My str8 friend wants to have FIRST gay experience

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I literally just finished having a long Facebook conversation with a good friend of mine. He's a straight guy who has been fantasizing about sucking another man's dick and we agreed that I would be the recipient lol.

Some background: Me and this guy have been friends since HS, about 24 years! He's Italian, about 5"6-5"7, athletic build, good looking, and someone I considered to be 100% str8. He kinda looks like Chris Cornell from the band Soundgarden, just shorter haha. As long as I've known him, he's been a total heterosexual and has been in many LTRs with women, and even lived with one and her son for a couple of years. Never had any hint from him that he was ever interested in men.

I'm still kind of shocked by the converastion we just had. He sent me a message earlier just asking what's up, how ya been, just to catch up because we haven't hung out or spoken for a few months. A few minutes into our back and forth, he mentions that he has "something embarassing" he wanted to tell me. Long story short, he's been fantasizing about sucking MY dick and recently dreamed about it. He even mentioned that the last time we hung out, he had considered making a move but didn't. He specified that he's only interested in sucking me (no recip), and "turned on by wondering if he can fit it all in my mouth and down my throat". Those were his words! Another thing that he specified was he wanted to do it next time the urge came up, and not necessarily plan it out. Kinda like I'd be "on call". I thought that was interesting.

I've posted messages here about my experiences with str8 friends before and he will be the latest addition to the list. Initially, I could tell he was very nervous when he was admitting all this, but sensed he was relieved when I mentioned that I've had encounters with str8 friends before. Can't wait to see how it goes! And yes, if possible, I want to get his dick in my mouth too, but we will take things at his pace.

I'll keep u posted and share the details after it happens.
 

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Since you have been with other straight friends (as have I) you already know how weirded out they can get after they cum even when they initiate.
 

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Hmmm. . have an open mind. . "curious / experimenting" guys, need some leg room. . you need to be willing to allow him to do what he is comfortable doing. . So, that he has a good experience with you. Just keep an open mind, and make sure communication of both of your needs are met before you do hook up, and you should be fine.

grats on some play time with your experimenting friend.

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Update:

My friend and I wound up getting together last weekend. He came over very late Friday night, like 2:30am! After some casual conversation, we wound up in my bedroom. He was very nervous at that point, and we decided I would strip down to my underwear and lay on the bed. He remained clothed. I slipped my hand under the waistband of my boxers and began stroking myself but wasn't getting aroused. I didn't realize that I was a little nervous until that point. I suggested that he sit on the bed next to me which he did. Then I guided his hand under my waistband to my cock and he started stroking it. At the same time I asked if I could rub his thighs and chest which he agreed to, and I finally began to get an erection.

After a minute or so, I slipped out of my boxers and got him to take his shirt off. He allowed me to play with and suck his nipples which was a turn on for me, but he said he wasn't into nipple action, even with women. He went back to stroking my cock and a few moments later leaned in and sucked it into his mouth. He sucked only the head and top half of my cock at first then really went for it and buried his face in my pubes a few times with my cock down his throat and he seemed to enjoy it. We switched positions with him sitting on the edge of the bed and me standing and gently face fucking him, then back to our original position. I asked if he would like to take his pants off but he didn't want to, but he did let me rub his semi hard cock through his jeans. However, his jeans (with cell phone clipped to his hip) never came off hahaha.

After about 5-10 min of alternately sucking my cock and stroking it, his jaw was getting tired and he said he "didn't realize how much work sucking a cock was." We both laughed about that. We stopped and just sat in bed talking the rest of the time. I remained naked just to see if he would get the urge again to fool around but nothing else happened.

So that's the end of the story for now. One more straight friend to add to my "list", and he had his first experience with another guy. I must admit, there was a certain amount of awkwardness and I never got rock hard because I had never actually been sexually attracted to him. However, I thought it was cool that he felt comfortable enough to approach me with his fantasy, and he said he'll probably want to do it again sometime.
 

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Unfortunately, I don't think you'll ever have a normal friendship with him again. Assuming his past indicates he leans towards women with a little curiosity about men, you will now always be the man that knows his secret and makes him feel a little less masculine (not a rational thought process; but a rational thought process doesn't lead to asking to be sexual with platonic friends). Plus there will always be thought in both of your heads as to whether he has an ongoing "thing" for you. I hope I'm wrong and you can keep your friendship. Good luck.
 

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Unfortunately, I don't think you'll ever have a normal friendship with him again. Assuming his past indicates he leans towards women with a little curiosity about men, you will now always be the man that knows his secret and makes him feel a little less masculine (not a rational thought process; but a rational thought process doesn't lead to asking to be sexual with platonic friends). Plus there will always be thought in both of your heads as to whether he has an ongoing "thing" for you. I hope I'm wrong and you can keep your friendship. Good luck.



Agreed.
I've lost a really good friendship once because of this.
 

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Thanks for the thoughts guys.

To Mikey and JJ: Everything seems to be cool so far. We have been chatting normally on FB as if nothing happened. I highly doubt he'll develop a "thing" for me. There was absolutely no emotional aspect to the whole experience for either of us. I really just think it was an experimental thing that he wanted to try and get out of his system.

