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So I have got feelings for a guy but he is already (happily) relationship.

I normally wouldnt go after someone who is taken but him an dI talk everyday and I feel like we just 'click' and I have a strong connection with him.

He said he is devoted to his partner but why does he keep contacting me.

I'm not sure what I can do about it, I would settle for friends but I can't stop thinking about him.

(Not really sure what my question(s) are but just needed to put it out there)
 

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So I have got feelings for a guy but he is already (happily) relationship.

I normally wouldnt go after someone who is taken but him an dI talk everyday and I feel like we just 'click' and I have a strong connection with him.

He said he is devoted to his partner but why does he keep contacting me.

I'm not sure what I can do about it, I would settle for friends but I can't stop thinking about him.

(Not really sure what my question(s) are but just needed to put it out there)
If he keeps talking to you, that means he wants something with you? Maybe he’s waiting for you to tell him something idk ‍
 

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So I have got feelings for a guy but he is already (happily) relationship.

I normally wouldnt go after someone who is taken but him an dI talk everyday and I feel like we just 'click' and I have a strong connection with him.

He said he is devoted to his partner but why does he keep contacting me.

I'm not sure what I can do about it, I would settle for friends but I can't stop thinking about him.

(Not really sure what my question(s) are but just needed to put it out there)

Is his partner or female? Straight or gay?
 

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I'd say don't go there, just keep him as just a friend.

Firstly, he may just want to be friends - if so, making a move on him will likely ruin the friendship.

Secondly, if he wants more and is the type of person to dump his partner for you, he'll have no qualms doing the same to you when someone 'better' comes along.

There are plenty more fish in the sea, you don't need to be sniffing around someone who's already in a relationship.
 
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I'd say don't go there, just keep him as just a friend.

Firstly, he may just want to be friends - if so, making a move on him will likely ruin the friendship.

Secondly, if he wants more and is the type of person to dump his partner for you, he'll have no qualms doing the same to you when someone 'better' comes along.

There are plenty more fish in the sea, you don't need to be sniffing around someone who's already in a relationship.
Thank you! This is probably the exact advice I would give to someone.

Im struggling to do the whole friend thing because my emotions are deeper than that. Any suggestions for how I can work on that?!
 
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Thank you! This is probably the exact advice I would give to someone.

Im struggling to do the whole friend thing because my emotions are deeper than that. Any suggestions for how I can work on that?!
You're welcome!

I'm not sure but I'd say if you become mad infatuated with him, it's best to back away and let the friendship cool down. It's hard to make suggestions without knowing more. (How is he acting towards you? Do you think he knows how you feel? Etc.)

Happy to chat more if you like. Best wishes from West Island!