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D_Phallus P Phyllum

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I never mentioned any personal suffering at all. Not once do I mention one bad thing that has happened to me.

Oh please.

Your whole story just HAPPENED to be about your ancestors, and your mother, but it had nothing to do with you?

I have to hand it to you - WAY to play the race card. I've never seen it done so utterly shamelessly.

So, because you think your ancestors had it the hardest, you now have no empathy for anyone else that might be in emotional distress.

I can see how well that must work for you in intimate relationships.

BF - "Honey, I'm back from work. I had a fucking terrible day, you wouldn't believe it; I was..."

AE - (Interrupting) "You think YOU had a bad day? Do you? Well have you thought about my ancestors, who were slaves? Have you? They never got to complain about their day!"

BF - "But honey I was just..."

AE - (Interrupting) "Don't you 'but honey' me! Starting with all your 'cry baby' bullshit! So you had a bad day? Did you spare a thought for my poor sick mom, who died when I was 19? She climbed 13 stairs every day, even though she didn't have any legs! So you think I give a shit about you?"

BF - "..."

AE - "And she was butt-fucked every day, so hard, that she couldn't even shit properly anymore! Then she went fucking blind! But despite all that, she never even complained, not once, not at all, even though she couldn't talk anymore! And you think YOU had a bad day?! Just suck it up!"

BF- "Fuck this, I'm leaving."

Although, from what you've said, I strongly suspect you don't have any close intimate attachments, because nobody is going to want to open up to you emotionally if that is your attitude.

I also strongly suspect you've never raised children, or if you have, they are now seriously damaged, and in custody of the state, or worse. Growing children and young adults are FULL of minor problems that seem huge to them - and indeed ARE huge to them. A mother with your approach would leave her kids traumatized and disturbed beyond recognition.

As I've said before, you really aren't the right person to be giving advice to people on sensitive emotional matters. It's really not something you're good it.
 
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I'm not sure I agree with 100% of what darkhorse is saying, but he's got a point: the women on here are being cruel and insensitive. Why is it every time a man's got a problem with something a woman does he has to "just get over it." I think if this dude's wife TRULY loves him she'd be working her ass off to make sure his fears are allayed.

Two more points and I'll shut up:
1) One of the arguments posted here is that because it happened so long ago he should "just drop it." Okay, but what if he'd discovered what she did right after she did it? If it was me and I discovered the email right after it happened, I'd either dump her immediately or use her for sex while I looked for a woman who brags about ME in her emails to her friends instead of some other asshole.

2) Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior and it sounds like your wife likes to shop around. Think about it, she managed to hide this from you for a very long time. Are you sure this happened only once? What else don't you know about? I think you owe it to yourself to find out. And please don't ask her. If she has something to hide, the last person she's going to tell is YOU. Another argument I'm hearing is that you must be really awesome if she married you and not the marine. Maybe so, but the fact remains: your wife wasn't bragging about you. She was bragging about another man. That would make anyone insecure and you are not wrong or crazy for feeling that way. It seems like SOME of the women on here are less interested in helping you than in shaming you for feeling insecure. Don't confuse the issue YOU are not insecure. You are unsure of your wife's devotion to you. You are unsure of how highly your wife esteems you. You are unsure of her honesty. Her actions led to that.

Also, let me clarify something for the ladies. You might be with your husband because he's nice, or honest, or really genuine. That's all well and good, but I'm not sure any man actually gives a damn about any of that. We want you to be with us because, among other things, we turn you on, we make you scream with pleasure, because you're addicted to us. If you doubt this, go to tell your husband or boyfriend that your ex is way better in bed than him and see how he reacts. Chances are, he's not going to say, "Who cares!? I'm way nicer!"

here comes my sob story....once opon a time i meet the girl of my dreams.....my best fit ever.....cut chuby black girl, tats, and natual hair, spart as a tack, subversive...every day i saw her my day would instantly brighten up.....even now when i get an email. i brighten up.


well i let some insecurites and pas tissues ruin my relationship with her and i eventually left her.

i have since tried to get back together but she has moved on....we are very close still....yet its fading

she has a new guy that she loves....although i hate it and the thought of another snuggling up with my candy is a kik in the stomach every time ...i love her and want the best for her.