To Mark: Lol, actually we did discuss my size beforehand. I sensed he was wondering if I had a stereotypical gigantic 13 inch BBC, but I told him my size (7 1/4 x 5 1/4). Not monstrous, but it can be a mouthful for some people, especially the uninitiated. ;-0
 

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Much as I respect the posters who've argued that this is a quick way to lose a good friendship (and it definitely can be), I speak from experience when I say that it doesn't have to. Just as you can be friends with exes, a solid friendship can withstand a bit of sexual curiosity. It is, of course, best approached with great care; however, it sounds like this guy really trusts you, luvguyz, and that you've been intuitively respecting each others limits.
 

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Not trying to start a debate here, but there's something I really don't get. Why do some people insist on acting like the term straight is a gray area? If you're playing with other dude's cocks you're NOT straight. Call it bi, whatever, but it's not straight. Is it just a fantasy some gay guys have to want to pretend the guy they're hooking up with is straight? Truly curious, I don't get it at all...
 
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Not trying to start a debate here, but there's something I really don't get. Why do some people insist on acting like the term straight is a gray area? If you're playing with other dude's cocks you're NOT straight. Call it bi, whatever, but it's not straight. Is it just a fantasy some gay guys have to want to pretend the guy they're hooking up with is straight? Truly curious, I don't get it at all...

I know this is a huge problem for some posters on here, but I think you picked the wrong thread to complain about this. OP even said he "considered" - past tense - his friend 100% straight. To judge from his story, it sounds like the friend satisfied his curiosity for now and isn't switching teams anytime soon, haha. Sexual curiosity is a thing, and maybe this guy lost his 100% card that you guys seem to care so much about after trying stuff out with his friend, but I think it's accurate to call somebody "mostly straight" if that identifies their sexual behavior. It's a stretch to call somebody who's only played with a few cocks bisexual, in my opinion, although it works too.

I kind of think the percentage system that this site uses, and that I've encountered often socially, is pretty useful. Let me be clear, by the way, that I'm not a fan of (the minority of) gay guys who obsess over getting straight guys to fool around, often inappropriately, as well as the straight guys who refuse to admit they are anything but completely straight even if they habitually fool around with guys, and I especially have no patience for people who try the "everybody is bisexual!" BS line, because that detracts from the valid point that sexuality does allow for a lot of fluidity without negating the absolutes either - but everybody's got their blind spots to work through and I don't think what somebody chooses to label themselves ultimately has a negative impact on anybody else (except perhaps the confusion it creates for their sexual partners, potential or othewise, heh). Not sure why it should matter so much, apart from clarity in discussion. If some guy says "Oh, I hooked up with my straight friend last weekend," just mentally replace the "straight" with your preferred usage instead of getting bent out of shape.
 

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I've had some experiences with straight curious friends. The responses afterwards really were varied. I did lose one, but the others were a mixture of neutral to good responses. Guess it's really dependent on the guy involved.
 

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I know this is a huge problem for some posters on here, but I think you picked the wrong thread to complain about this. OP even said he "considered" - past tense - his friend 100% straight. To judge from his story, it sounds like the friend satisfied his curiosity for now and isn't switching teams anytime soon, haha. Sexual curiosity is a thing, and maybe this guy lost his 100% card that you guys seem to care so much about after trying stuff out with his friend, but I think it's accurate to call somebody "mostly straight" if that identifies their sexual behavior. It's a stretch to call somebody who's only played with a few cocks bisexual, in my opinion, although it works too.

I kind of think the percentage system that this site uses, and that I've encountered often socially, is pretty useful. Let me be clear, by the way, that I'm not a fan of (the minority of) gay guys who obsess over getting straight guys to fool around, often inappropriately, as well as the straight guys who refuse to admit they are anything but completely straight even if they habitually fool around with guys, and I especially have no patience for people who try the "everybody is bisexual!" BS line, because that detracts from the valid point that sexuality does allow for a lot of fluidity without negating the absolutes either - but everybody's got their blind spots to work through and I don't think what somebody chooses to label themselves ultimately has a negative impact on anybody else (except perhaps the confusion it creates for their sexual partners, potential or othewise, heh). Not sure why it should matter so much, apart from clarity in discussion. If some guy says "Oh, I hooked up with my straight friend last weekend," just mentally replace the "straight" with your preferred usage instead of getting bent out of shape.

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I've had some experiences with straight curious friends. The responses afterwards really were varied. I did lose one, but the others were a mixture of neutral to good responses. Guess it's really dependent on the guy involved.

This has been my experience also. Actually, things never became hostile after some experimentation and everybody kept their dignity, but when I think about it, I "lost" contact with the first guy who gave me my first blow job. I felt guilty for enjoying it so much.
 

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My experiences with straight guys have also been varied. The thing is, not everyone is the same, and things change from generation to generation too. The younger generation are generally less fanatical about sexuality and the labels than my generation was. There are a lot of guys in their late teens and 20's now who don't think it's a big deal to experiment and wouldn't care so much if someone found out.

As this guy was brave enough to just come out and say it to his friend, it suggests that he's not that worried about things and not too reserved when it comes to sex. Those saying their straight friend got weird after it probably didn't have the friend suggest it to them, and it was probably a drunken opportunity that the straight friend then later regretted.

All guys are different. I have several straight friends who enjoy mutual masturbation and even sucking and they never felt weird about it as far as I know. They keep coming back, so it's obviously not that much of a problem for them.

I currently have three good friends I talk to regularly, hang out with regularly, and sometimes we wank and suck too. It's not a big deal and if anything it's made our friendship stronger.