need advice for taking very large boyfriend

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  1. privateidaho

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    hi everyone, i'm so glad i found this forum. i've been looking around for an answer to my question, but haven't found exactly what i'm looking for. so i'm hoping some of you can help me.

    i'm a 24-year-old gay male, and for the past two months or so i've been dating a really fantastic guy -- smart, well-built (former college football player), has identified as bisexual for a few years. the good news (and the bad news) is that he has by far the biggest dick i've ever seen in real life... the closest comparison i've seen would probably be the porn star chad hunt, for those of you familiar with falcon studios. he let me measure one night and it was about 10.5" long and between 7.5-8" around -- i can't get my hand around it at any point along the shaft! plus, it gets completely rock hard and stays that way all night. i have to say, it is absolutely magnificent, and just thinking about it keeps me horny as f**k all day long.

    the problem, as you might imagine, is that i'm having trouble putting it to good use. for starters, i can only fit the head and a couple inches in my mouth. and as far as intercourse, well, he's 26 and has dated half a dozen guys before me, and none of them has been able to take him anally at all.

    now i'm a pretty big guy (6'3", 190lbs) and he was hoping i might have better luck. the problem is, up until now, i've been exclusively a top and never really had the desire to bottom before. that is, until i saw his dick, at which point i instinctively fell onto my back and wrapped my legs around the back of my neck :)

    so, what i need from you guys is some step-by-step advice on how to prepare to take this guy to the hilt. we've tried intercourse twice, with me on top, and lots of good silicon lube (wet platinum), but i was only able to take the head and a couple inches beyond, and that involved some excruciating pain. after each try, my ass was sore for several days.

    so, how should we proceed from here? should i just keep trying, with me on top, and see if i can take a little more each time? in that case, how long do you expect it would take for me to be able to take the whole thing? are there other positions that would work better? would it be helpful to get a smaller-sized dildo and practice with that first?

    also, i'm getting more than a little worried that i could hurt myself doing this, like tear a muscle or an intestinal wall or something... is that possible, and how do i avoid it? how much pain is it normal to expect?

    and can someone confirm that it will actually be pleasureable for me at some point, or is it possible that it will always be uncomfortable or painful? i will say there is something incredibly psychologically arousing about trying to cram his huge cock inside me, even though it's painful, but i do look forward to some actual physical pleasure at some point.

    please, i would appreciate as much advice as you can give. besides being incredibly physically attracted to this guy, we've also formed a really strong emotional and intellectual bond already, maybe the strongest i've ever had. i would really like to be able to offer this to him; i think it would strengthen our relationship tremendously. thanks everyone!

    luke
     
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    Hey Luke...wow consider your self lucky to have found a very well endowed guy.:smile:
    So, you have been the top in your sexual romps. I find it interesting that you now want to be the bottom for a Chad Hunt Dick look alike...lol. For those of you who do not know him, I have included a photo of him below.
    Have you ever bottomed before? If not, then you are in for the ride of your life. Try doing it doggie style. Tell him to go slow, or even better, you back up to it. That way you have control. I think you need to get some dildos and practice opening up and going for depth. I have the Chad Hunt Dildo.
    I am a total bottom. Been playing with dildos for a long time. It took me a while before I could take one that deep. The girth is not that much of a problem for me.
    Do not expect to take all of him so soon. Take a little at a time. Progress a little more each time you and him are together. Before you know it, you will be balls deep in pleasure.
    Make sure you use plenty of lube. Don't rush things.
    Make it a pleasurable experience each time.
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    And BBB and I will be over to film the entire process for our new documentary on Logo.
     
  4. BBB2.5

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    Hey Buddie...Time, location,..... Airfare????
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    Hi Luke,

    Relax yourself. He'll need to prep you with lube and and a little fingering to get you totally relaxed. I'd take him by sitting on him first so you can control how he enters you. The most important thing is to go slow & don't try to rush things. You should be able to relax enough to take him all the way down to his balls, then you can start to ride him gently as you relax more. You should then find that you've completely relaxed and (if you're like me) will find you're having a really good time, with him touching you in places no-one's been before. Then, now that you're fully relaxed, you can take him doggy style if that's what you both want to do.

    In my experience, the most important part is when he first puts it in. As long as you're both careful at this stage the sex later on can be pretty wild and you'll wonder why you had to take him so slowly as first when you can take him so easily later on.

    Poppers will help if you're into that. So does a night out on the ale. A massage; just things which relax you.

    Good luck & let us know how you get on.
     
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    There is no need to use poppers. If you can not achieve the depths you wish to go without the use this inhalant. Then you need not do it.

