My wife's past...

[The Dragon]

When did the OP say she had CHEATED on him? They had been seeing each other for TWO WEEKS. Unless they were in a committed relationship, she did not "cheat".

All you men like to have the ability to bang whoever you want, whenever you want, even if dating a girl, often times saying "we're not serious" when hitting on a girl that you just met and then there's the made-famous-by-"friends" cop out of "We're on a break."

Please.

Give us a break, what works for you can work for us, too. They weren't serious YET, as the OP said clearly "things got serious quickly".

If the OP's wife hadn't committed to being "HIS" and "ONLY HIS" when she did the Marine, he's just another pathetically insecure guy snooping through his (evidently naive and trusting) woman's computer.

Dude, if you want my advice, and you did ask for it by posting this thread, I say... get over it, get over yourself and get on with trying to be a good husband.

Preach it!

 

[atlclgurl]

More important than the fact that she cheated, is that she LIED about it. She didn't tell OP the truth about what she had done that weekend. Why so, if there was no wrong doing?



You can't exactly compain about this if your defending a woman's right to do exactly the same thing. Learn not to double standard, please?

I say again, if OPs wife thought she was doing no wrong, then why the LIE?



Famously said by Rachael, a woman, I think you'll find.

The fact that OP's wife was bragging to a friend, but lying to her boyfriend doesn't suggest that she was anywhere near pure of heart in this matter.

Unless she is extremely apologetic about all this and wants to reassure OP, I don't think it bodes well as a statement of her character and the future of their relationship.

Dude, you're an idiot.

1. OP never said she cheated, that's just some crazy shit you got stuck in your head.
2. She wasn't "lying" she said she "hung out" with him... no need to go into details about exactly WHAT they did, especially with a guy you're DATING.
3. Learn not to use a double standard? You go first, pal. Btw, was not complaining, just pointing out that you "gentlemen" use this "we're not serious" tactic, so why can't we?
4. No, RACHAEL did not say it. Really, dude, google is a wonderful thing and it might help you to make just one point that is correct, you should seriously consider using it.
5. No lying. No committed relationship. Hence, no need to "lie".
6. No apologies needed.
7. Seriously, did you READ the OP's post? THEY BEEN FUCKING MARRIED FOR EIGHT YEARS! NOWHERE DOES OP SUGGEST SHE HAS CHEATED ON HIM IN THAT TIME.

God, you are dense.

 

[badger2395]

When did the OP say she had CHEATED on him? They had been seeing each other for TWO WEEKS. Unless they were in a committed relationship, she did not "cheat".

All you men like to have the ability to bang whoever you want, whenever you want, even if dating a girl, often times saying "we're not serious" when hitting on a girl that you just met and then there's the made-famous-by-"friends" cop out of "We're on a break."

Please.

Give us a break, what works for you can work for us, too. They weren't serious YET, as the OP said clearly "things got serious quickly".

If the OP's wife hadn't committed to being "HIS" and "ONLY HIS" when she did the Marine, he's just another pathetically insecure guy snooping through his (evidently naive and trusting) woman's computer.

Dude, if you want my advice, and you did ask for it by posting this thread, I say... get over it, get over yourself and get on with trying to be a good husband.

Best advice yet.

 

[D_Phallus P Phyllum]

I can't believe so many people - particularly women - are being so hard on this guy.

Just telling OP to "man up and deal with it" is no help at all. Everybody has different issues to deal with, many of which may seem trivial to other people, but huge to that person. Callously telling them to "get over themselves" is probably the most unhelpful thing anyone could think of saying. It actually re-affirms the perception to themselves that they have problem without doing anything to help solve it, when they might have been struggling to overcome that issue ineffectively for a long time. It's actually very cruel.

Furthermore, all you people giving "slap in the face" advice, should bear in mind that it is standard practice in couple's therapy to consider that if one person in a relationship has an issue, then the relationship has an issue; i.e. two people are involved. None of you have thought OP's wife is in any way responsible for the fact her husband feels insecure about this; you have all sought to absolve her of any blame at all. This is wrong.

Clearly his wife had not done enough to make him feel secure about the matter.

I seriously doubt that a female posting here on exactly the same subject would receive such harsh treatment - i.e. discovering an email written by her husband during their courting period, bragging to his friends about the fact he had been fucking the shit out of a hot dancer with a fantastic body, lovely tidy pussy, and superb sexual skills, and yet not finding any bragging email about herself. This would be bound to create self esteem issues in anyone.

There are some big issues at play here. Anyone familiar with this site should know that penis size is a HUGE source of concern for a lot of men. Also, the fact that she wrote a bragging email about the marine friend, but no bragging email about OP, even though she was courting him at the time. Then there is the fact that she did not tell him the truth about what she had been doing that weekend, until he found out the truth himself.

