So for the last 4 months, I've been kind of dating this female. I guess the word "kind of" is my problem. Okay, some background story first: A month before dating her, I broke up with her friend that I was only with for exactly a month. So when me and the current female started talking more (still as friends), I found out that she really liked me for the last 3 months and the only reason why her friend took an interest in me was because she (current) was talking to her (ex) about me all the time and her friend started to like me after a while and kind of "stole" me from her (current) because she was too shy to talk to me as more than a friend and her friend wasn't. Personally, I liked my ex only a couple days before we started dating but I like my current girl for a 3 months before we started dating and still thought about her throughout that last relationship. Here's the thing. When current girl and I established that we really liked each other, we also established that going out would cause problems with her friend. So for the last 4 months we've kind of had an undercover lovers type thing going on with no commitment because we pretty much planned on just doing this for a while and try to move on. I'm sure I've mindset has changed since then. We talk on the phone every single night until we fall asleep. We occasionally send each other love letters in the mail just to be nice. All that cutesy stuff. We've only had sex one time because when we did it, we had such strong connection throughout it that we feel it's dangerous to do it anymore since we are still unsure on our status. We've fought two or three times but nothing all that serious. We would always be over it in an hour or so. But I'm seriously crazy for her and I feel like she has strong feelings for me, maybe not as strong as I feel. The thing is, I've been trying to convince her to make it public for the last month or so because I hate hiding our relationship from friends and lying when they ask about us. She has been thinking about it but is still in serious doubt. She doesn't want the drama and she thinks it would seriously hurt her friendship with her friend. So finally, two questions. What do you think is going on in her mind? And do you think there's anything I can do to help convince her? Sorry if it's a lot to read. I felt like a lot of the details were necessary to answer the question.