My wife is getting nastier by the seconds...

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No wonder she's getting nasty if you are not listening when she says no. You have already hurt her feelings. Watch your porn of MFM and keep it on the screen until she gets the ability to explain herself to you more clearly.

Even in a marriage, no means no. She will explain if she can.
 

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This is a hilarious scenario! Does she give you a reason she doesn't want sex sometimes? Like maybe a headache? And that's reason enough for you, but saying no to another guy in the bed demands a judicial brief?

Yeah, I can imagine she's getting nastier. Justice would prevail if you finally prevailed and she preferred him over you.

Friend, leave it be. Threesomes are not natural occurrences nor are they necessary for a happy life. I saw a bear juggle before and it was a novelty. Didn't make my life any fuller nor would I have regretted not experiencing it.

Keep it a fantasy and leave your poor wife alone with this stuff. She said no. Respect her wishes.
 

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If she trust you 100% and she is into that kind of lifestyle then maybe she'll do it but from your post I can see she doesn't trust you at all and she is not interested in it. End story.
 

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Whatever. I still think she should give you, the husband, a reason why.


You seem to me like someone who hasn't had a very long serious relationship or someone who isn't married. The only explanation she is "required" to give is that she doesn't want too. Marriage is a "partnership". 50/50. If she doesn't want to do something that's it. You can explain your side and offer incentives or reasons why she might want too but at the end of the day if she says no then respect it and move the fuck on. This whole post doesn't seem very respectful of her wishes. Only of how to "coax" her into something she doesn't want to do.
 

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You seem to me like someone who hasn't had a very long serious relationship or someone who isn't married. The only explanation she is "required" to give is that she doesn't want too. Marriage is a "partnership". 50/50. If she doesn't want to do something that's it. You can explain your side and offer incentives or reasons why she might want too but at the end of the day if she says no then respect it and move the fuck on. This whole post doesn't seem very respectful of her wishes. Only of how to "coax" her into something she doesn't want to do.
truth.

coercing people into sex they really don't want?
to me that's a very short moral distance from rape.
it's not something a loving partner should ever do.
 

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truth.

coercing people into sex they really don't want?
to me that's a very short moral distance from rape.
it's not something a loving partner should ever do.


Now that you mention it yes, it is very close to that. Maybe it was just me, but I've always been taught respect women. Their thoughts, their bodies, everything. It is something I can thank my mother and father for. I wonder what upbringing some of these posters have that makes them think this type of "coercion" is ok? It all starts at home. (Atleast I think so, I don't have much to base it on cept my own limited experience)
 

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Now that you mention it yes, it is very close to that. Maybe it was just me, but I've always been taught respect women. Their thoughts, their bodies, everything. It is something I can thank my mother and father for. I wonder what upbringing some of these posters have that makes them think this type of "coercion" is ok? It all starts at home. (Atleast I think so, I don't have much to base it on cept my own limited experience)
i did date an otherwise fantastic guy for a while,
but he kept needling on this exact same issue.
i dumped him. two years on he still calls me,
says he was stupid, that he's learned.
he thinks he's lost his soul mate.
i think i've lost nothing.
i'd rather die alone.
 

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i did date an otherwise fantastic guy for a while,
but he kept needling on this exact same issue.
i dumped him. two years on he still calls me,
says he was stupid, that he's learned.
he thinks he's lost his soul mate.
i think i've lost nothing.
i'd rather die alone.
did you do that inverted stairstep thingy with the end of each sentence on purpose? way cool!
 

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did you do that inverted stairstep thingy with the end of each sentence on purpose? way cool!
i like doing that. i like my words to be the right shape. sometimes they step in, sometimes they step out, sometimes they zigzag. sometimes i spend several minutes changing my wording, substituting words, to make it all the right shape. that one wasn't neat enough to give proper satisfaction though.

yay aspergers!
 

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Well, I actually have a nice story about wht happened this past weekend with my wife and her good friend but I'm going to save tht for another time. QUESTION, wht is the best way to convince your partner to have a 3 some? My wife has done alot but I want to try her out with another guy, she's almost game but she still acts effy abt it when I ask... Wht to do?
Don't push it. If she isn't into it leave it alone. Your reaction to seeing your wife with another man may be different than you think.
 

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dnt know, how about posting sum pics of her? maybe tht will inspire us
don't encourage him. i doubt she would appreciate her photos posted here.
this is your wife.
show her some respect.
what Ms. Dolfie said.
And he is clearly her husband. She should give him a viable reason first before rejecting his idea.
viable reason: i don't want to. you're my husband, you should respect me enough to not push the issue.
Whatever. I still think she should give you, the husband, a reason why.
what? like getting a note to be excused from gym class?
If she trust you 100% and she is into that kind of lifestyle then maybe she'll do it but from your post I can see she doesn't trust you at all and she is not interested in it. End story.
did i miss a post? where did her not trusting him come up? her resistance is all about no interest, trusting your partner doesn't alter personal tastes.
i like doing that. i like my words to be the right shape. sometimes they step in, sometimes they step out, sometimes they zigzag. sometimes i spend several minutes changing my wording, substituting words, to make it all the right shape. that one wasn't neat enough to give proper satisfaction though.

yay aspergers!

Aspies FTW!!
 

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Well, I actually have a nice story about wht happened this past weekend with my wife and her good friend but I'm going to save tht for another time. QUESTION, wht is the best way to convince your partner to have a 3 some? My wife has done alot but I want to try her out with another guy, she's almost game but she still acts effy abt it when I ask... Wht to do?
To get beyond all the chest thumping and moralizing of a situation which nobody but the OP really knows about...Go slow, ask her what kind of guy turns her on. Many times a holiday where you are in a different place will change the mood. You might find a single guy on his own, who will be in the same frame of mind.

Most of all talk to her, find out what she doesn't like about the idea and what she does and try to get her to a good place with what she doesn't like and to an even better place with what she does.
 

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i did date an otherwise fantastic guy for a while,
but he kept needling on this exact same issue.
i dumped him. two years on he still calls me,
says he was stupid, that he's learned.
he thinks he's lost his soul mate.
i think i've lost nothing.
i'd rather die alone.


Such poetry!! Better off without the schmuck.
 

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To get beyond all the chest thumping and moralizing of a situation which nobody but the OP really knows about...Go slow, ask her what kind of guy turns her on. Many times a holiday where you are in a different place will change the mood. You might find a single guy on his own, who will be in the same frame of mind.

Most of all talk to her, find out what she doesn't like about the idea and what she does and try to get her to a good place with what she doesn't like and to an even better place with what she does.


Still sounds like coercion especially after she has stated her position.
 

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it's like this...

i'm like a lot of women.
i occasionally meet a guy i might want to sleep with.
after several dates i'll usually realise i don't.
i actually want to shag a fraction of a percentage of men.
i could never just agree to the idea of a threesome.
i'd need to actually want to sleep them both.
as individuals.
an attraction, a connection, emotional and physical.
...even then i'd prefer a twosome anyway.

lots of women are like me.

if you want a woman who is happy to shag whoever,
why not invest in a blow-up doll?

^^^sometimes the shapes are random.