OP, I'd be really interested to know what your wife has said about this matter. Does she know how much it has affected you? Why has what she has said so far not allayed your concerns?

 

[D_GlennFeckless]

Reverse the situation and see if that puts things in a different light.

You meet a girl and start dating, but aren't to the point of being serious. At a party you run into a porn star, the most amazing body, she fucks like a pro, muscle control beyond compare. That was fun and you brag about it (wasn't really a porn star, just a bit actor but she was damn good) to your friend.

Your gf snoops and finds out, but is in love with you regardless & you get married.

Does she have a reason to be concerned 8 years hence?

 

[D_Elwald Harribum]

Yep this sort of thing happened to me. I was dating a girl for a few months when we first started dating I found out she had gone out to a concert and taken ecstasy and fucked a couple of guys and another girl. This was six months into our relationship. She had no Idea that I new about it and I kept fucking her for awhile because we were good at that together. I new the other girls and she said the guys they fucked had big cocks. That really did not bother me because I'm hung my self, but I did end up dumping her because she was a slut and cheated on me. I am a slut myself, but I don't cheat or lie!

 

[badger2395]

Yep this sort of thing happened to me. I was dating a girl for a few months when we first started dating I found out she had gone out to a concert and taken ecstasy and fucked a couple of guys and another girl. This was six months into our relationship. She had no Idea that I new about it and I kept fucking her for awhile because we were good at that together. I new the other girls and she said the guys they fucked had big cocks. That really did not bother me because I'm hung my self, but I did end up dumping her because she was a slut and cheated on me. I am a slut myself, but I don't cheat or lie!

Two weeks ain't the same as six months. Just sayin'

 

[seawolf1]

Stop it. Just stop it.

His dick probably wasn't that big, even though he may have fucked the shit out of her.

But seriously, stop it.

 

[molotovmuffin]

I call foul. The OP hasn't returned to his thread in three days....makes one wonder...

And to darkhorse...no one is being hard on the OP, they are being hard on you for the ridiculous crap you're spewing. Do you really believe that she lied because she didn't tell him? Does that mean you tell your partner everything, you never omitted facts from your past?


The OP never once has said that the wife/gf lied, never once did he say that she cheated, never once did he tell us her side of the story. What he said was that he snooped threw her private emails and was upset that the dude had a bigger dick than him. NOT that she fucked him. That's what he's upset about.

To the OP, there's an old statement that goes like this...If you don't want to know the answer, don't ask the question.

Seriously, their relationship isn't in any peril from her omissions, it's from his insecurities.

 

[spoon]

<<<<<<<<<A couple months of living together and I was fairly insecure at the time so I start snooping around on her computer and find her email open. She saved all of her emails with her best friend and I find one dated about two weeks after we starting hanging out. She is bragging to her best friend about the marine being back in town and him having a 10 inch dick and fucking the shit out of her.>>>>>>>>>>>


<<<<<<<<<it was the way i found out that makes it so difficult i think. and the fact that i was waiting for her the next day and we fucked and im sure i gave her head, ha. i know we were young and it was like 10 years ago >>>>>>>>>

you went thru her email. and, the way you found out is you went thru her email. how would you feel if she was going thru your email at the time?

 

[D_Phallus P Phyllum]

The OP never once has said that the wife/gf lied, never once did he say that she cheated,

The best definition of "cheating" that I heard was this - it's when you are doing something that would be considered sexual with someone else, and you don't want your partner to know about it.

I would say OP's wife behaviour qualifies. She lied because she said she was 'just hanging out', when in fact she was on her back, having the shit fucked out of her.

It's something she deemed okay to brag to a friend about, but didn't tell her future husband.

Seriously, their relationship isn't in any peril from her omissions, it's from his insecurities.

If one person in a relationship has a problem, the relationship has a problem. OPs wife created those insecurities, by not being honest with him. Not telling the truth is bound to make your partner not trust you - that is inevitable.

 

[backwoodsstud]

I know a guy that broke off his engagememt due to his fiance having been ridden more than seattle slew.he couldnt let her past go.

 

[D_Phallus P Phyllum]

And to darkhorse...no one is being hard on the OP, they are being hard on you for the ridiculous crap you're spewing.

I didn't really think people were being hard on me, to be honest. I don't think I've been spewing ridiculous crap either.

When people have said things like "you got what you deserved", "suck it up", "get over your insecurities", and "that'll teach you" I call that being hard on the OP. It's callous and totally unhelpful.

Does that mean you tell your partner everything, you never omitted facts from your past?

Yeah, I actually told my partner everything. No secrets, no lies, creates trust.

To the OP, there's an old statement that goes like this...If you don't want to know the answer, don't ask the question.

This is quite stupid, and doesn't apply. OP wasn't asking any questions, he was finding information - and he was right to, as his suspicions were confirmed.

