MY UNCLE FOUND MY PICS

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dayne: Did your Uncle react any differently than you would have expected under the circumstances? If he reacted as you would expected, then you took a chance, got caught, and now you pay the price. I personally think there is a way you might be able to start earning his respect again.

Tell your Uncle that it was completely inappropriate for you to use his computer as you did, that you were wrong to do so. Tell him you recognize his concern for his children under the circumstances. Then, ask him to forgive you and what he you can do to make things right in his eyes. It takes a very big person to admit when your wrong. And this is something you do only if you are absolutely sincere about it. Otherwise, it is a total waste of time to even think of it. If you do this you open yourself to finding out what is really on your Uncle's mind. And it means your relationship with him and his family is important enough to be a man and stand up to the consequences of what occured.

Some people might call me melodramatic. I think not. I think you may be under estimating how much his concern for this children enters in to this. With all the crazy things that are happening with children in the world today, many parents are more worried than you might imagine. You know that he has nothing to worry about, but he doesn't. ( I say this based on how I read your posts.) What you will say to him as to why you did it, and how you will handle it in the future, I can't tell you. I had a situation with my brother in law which had some similarities to this. He ended up apologizing to me-he totally misunderstood something. It has taken almost five years for him to really be comfortable with me again. Remember anything that could possibly be interpreted as a threat to a man's children probably is one of the greatest threat's he will ever encounter.

Good luck.

 

[MASSIVEPKGO_CHUCK]

Bottom line, if you knew he might've exhibited this type of behavior over it, you shouldn't have posted your pics on his PC---period.

 

[Freddie53]

Originally posted by Flux@Dec 21 2004, 11:27 AM
Well my uncle found my pics on his computer (pics of my cock), I was using his comp while my net was off. He thinks there's something seriously wrong with me for having my pics on the net and for leaving them (accidentally) on his comp. He has two kids and was worried about them finding them, and I know that was a bad thing. Really I want some advice on how to explain myself to my uncle...and quick!

Oh and I'm Knight-7x6 in case you havent figured it out, my uncle also thought I was gay so I had to tell him the pics were mine, so its all very bad. The pics he saw were the Left Handed and My Erection II, not the smallest of pics. Help please.

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Yes, some have posted that your uncle was concerned about his children. That is very very compelling reason for him to be concerned. But also, his concern may also be just embarassment. He doesn't know how to deal with this. He may not care as much as you think he does that you did it as he is responding how he "thinks" he is supposed to respond.

As a school teacher, I expressed "outrage" over things that I thought were hilarious, but there was no way I could publicly acknowledge the humor in it. It was expected and according to school rules was inappropriate behavior, but still there were some times I was just overtaken inside with laughter.

Your uncle may in talking with your Dad or other guys his age be laughing about it all, but believes he is supposed to be hardline with you about it according to society rules.

So I agree with others, apologize and try to make it right. I bet he is more than willing to get this behind him. I suspect he is as squirmish about how to handle it as you are.

 

[13788]

dayne: I have a feeling that his uncle isn't laughing about this one. If he was, I think he would have approached this thing in a very different manner from the very beginning. For this guy's sake I hope you are right.

 

[Pecker]

This 'problem' is not too far from Mom finding those 'filthy' magazines tucked under the mattress.

Part of growing up is learning that adults can find anything, especially if the discovery is going to be embarrassing as hell.

Your uncle will get over this a long time before you will.

 

[Knight-7x6]

My mum made a joke of the mags and told all my family, that wasn't too bad. My uncle hasn't had a talk with me yet I think he's over it now, more shocked than anything maybe since he doesnt know why I'd want to post my pics on the net, and the major concern of my aunt was that men were looking at my pics lol.

 

[Bluespeedoz]

Hey guy,

There are two issues -

One, that you used your uncles computer to post the pics and left them on the hard drive;
Two, that he discovered you had posted your pics and that his view of you has now changed in a negative way.

How should you tackle your uncle.

Well one, I'd readily admit responsibility for leaving the pics on his computer, albeit accidentally, and agree that they could have been seen by his children although this is not likely. Reassure him that if he were to let you use his computer again that you will not leave pics on it (it might be a good idea to clear the history in the internet browser).

Two, is more difficult but not impossible to deal with. I think that you should tactfully but firmly tell him that while he found these pics you that remain same person your uncle has always known and loved. Add that while you understand his shock ask him for his assurance that he will try and see things from your point of view too. I think he will come around and that all will be well, especially when he sees that you have not changed and are the nephew he has known and loved.

Finally I think you have some issues too. Posting pics and buying xxx magazines is something probably most young guys do - I did!

When I was 14 I know I hid my stash of xxx magazines out of a simple desire to be secretive ie because I didn't want my mom and dad to see them and conclude that I was some sort of pervert. But I was careless and eventually my xxx magazines were found by my mom. She didn't say anything, just left them on my bed. My dad told me that while mom was shocked it wasn't the xxx magazines that were the cause. Her shock was caused by her acknowledgement that I was growing up fast and wanting to know about sex and so on. It had also caused her to think about my twin brother who had died a year before and how he might have grown and developed. My dad assured me that what I had done was perfectly normal and understandable. He asked me to have a quiet word with mom. I assured her that I was still the boy she had nurtured for so many years and that while I was growing and changing I would always love her. I told her for the first time that I missed my twin brother immensely,about how guilty and empty I felt and that while I could not bring him back that I would always love and think about him. We hugged.

After this I always left my xxx magazines in my room where they could be seen. And I always made sure that if I wanted to talk about anything that I included mom and dad. I also began to talk about twin brother and so I began to acknowledge my grief. Mom and dad got over the shock of this incident very quickly. But it took me longer because yes, I too had to acknowledge I was growing and changing which can be both exciting and scary at the same time. You may need to acknowldege this too.

And finally, nothing is ever as bad as we think it is. So don't panic, take a deep breath and get on positively with life because that is what it is for!!

 

[Kimahri]

Apologize to the uncle. He was young once.

I had a friend use my PC to watch porn. Didn't mind much, but he was another heavy shooter (I seem to find these guys...much like finding the hung boys too) and didn't clean up well. Kinda irritating.