Need advice on starting a relationship.

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  1. fak_et

    fak_et New Member

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    Alright, this is gonna be a long post but it will explain the situation i am in. Any advice is appreciated.

    Basically, I am interested in starting a relationship. I have been out of the game for a long time. I just started college and I want to take full advantage of all the fine ladies around here. Growing up, I was pretty content being single because i didn't have to put up with the drama and stuff my friends were going through. I had seen numerous bad relationships and I didn't want to deal with that kind of stuff. Also, I am not the type of guy that you can get pussy whipped and I don't need to be around a girl 24/7 like some guys. One other thing, I AM EXTREMELY PICKY, I won't go out with just any girl for the hell of it like some people. They gotta be top notch. Ive always been able to satify my sexual urges jackin off and I always figured I didnt need to drag around a girl if that was all they were good for.

    Growing up, I always hung out with guys because I don't have many interests girls usually have (yet im 100% straight). I mean lately there are some girls i hang out with but still, i feel more comfortable hangin out with guys.

    I got the looks, intelligence, sense of humor, im a really nice guy, would treat a lady right, and forgot to mention im hung (had to say it for the lpsg board :))

    I don't have a problem meeting girls, I just don't know how to take it to the next level and possibly start a relationship. I figure there are some experts around here and would like to know what the tricks are.

    Also, on a sidenote, at college, theres sooo many hot girls, any tips for gettin any one-night stands just for the purpose of sex. I have a friend who is quite good at doing this. I gotta get some tricks from him but hes literally met girls and randomly banged em before the night was over quite a few times.
     
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    my advice: don't ask me for advice. I'm in my last semester at GMU right now and still, to date, have never gone out with any of the co-eds. Not really for a lack of trying, either. Maybe try getting involved with some student groups/organizations/fraterneties/etc. as meeting in a social setting seems likely to be more optimal than in the classroom. I never really did this, so, it would probably work. Operating from the logic that whatever I was doing was obviously wrong.
     
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    Almost sounds like you are looking for arm candy. This is not the way to think about women if you ever want to get seriously involved with one that is loving, mature, caring, attractive, and, of course, great in bed.

    Ummm, you just contradicted your entire post with this paragraph. If you're really looking for a relationship, trying to randomly fuck hot girls is not going to get you there. Maybe you just need to get the random fucking and craziness out of your system before you get into a relationship. It takes a certain level of maturity and experience to be in a healthy relationship.

    Plus, I have to say, screwing around for a few years in college with no attachments was pretty goddamn fun, and when it wasn't, still made for some awesome stories.
     
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    He only randomly fucks women of the highest caliber.
     
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    Oh come on, he's got to throw in a couple mercy humps somewhere. :biggrin1:
     
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    I got the looks, intelligence, sense of humor, im a really nice guy, would treat a lady right, and forgot to mention im hung (had to say it for the lpsg board :))

    Ok this is very straight up feedback so apologies in advance.

    Most of the people I have met who describe themselves like this are not that attractive to other people because you are usually are more excited by yourselves than really interested in connecting with someone else on an emotional/spiritual level.

    I don't have a problem meeting girls, I just don't know how to take it to the next level and possibly start a relationship.

    Quick impressions from your posts suggest that you think too much. People who are attractive know where they are going in life, have developed some confidence, have reached out beyond their comfort zone and opened up to life. Above all they are funny, and caring. You might be all of these things but give yourself a chance to develop these things even more, and bring it out, then they will come flocking.

    Use the next year or so to meet a wide range of people, don't be too judgemental, open up to life a little more. Have standards, but most importantly, for gods sake, have some fun. Start by developing your relationship with yourself, and take care to let everyone see, and get to know the real you. You won't have to worry about having to look for sex! LOL
     
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    Alright, let me clarify a little bit as I can see I was a bit unclear.


    My main question: How does one take a "just friends" to a "bf and gf relationship?"

    The last part, i can see how it contradicts but I have a buddy who is pro at that and I just want to know how he does it. Thought it might be fun to take advantage of the awesome ladies around here with no strings attached before i start something serious.

    And, hypolimas, for your analysis of me(Most of the people I have met who describe themselves like this are not that attractive to other people because you are usually are more excited by yourselves than really interested in connecting with someone else on an emotional/spiritual level.), you don't know me in person so you can't go off of an internet description of two sentences and come to that conclusion, I am pretty sure it really doesn't apply to me.
     
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    its simple, get her alone and pay attention. you have to make sure shes interested first otherwise it'll make things very weird between you two.

    then all you have to do is kiss her and let everything else fall into place.
    but i wouldnt recommend even trying, "just friends" means "just friends" you should go outside the friends circle to find women, its so much cleaner and the break-up is easier
     
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    You remind me so much of myself! lol (jk).

    Usually this is how it works:

    You meet a girl (talk, get drunk, kiss, maybe fondle)
    See each other again (dates)
    Regular dates
    Boyfriend and girlfriend
    Sex/Marriage
    Breakup/Divorce

    There you go.
     
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    Sounds like the girls you run into are EXTREMELY PICKY.
     
  11. carlton10

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    Paul is right -thats the order and then u start all over again
     
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