    Just practice...and relax.
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    Yeh, BBB2.5 is right. You don't need poppers, but some people do use them.
    You should be able to take him without any stimulants. I do and that's the best way to do it.
     
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    Yes, I have to agree. The key to the whole thing is to learn how to relax your ass muscles, to not be concerned and nervous and know you can do this. If you start off using poppers, or other helpers like recreational drugs, you can start to think you can ONLY take big cocks with such helpers. Not true at all :) If you want to, use them AFTER you can take him without help...

    You should practise on your own with toys. Feel the sensations of deep penetration for yourself first, at your own pace, away from the pressure and expectation of a 1on1 with your partner. As you get more adept with the toys and can take deeper and wider, you'll approach each session with your huge hung boyfriend with more confidence and pleasure, things will only get better from here on :)

    See if you can find a large inflatable dildo, but fill it with warm/hand hot water, by immersing the bulb. The warmth from the water inflated dildo will gently help your ass relax, it has more 'give' than a solid rubber dildo so you have less chance of trying too hard or going in too deep and causing yourself discomfort.

    Choose your lube carefully. If you are using water based lubricant, avoid anything containing nonoxynol-9. It's sometimes used as a spermicide but some people, including me, find it irritates and makes me ass shut up shop. Try silicon lube, or get hold of some J-Lube powder. Avoid oil based lubricants unless you are using polyeurothane condoms.

    Does he like rimming? If so I find that a fantastic way to get me relaxed and ready for penetration.

    Do you know about your physiology inside? Have you ever heard of the second ring? Just that he's way long enough to go very deep and reach bits of you most guys won't ;-) If you know what's up there it can help you interpret and enjoy some of these potentially odd but very pleasureable sensations. Also, it's not always a straight path in :)

    cheers, Gavin.
     
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    Excellent adivse as well as the others....NO Poppers.
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    Aloha Luke,
    I'm gonna take the unpopular route. Here goes:
    Personally, I can't take a cock any thicker than 6.5 circumference. Once I had a guy I was seeing that was about that thick. I couldn't get more of an inch of it in my ass. I started doing "stretching" exercises with dildos. Over the course of about 3 months I stretched out. I was really tight. If I ever meet up with one thicker, I'm gonna have to do some stretching exercises. You may have to do these too. Your bf is way off the scale thickness wise. Make sure it's what you want because once you get this stretched out, you'll never be quite the same. Sounds hot, sounds like a great problem to have. Be careful and don't hurt yourself. If it was me, I'd probably go out and buy 3 or 4 dildos in graduating sizes. Also when it comes time to do the deed, tell him to only fuck you with the head until you're creaming yourself for more. You got lots of good advice above so I'll shut up.
     
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    Hey privateidaho, although I'm not a guy I do like taking it up the ass. The biggest I've ever taken in the butt was an 8"x6" dildo. When I first tried to take it the girth was a bit of a problem. The only advice I can really give you is to relax and take things slow, remember, its supposed to feel good! Maybe you should buy a dildo or a butt plug to get things warmed up. Anyway, just stick to the advice the guys gave and you'll be fine.
     
  12. privateidaho

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    hi everyone, thanks for your advice so far!

    it sounds like i'm going to have to get one or more dildos... i'd never heard of an inflatable dildo, but it seems like a great idea. i found lots of different models online -- does anybody own one that they particularly like?

    sorcerer, i have a couple questions for you:

    "Make sure it's what you want because once you get this stretched out, you'll never be quite the same."

    okay, that's enough to freak someone out... how exactly won't i be the same? will i not be as tight for future partners? will i not be able to hold my bowels? or what?

    "Be careful and don't hurt yourself."

    nobody really addressed my question about potential risks, and this is what i'm most concerned about. does anybody here have experience with injuries related to anal sex or butt play? how serious are these risks? will i recognize it if i hurt myself internally, or is it possible to have a serious injury that i can't feel?

    for instance, after the last time we attempted to have sex, i was cleaning up and noticed a small amount of bloody mucus around my rectum. i assumed that it wasn't a big deal, but i'm not sure. should i expect some blood during this process, and if so, how much is too much?

    thanks again, everyone! i really appreciate your help, and so does my boyfriend... (i'm trying to get him to join here as a member.)

    luke
     
  13. D_Elijah_MorganWood

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    Luke, without boring you with a plethora of medical terminology I'll just speak in real-world terms. My ex-boyfriend had never bottomed. He went out and got a dildo to break himself in but it wasn't nearly as thick as I am. To make a long story short, he took the "fairy dust" route to getting fucked and pulled me into him hard and I ripped him. It took a while to heal. This can all be avoided with preparation and patience. Believe me: if you're not loaded you're gonna feel your ass protesting before you get really hurt.

