "This is awkward for me, but please don't ever do anything like [whoever] did the other night and just randomly tell people things about my body. It's rude and makes me uncomfortable," will probably do the trick.


Probably kind of an Irish thing, right? It seems like the whole "irish attitude" to joke around rather harshly and take jabs at each other all in good fun

On a second note, i've recently discovered this slight "downside" of packing a big tool as well...although it's never a downside so much if you look at it the right way- it's like you're being glorified for something you never asked for, yet you simply possess it. Strange concept huh? Lex made a good point though about being objectified cuz i've felt that way before too, even by my gf here and there but deep down I know exactly how she feels about me:wink:

It has come up in subtle ways though, with her friends...which of course leads me to believe that my girl clued them in as to what i'm packin. I'll just sorta nod my head (sometimes even blush, can't control that) and laugh it off and they'll see that i'm a bit uncomfortable with the topic and change it...at least for the time being

Ya just gotta see it in the right light...being objectified or "picked on" for having a big cock is better than being picked on for many other things although I DO understand it gets annoying :redface:
 

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It happened to me just the other night, happens quite a lot with one aunt always talking about it. I told her to just fuck off and get the fuck out of the house (yes its that annoying!).

Maybe deal with it or ask your wife to tell her friend/s to be quiet?
 

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It was interesting finding this group online today. I'd never before considered the ways in which I have needed support around having a large penis. This thread brought to mind my high school days. As a teenager, and one struggling with being gay, I was given the nickname "meat" in the high school locker room. Soon everyone was calling me that, and I hated it. Even the girls knew, and I was embarrassed. One of the foreign exchange students asked me "why does everyone call you 'meat'?" and I turned crimson. A girl told him. It was awful. I felt like I was being made fun of.
 

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I felt like I was being made fun of.[/quote]

Yes you are right, no one likes being treated like a human dildo (without their consent:wink:). To be treated as a bigger than average dildo or talked about as such, by people who don't know you, is pretty offfensive.

You could try "I'm a person too", but then again I'm sure it is often not even worth a comment.

Hey and the one thing the older people I know all say is "I wish I didn't worry so much when I was younger".

Luckily there are plenty here to support big penises!
 

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I agree with Lex and other posters about the difference between complimentary banter - the kind of talk which makes you feel proud and gives a feeling of penile superiority - and being objectified in an inappropriate and somewhat hostile way. My most recent experience of the latter was a few months ago in a club when I bumped into a group of girls who work for the same company as me but in a different department. This group are people who normally at work I might meet only maybe 2 or 3 times a year at company parties or by chance. They all said hi to me, but one of them just shouted out, "Hi Carter, I hear you have a massive cock!" This was embarrassing and confrontational. Had the subject come up in a more lighthearted way, with people I knew well (as it has done in the past), I would have felt more comfortable. As it was, I didn't know what to say and promptly left the club!
 

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I got this once a few years back, big mouthed ex GF had blabbed, and I was not hapy at the tone of the conversation...Also was I was on the way to being drunk I made some comment body parts along the lines of...

"OK lets compare body parts...XXX your tits are are the biggest here....YYY you've got the biggest arse I've ever seen...WWW and you your goatee makes your mouth look like a half shaved cunt....My dick size is my business not yours"

Everyone went silent then Keith my Brother burst out laffing and everyone followed. It was never raised agian.
 

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About 15 years ago I posed for a photo spread in a gay male magazine. One of the girls at work got hold of a copy of the magazine and brought it in to work where it got passed around. I was "out" at work about my sexual preferance but I wasn't quite ready for that. Fortunately the place I was working was pretty liberal and I wasn't worried about getting fired but it was kind of embarassing. They told me I turned bright red when I saw everybody looking at the pictures.
It turned out OK though. The next day my boss told me that he was hung like me he'd probably pose nude too.
 

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My best bud in grad school has made an occasional crack about my dick among my friends. It wasn't like I could sit him down then and there and explain how I felt about it. I was more shocked than made uncomfortable, simply because if I wanted these particular friends to know about my dick, then I would've talked about it. Some knew, some didn't, and I think they all took it in stride.

Objectification can be blatant and it can be subtle too. It's probably not a good idea to be treated as a piece of meat and to only be regarded for your dick, and I certainly can't say I like someone to just point out my dick and go on and on about it. (Hell, let me at least whip it out and get it hard first.)

Likewise, if someone airs out your business and you don't appreciate it, then that's the real problem, whether we're talking about dicks or secrets or whatever.
 

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my wife talks about it openly, and it's embarrassed me a few times... hell, last night a friend of mine were talking and the subject of sex between my wife and i came up. i quickly tried to vier away from it, and my friend said "yeah, i already know too much about your big penis... and the nasty sex-stuff she brings up while in public places"

last time she did something embarassing was when she and i were at an art event at a bar and there was a free condom booth. she was *lit* and while 4 people we both know pretty well are up there at the booth, she goes up to the condom guy and loudly goes: "MY HUSBAND NEEDS BIG CONDOMS. WHICH ARE THE BEST?" i was embarassed as hell.

it's embarassing, but it's kinda good feeling that she enjoys talking about it and that people know about it. or... maybe she does it to make me feel better about myself.

oh, damnit.
 