now as for me vs him....im muscled up, good looking, advanced degrees ....i have a legit 8 inch dick and can fuck for hours.....she has said i hav reached places in her deeper than anyone....and am by far her best lover.....outside of the bedroom we mad beatyful music together, both intelectuals and deep thinker......she has stated that i have caused her heartache everyday since the day i left


as far as me ...she haunts every relationship i have ever had.....every date thats not as good, every fuck thats not as pationate.i have moved on to an extent....yah gotta love the one your with.....but you dont forget your best relationship/sex.....yes the pain fades....but only a fool can truly forget.....but you try to convince yourself you can



i tried to get back together with her...but she loves this guy.....skinny and ugly, and a drug problem......her words....he has a good heart...sure its wrapped under a self absorbed package.......but it there......

according to her...he is an open book, while i am shady, he comunicates well...while i dont. he is always exessable....while i put people in orbit and dont answer calls for days at a time.......he is nice at heart..im an emotionaly dammaged dick.........hes always there even in tough times....i flake out and am irrisponable

all these things were and are more or less true..at least about me

"tim i love you and always will but its too late for us......you are a fantasy....hes my reality"

in the past i have always wanted to be the one that a chick burn for....the better fuck...but thats small consolation as he lays in bed with "My" girl and plays dad to "My" kids.....while i pine away for what isnt and never will be.

so fella give this up.......dont worry about it...if you love her.

ther is not a day that goes by where i dont wish i was the "nice guy"



to put it glibly at the end....its better to be fucking the woman you love while she is thinking about a big dicked marine............or fucking the marine while shes thinking about you.
 

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AE...put him on ignore and be done with it...I also hope you reported him.


It would depend on the insecurity and the reason for which it exists. If I'm insecure about my physical safety because my guardian beats me with a phone book every night, my insecurity has a perfectly valid reason to exist. If I'm insecure about my appearance despite being far more attractive than the average, maybe my caprice is mine to conquer.

That is not an insecurity...that is actual fear of abuse and if you're being abused I would recommend removing yourself from the situation. BTW...if you have a guardian, you're an underage member.

The OP hasn't been back into his thread since he confirmed the fact that he didn't consider she cheated and that IT was a size issue for him. I think he just wanted validation for the continuation of verbally beating his wife up over it. Which, some of you gave him because she is after all, just a lying, cheating whore. I think, and this is JMPO that if he doesn't stop soon, the wife is going to leave him...and I hope he enjoys his divorce.

Good job at derailing the thread off topic. Bravo.
 
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women on here are harsh.

i am sure if one started a thread saying their hubby left his email open and she snooped and saw he emailed a frat buddy things are going well with the wife but his college gf the cheerleader gave so much better head the LPSG'ers would be WAY more sympathetic and not so harsh
 

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women on here are harsh.

i am sure if one started a thread saying their hubby left his email open and she snooped and saw he emailed a frat buddy things are going well with the wife but his college gf the cheerleader gave so much better head the LPSG'ers would be WAY more sympathetic and not so harsh

Totally. There's a complete double standard.

It might be worth starting a seperate thread about this.
 

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I see that it bothered both of you so much that you started a thread about double standards.


OP...we're waiting to hear from you.
 

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I can't believe so many people - particularly women - are being so hard on this guy.

Just telling OP to "man up and deal with it" is no help at all. Everybody has different issues to deal with, many of which may seem trivial to other people, but huge to that person. Callously telling them to "get over themselves" is probably the most unhelpful thing anyone could think of saying. It actually re-affirms the perception to themselves that they have problem without doing anything to help solve it, when they might have been struggling to overcome that issue ineffectively for a long time. It's actually very cruel.

Furthermore, all you people giving "slap in the face" advice, should bear in mind that it is standard practice in couple's therapy to consider that if one person in a relationship has an issue, then the relationship has an issue; i.e. two people are involved. None of you have thought OP's wife is in any way responsible for the fact her husband feels insecure about this; you have all sought to absolve her of any blame at all. This is wrong.

Clearly his wife had not done enough to make him feel secure about the matter.

I seriously doubt that a female posting here on exactly the same subject would receive such harsh treatment - i.e. discovering an email written by her husband during their courting period, bragging to his friends about the fact he had been fucking the shit out of a hot dancer with a fantastic body, lovely tidy pussy, and superb sexual skills, and yet not finding any bragging email about herself. This would be bound to create self esteem issues in anyone.

