This is good advice:
YouTube - Getting the girl away from her friends (Pick up artist)
Here's a tip. If you go out to a club and all the waitresses are hot, resist the temptation to hit on your waitress. They were all hired because they're attractive and they get hit on all night long, every night. They've heard every line and seen every move. Those are the women who are being paid to be there and they've been hired because they're attractive. You'll have better luck picking up one of the women who paid to get in. Those women are far more likely to actually be looking for men and interested in your attention. I always wondered why men seemed to think that the cocktail waitresses were there to find men rather than to get lots of tips. That really seems obvious to me, but I think that the reason why so many guys hit on the cocktail waitresses is because they don't have to approach them, the waitress comes up to them and starts the interaction, so they think that gives them an opportunity. Trust me, it's an opportunity that men try to use all night long! That isn't to say that you can't pick up a cocktail waitress. I was one and once I went out with a customer, but he really stood out from the pack. One tip I'll pass on regarding picking up cocktail waitresses, don't try to pick all of them up at once. You wouldn't believe the number of guys who go around the room and hit on every single cocktail waitress, sometimes within minutes. It only takes a few minutes to go around the room to get orders, then the cocktail waitresses go back to the drinks station to drop orders off or pick up drinks. What do you think the women talk about in those few minutes while they wait? Well, it's whatever interesting thing happened in the past 10 minutes. I can't tell you how many times one woman will point out a guy and say that he's hit on her and a few minutes later he'll hit on me, too, using the exact same line. That isn't attractive. Maybe those guys think that we'll compete with each other, and maybe other women would react that way, but me, I think he's failing with all the cocktail waitresses at once by doing that. I think those guys would have had better luck if they had only hit on one. I can't believe how many men don't seem to realize that the cocktail waitresses all talk to each other all night long.
We actually ended up getting into a discussion about it last night. It seems like some people interpret "negging" as normal flirtatious teasing and there's nothing at all wrong with that at all. In fact, if you're funny, then that's an asset. The problem with interpreting negging as teasing is that it doesn't fit with the supposed psychology of negging which is supposed to be a subtle attack on a woman's ego in order to bring her down a peg. Flirtatious teasing doesn't do that, it's supposed to be lighthearted and humorous and the initial jab is supposed to encourage the woman to jab back, you tease me and I tease you back, and now we're verbally jousting in a fun way. I encourage and recommend teasing, not negging, which seems manipulative and calculating in a slimey way, and can backfire hard, which is one of the main problems with a lot of PUA strategies.
The Pickup Artist tv show was actually quite fun to watch. VH-1 did a good job of hiding most of the chauvinistic stuff and making it enjoyable to watch. They found a bunch of hopelessly geeky and shy guys, guys who have never had girlfriends and have no hope of getting dates, and they helped them. The fact that the guys were (mostly) sweet and smart and just wanted to find love and companionship made it easy to root for them. If it had been a show about men who wanted to learn how to manipulate people and their emotions well enough so that they could get more sex, then it would have been too disgusting to watch.
The language of PUA is just so gross, the stuff that VH-1 wisely avoided showing, I mean. I'm sympathetic towards men who are lonely and who have a genuine interest in finding love or companionship and who have a hard time with connecting with women and who are seeking help. I have no problem with that desire or motivation. It's some of the attitudes presented by PUA that are just so icky. Some of the language used by PUA is just so demeaning and insulting sometimes that it's stomach churning. Take the phrase used to indicate that a woman is attracted to you. They call it the "doggy dinner bowl" look, or DDB. Really? That's the best descriptor to use? Comparing a woman's look of desire with a dog about to be fed? That pretty much sums up the entire problem, that attitude towards another human being, treating someone as less than human just because you desire sex.
A lot of the techniques can be genuinely useful for learning about normal social interactions and might possibly help someone who is socially awkward, but often the language used to describe the PUA version of those same techniques makes "seduction" so calculated as to make it all crass and slimey, turning men into cruel and heartless predators and making women into objects and victims. It all depends on what a man does with it, of course, whether a man hurts a lot of people with it or not.