    Addressing your other question...it's like this: I had a boyfriend that was the size of my thumb. I was an extremely tight near-virgin (never more than a cock head in my ass) so he had no problem satisfying me. Later on I did as I told you before and stretched out for a much larger partner. While I wasn't (nor am I now) the grand canyon, I doubt his thumb-sized member would do much. I was with a guy with his girth (or lack thereof) years later and it wasn't much fun. Keep in mind I'm probably 80-90% top so my ass experiences are all pretty memorable. If you take care of your ass, you'll be fine and average or bigger should satisfy. Fuck that huge cock a lot though...and you're gonna get a taste for big ones. I know I did. My bf is 9x6 and it's still huge to me. I still have to go slow even after 5 years.
     
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    Amen to that!
     
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    hey guys and gals,

    thought i'd give a little update and ask a question.

    so i found a really great inflatable dildo that seems to fit our needs... starts at 8x6 and the circumference grows to 9"! (don't think i'll be going *that* far.) boyfriend has been using it on me the past week or so... we haven't even inflated it yet, i'm just finally getting comfortable with the 6" girth. there does seem to be a lot of pain in the process of getting adjusted, but it's definitely mixed with pleasure.

    my question is about depth. no matter what we try, i can't seem to get it in any deeper than 4 or 5". i thought i remember someone mention a "second sphincter" deeper inside. could that be my problem, and if so, how do i get past it?

    thanks!
     
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    Sit on it. When you can't go further, lean forward a little and push your bowels like you're taking a dump. Now pull the bottom of the dildo forward making the tip go back. Now push gently and you'll feel a little "bump" and deeper it will go...
     
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    Damn good advice all around. When I first bottomed, I found that sitting on it was best (I opened myself up with lube and my fingers first). Once you have sat on it, are totally relaxed and feeling comfy--well, the possibilities are endless. He can flip you, put you legs above your head, bend you over the bed or dresser, etc.

    *WHEW* All all this talk makes me wanna bottom...
     
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    Hi Luke,

    Anal is totally fabulous and the key for
    me is to be completely horny. I am either
    that way before we begin or other foreplay
    will put my in the right body/mind state to
    easily accept penetration.

    Getting past the sphincter and it loosening
    is the biggest hurdle, then it it's nothing
    but total pleasure. The biggest I've taken is
    6.5" girth but I know I'd never go any bigger
    because as Sorcerer mention, the stretching
    might be permanent.

    Someone I know who is close to 9" was not
    a problem, as he was only 5.5-6.0" girth.
    This is actually quite pleasureable,so I am
    going to guess that your boyfriend's massive
    girth combined with the length, is what is
    giving you the most pain.

    Also the length of rectums varies and you
    may just have a premature 'bend' in your
    colon, let's say, despite your impressive
    height.

    Loved your comment about wrapping your
    legs around your neck, by the way.Yes,
    anal is really hot!
     
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    To answer the question of will it be pleasurable when you finally are able to take him.......YES!!!!!!! Gawd YES!!! LOL When he is thrusting inside you with that insanely thick and long dick you will undoubtedly orgasm at some point. A dick that huge will massage your prostate so completely that you will almost surely explode with the repeated stimulation. I've only come a couple of times without touching my dick and both times I was on my back, legs in the air, and my partner was over 9 inches and thick both times. My preferred position now is doggie style. Nothing like thrusting back on a huge penis that's hard and strong. The pleasure is amazing. As simple as it sounds, the only way you are going to be able to experience his dick totally inside you is for you to RELAX. Like some previouos poster mentioned, you should definitely start by sitting on his dick and controlling how much invades your hole at one time. And the advice about pushing like you are trying to defacate is right on the money. This will force your muscles to relax and be able to receive that wonderful prize that you have been lucky enough to find. Good Luck.
     
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    I'm a 100% bottom guy, and I love really thick dicks (and I can take a really really thick one with no problem), but there are a few things I have noticed. 1) If I really like a guy and I get really nervous I get so tight that sticking a finger let alone a cock in there becomes impossible. 2) If I relax my abs my hole will also relax. 3) It helps with a really big one to push out as he pushes in. 4) If you learn how to control your sphincter muscles it helps. You have a lot more control over your ass than you think. You can open wide or squeeze so tight that you will hurt the guy your with (I have done that before). When I was young I used to do the original Jane Fonda work out (from the tape) with my aunt. There is a buttocks excercise that not only seems to work your butt, but I later learned it's great for your sphincters also. Using these excersices you can both expand and contract. I can take the largest donkey kong there is (and I love it rough and hard), but when I've had guys with little tiny ones fuck me they always tell me that I'm the tightest guy they've ever fucked.
     
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