cgttown
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I read the original post a couple of days ago and thought to myself that the guy must be clueless so I wasn't going to bother to respond. However, since it's still a topic of conversation, and some of the advice here seems a bit shallow (in my perspective anyway), I was compelled to comment.
First, let me explain that I'm no Adonis. I'm a regular guy who's average looking and a bit on the short side (5'8"). I'm intelligent and have a professional career and a graduate degree, but I don't make a ton of money. I don't drive a flashy car. I am in decent shape for a man my age with a job that is not physical in nature, but, like many guys in their forties, I could stand to lose a few. In short, I'm not an exceptional physical specimen (and even my cock is slightly above average and not OMG!).
That said, I have no trouble getting a woman's attention. I'm married so I'm not flirting or trying to pick up women at the moment, but I have never had any trouble throughout college and my adult life dating women or getting their attention. Why? Because I am truly interested in them as people. I ask women what they think and then I listen to what they say. I pay attention to how they look and compliment them on what I find attractive (which, by the way, is lots of things). I look them in the eye, smile at them, and tend to enjoy their presence.
Additionally, I keep up on what is going on the world, can discuss something other than sports, appreciate various types of music, am well-read, and can cook very well. I appreciate chick flicks (although I enjoy more testosterone-charged movies, too), can engage in witty repartee, and I don't leave socks on the floor. I put the toilet seat down after I pee, spend more time making sure my sexual partner is enjoying herself than worrying about my climax, and know how to have a conversation where I am not the one doing most of the talking.
In my experience, attracting women is more about actually being interested in them for who they are and what they bring than it is about a gimmick. Lots of the "techniques" (at least from what I understand) are really about tricking a woman into thinking you are some certain kind of man. I've found it much easier to BE the kind of man women like.
First, let me explain that I'm no Adonis. I'm a regular guy who's average looking and a bit on the short side (5'8"). I'm intelligent and have a professional career and a graduate degree, but I don't make a ton of money. I don't drive a flashy car. I am in decent shape for a man my age with a job that is not physical in nature, but, like many guys in their forties, I could stand to lose a few. In short, I'm not an exceptional physical specimen (and even my cock is slightly above average and not OMG!).
That said, I have no trouble getting a woman's attention. I'm married so I'm not flirting or trying to pick up women at the moment, but I have never had any trouble throughout college and my adult life dating women or getting their attention. Why? Because I am truly interested in them as people. I ask women what they think and then I listen to what they say. I pay attention to how they look and compliment them on what I find attractive (which, by the way, is lots of things). I look them in the eye, smile at them, and tend to enjoy their presence.
Additionally, I keep up on what is going on the world, can discuss something other than sports, appreciate various types of music, am well-read, and can cook very well. I appreciate chick flicks (although I enjoy more testosterone-charged movies, too), can engage in witty repartee, and I don't leave socks on the floor. I put the toilet seat down after I pee, spend more time making sure my sexual partner is enjoying herself than worrying about my climax, and know how to have a conversation where I am not the one doing most of the talking.
In my experience, attracting women is more about actually being interested in them for who they are and what they bring than it is about a gimmick. Lots of the "techniques" (at least from what I understand) are really about tricking a woman into thinking you are some certain kind of man. I've found it much easier to BE the kind of man women like.