Sometimes we need to find out information, whether we like that information or not. For example, it might be important to know whether your house is prone to subsidence, so you need to find out in order to protect your property - so you have to discover the answer to this question whether you like the answer or not. Obviously, you would prefer the answer to be 'no', but it's even more important if the answer is 'yes'.

Your quote is essentially advocating sticking your head in the sand, ergo, you are an idiot.

 

[flyboy]

How does she feel about you having pictures of your cock on the internet and you being part of a LPSG?

 

[molotovmuffin]

If one person in a relationship has a problem, the relationship has a problem. OPs wife created those insecurities, by not being honest with him. Not telling the truth is bound to make your partner not trust you - that is inevitable.

Sorry to break it to you but he was insecure before she ever came along. He purposely snooped in her emails looking for something to confirm his insecurities and he found it. I repeat, he isn't upset that she fucked the marine but that the marine has a bigger dick. Those are two entirely different issues.

 

[molotovmuffin]

Your quote is essentially advocating sticking your head in the sand, ergo, you are an idiot.

So you have resorted to calling names? Very big of you.

 

[D_Phallus P Phyllum]

Sorry to break it to you but

Lol, are you genuinely sorry, or are you being insincere? The latter, obviously. It always makes me laugh when people use these passive aggressive strategies; it shows a weakness of mind, frankly.

He purposely snooped in her emails looking for something to confirm his insecurities and he found it.

In which case, he was right to be suspicious, and his insecurity was not paranoia, but a correctly intuited concern.

I repeat, he isn't upset that she fucked the marine but that the marine has a bigger dick. Those are two entirely different issues.

No, your feeble mindedness is very apparent here. OBVIOUSLY he is concerned that she FUCKED the marine. If he had simply known that the marine had a bigger dick, but that it had had nothing to do with his wife, then it would even warrant posting here. "Some guy has a bigger dick than me - So what??"

It's the fact that the guy with the bigger dick FUCKED HIS WIFE that is the source of anxiety, and the fact she loved it, bragged to her friend about it, and LIED to him.

Why are you so obtuse, molotovmuffin? The opinions you have expressed here are so weak an ill-conceived, and have no baring on reality. I really don't think you should comment here anymore; Perhaps your opinions would be more suited to the "Fictitious Stories" forum?

 

[wilson989]

thanks for the replies everyone. sorry i havent got the chance to check the site for a couple of days. I really don't consider what she did cheating. we were not "exclusive" at the time. The thing that honestly bothers me so much is the fact that she was bragging to her friend about it and there was nothing about me when i was fucking her pretty much every day for the two weeks before that and for the 5 and a half months afterwards. I'm not 10 inches but I'm happy with my 6.5. The main issue i have with the whole situation is that he was obviously bigger than me. Whether he was 10 inches or not is besides the point, and she obviously loved it. So i wonder if my wife truely is a size queen. ive asked, she says no. and if she will always crave the elusive giant cock that i can't give her.

Also i attribute this situation to why I come to this site and jack off to girls fucking big cocks. So i guess something good did come out of it

 

[ruffboy]

you've gotta reconcile your own obsession with big cocks and the women who love them, one of which may, OR MAY NOT, be your wife. i went through the same crap years ago and this site did indeed help a lot, try not to get caught up in the drama of some posters here with their opinions on it all though. her bragging happened years ago and only months after the actual deed with the dude, has she been obsessing about it since? you'd have to ask her, don't rely too much on pundants here saying she will or won't, no one knows but her. if she has been, hell, maybe you've got a great marriage opportunity here to explore something you're both into that you can use for your own mutual benefit in the marriage (good sex with each other). if she's not, well then you'll have to accept the fact she's not a size queen and maybe you are.

btw, ain't nothing wrong with enjoying what you enjoy, coming here to jack off to girls fucking big cocks, that's all i meant by the 'size queen' comment. i sure as shit do it. and i'm 6.5 too, maybe its a length thing, as always ;-p

thanks for the replies everyone. sorry i havent got the chance to check the site for a couple of days. I really don't consider what she did cheating. we were not "exclusive" at the time. The thing that honestly bothers me so much is the fact that she was bragging to her friend about it and there was nothing about me when i was fucking her pretty much every day for the two weeks before that and for the 5 and a half months afterwards. I'm not 10 inches but I'm happy with my 6.5. The main issue i have with the whole situation is that he was obviously bigger than me. Whether he was 10 inches or not is besides the point, and she obviously loved it. So i wonder if my wife truely is a size queen. ive asked, she says no. and if she will always crave the elusive giant cock that i can't give her.

Also i attribute this situation to why I come to this site and jack off to girls fucking big cocks. So i guess something good did come out of it

 

[atlclgurl]

I really don't consider what she did cheating. we were not "exclusive" at the time.

The main issue i have with the whole situation is that he was obviously bigger than me.

psst, darkhorse, YOUR insecurities are showing.