There are some big issues at play here. Anyone familiar with this site should know that penis size is a HUGE source of concern for a lot of men. Also, the fact that she wrote a bragging email about the marine friend, but no bragging email about OP, even though she was courting him at the time. Then there is the fact that she did not tell him the truth about what she had been doing that weekend, until he found out the truth himself.

OP, I'd be really interested to know what your wife has said about this matter. Does she know how much it has affected you? Why has what she has said so far not allayed your concerns?

Sometimes people just go looking for problems where there are none.
 

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MY concern, for the OP is, did she use protection (Or did the marine)?
Given the time frame, AIDS/HIV was/is prevalent, and if the dude's dipping it in everything he can... You never know.
It was 10 yrs ago! Damn...you people know how to pay attention.:mad:

Originally Posted by darkhorse2008uk
I would advise that you use the fact that she cheated on you, and bragged about it to her friends, as a matter to guilt trip her, as frequently as possible. Make her feel totally ashamed about it. This will give you the upper hand in the relationship, and in time, you may have your wife to such a guilt ridden submissive position, that you can conduct affairs of your own without her ever having the nerve to confront you on the matter, because she has no right to be suspicous.

Frankly, that's probably what most women would do if the roles were reversed.
This is exactly what the OP was looking for. He has used this to beat up his wife for years and some dip shit says it's ok. Oh and by the way...continue on. Way to go.

The fact that the OP hasn't bothered to come back to his own thread speaks volumes.

The OP is a coward.
 

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thanks for the replies everyone. sorry i havent got the chance to check the site for a couple of days. I really don't consider what she did cheating. we were not "exclusive" at the time. The thing that honestly bothers me so much is the fact that she was bragging to her friend about it and there was nothing about me when i was fucking her pretty much every day for the two weeks before that and for the 5 and a half months afterwards.

I have been told by some women that when they find an amazing guy, that they love and think he is a keeper, they usually don't brag about him to their friends in case one of the friends tries to make a move on him. Probably when your wife was sleeping with you and the marine she thought nothing of the marine so just wanted to brag about him (just like guys brag about women they sleep with, for ego boost) and didn't care if one of her friends makes a move on him. But you on the other hand are completely different. She didn't want to brag about how amazing you are because didn't wanna risk losing you to another woman. So if I was you I would quit worrying about something happened long time ago. :smile:

And cut that 10 inch crap lol. I agree with others this guy prob was 7" top lol. And besides size got nothing to do with good sex.

But on the other hand I completely understand how you feel. I'm a one woman man, so when I'm usually dating someone I stop seeing other women, and I expect the same from my date. If she doesn't do the same, then I politely try to end things with her, no harm done (that's what's dating is all about, getting to know each other). So if you feel disrespected by your wife's actions and how she didn't care much about you and risked your health by sleeping with others, while you are doing the opposite then you pretty much have two options.

First you need to know not everyone shares the same opinions/views when it comes to dating/relationships. Your wife is not the one-man-woman type of girl, and you can't do much about it at this point. She doesn't mind sleeping with multiple men at same time and you can't really do much about it at this point lol. So the two options are;

1) you accept who your wife is, because what's done is done and she can't go back in time and undo everything.
2) or, if you can't work around the issue and can't get over it to a certain point were it's bothering you real bad, then it's best to end everything and go find another woman that will treat you like how you treat her.

Because at the end it's unfair that you stay in an unhappy marriage. Unfair to you and her. I just wanna know something if it's an issue for you, why did you just "suck it up" and didn't do anything about it??? Why did you marry her?? Do you love your wife? Are you looking for an excuse to get out of the marriage?? A lot of young kids now days marry at young age then divorce after 8-10 years (Google "8 year itch"). Is it possible you are feeling the same about your marriage?
 

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and if she will always crave the elusive giant cock that i can't give her.

PE exercises and pumping exercises can increase the size of the penis if done correctly and safely. I'm not here to convince anyone,if you don't wanna believe me then good for you and if you wanna try it then go ahead. I have gained 1.5" in length in about 2 years. In 1year- 1.5year you can add just as much and can go from 6.5 to 8inches and most women will think you are 12" lol and you will probably be bigger than that marine and realize how stupid you were to worry about the size of your penis. Not to mention there is a high chance your wife will not enjoy it as much as you think she does.

I hope you and your wife can work it out and be happy together man. Best of luck. :smile:



How often does she want to go visit her parents by herself? If that doesn't happen, I'd say you probably have nothing to worry about.


LOL, that's a good question.
 
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