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I had the same problem with being talked about at a gathering but it was about my piercing. I felt like everyone was looking at my cock for the rest of the evening.
It is strange that people who you thing would keep their mouths closed, don't.
 

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This happend to me at party a women looking at my pants said "My good you're huge" (she was actually seeing my balls because I'm a shower and its was cold), My gf said agreed as did a another women I dated who was there. It was embrassing but if I have to be embrassed this was ok. The problems was my roommate really got depressed over it. My gf os the time was quit vocal on the subject maybe she was trying to get his goat it certainly worked. He's still mad at me. I don't unerstand why none of the women said he big and he;s small.
 

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Maybe I'm just old fasioned here, but how exactly do you just bring that up in a conversation? What's wrong with this girl, is she that illmannered, or just stupid?
 

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In another post I talked about a co-worker that I had druken sex with. She told alot of the females where we work. My sex life has become busy with the all of the women who want to try it out. I know that it will become oh well lets get it over with.... but for now, I'm having a great time.:biggrin1:
 

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BigPoppaFury said:
I never felt anything but happy when people commented on my size but a few weeks back I was drinking with a couple of friends and we were talking about successes with women etc etc. One of my friends said "but it's easy for you, you got a a big cock that's why you get so much". It's the first time I'd felt vaguely insulted by someone saying something along those lines. It was like he was implying that my cock is my main attractive quality. Cheers mate!! There I was thinking it's cos I'm a nice guy....
First, cut off your penis to prevent it from being used for further insult material. Next, kill the guy's kids. Kill his wife. Kill his parents, everyone in his family, his friends. Burn down his house, his work, his car, anything else he owns. That'll make him think twice about insulting people.
 

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Spladle said:
First, cut off your penis to prevent it from being used for further insult material. Next, kill the guy's kids. Kill his wife. Kill his parents, everyone in his family, his friends. Burn down his house, his work, his car, anything else he owns. That'll make him think twice about insulting people.


:rofl: Spladle haaaaaaahahaha
 

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Wonderboy said:
It happened to me just the other night, happens quite a lot with one aunt always talking about it. I told her to just fuck off and get the fuck out of the house (yes its that annoying!).

Maybe deal with it or ask your wife to tell her friend/s to be quiet?

You know, I would probably never speak to her again. That is a pervert and I don't think my parents would associate with that relative.

I have had to endure a lot of harassment over the years from men and women. I am a man not a penis. At least once a week, a woman I work with looks at my crotch and says, "Is that real or pinned on?" That crap got old a long time ago. A sure fire way to make sure you don't get to see it, is comment on it.

Now if it's a buddy and we are off by ourselves and just joking, it's okay just don't go too far.
 

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bighosenow said:
About 15 years ago I posed for a photo spread in a gay male magazine. One of the girls at work got hold of a copy of the magazine and brought it in to work where it got passed around. I was "out" at work about my sexual preferance but I wasn't quite ready for that. Fortunately the place I was working was pretty liberal and I wasn't worried about getting fired but it was kind of embarassing. They told me I turned bright red when I saw everybody looking at the pictures.
It turned out OK though. The next day my boss told me that he was hung like me he'd probably pose nude too.

Oh man, I feel for ya. Cool boss tho. I'd have had to find a new job. I have been groped, poked, prodded, been overed everything including rubber handcuffs. Sigh Earlier this year I filed a complaint of sexual harassment and boss ordered it stopped. It only stopped for a little while. :/ I guess I need to take notes so I can sue the post office big time. oooo
 

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About 3 years ago, the Then "love of my life" and I were at a get together after a company party. About 20 people were there and not one of us was sober, most were stoned a few tripped out on E, the conversation turns to sex. My girlfriend at the time was bicurious so it was easy for her to talk about sex back and forth with both men and women obviously turned on by the thought. She blurts out eventually that even though she wants to try sex with a woman, she loves cock too much, and mine especially. I turned a little red in the face but accepted this as fact, she then grabbed it and started to rub it in front of everyone, telling them it was huge, (to clarify I was wearing pants), she then began argueing with anyone who might try to make a comment on their own boyfriends size saying that absolutely NOBODY had a bigger dick than me. She then in her drunken stupor told me to pull it out for all to see. I declined but from that day forward at work I was pretty much made fun of, because of her actions and words, I'm not saying its wrong to be proud of your lovers dick size, after all I am not small and I know it, but it might be wrong to put him in a situatin where they might be embarassed by the fact.
 

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My cock size is brgught up all the time with my friends. I've just learned to take what comes. Its not like someone with a big cock should be worried about it...if you have it show it off. Yes there is more to me then just a big cock but it is an important part of me and one that I and everyone else loves.
 
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I was at a party once and some people in the other room were watching porn,
one of the girls said something about the size of one of the actors dick as

being huge. When a long time friend remarked Randys is as big if bigger than

that guy. This friend and I used to watch porn and jerk off together so he

has seen my erect penis many times before. A few hours latter after every

one is good and drunk I notice this girl with a few other girls having a good

laugh at my expence, so I ask what is the joke she proceeds to tell me what

my friend said and says there is no way some as short and skinny as you has

a dick that big. So after a while of listening to her drunken big moulth I bet

her 100 it over 8" She did not accept, but she shut up. A few more drinks in

me and I probably would have pulled it out. But at that point I was actully

quite embassased actully.