Need Advice To Loosen Up :)

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Hi all!!

Im looking for advice on how to loosen up my hole. I'm 26 and have only succefully bottomed once, the other handful of times it has hurt and their cock has barely gotten in.

I have used amyl in both succeful and unsuccessful attempts but not a fan of the feeling.

Does anyone have any review of products like buttplugs or dildos that I could start off with to slowly stretch my hole?

Feel free to ask any more questions :)
 
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Anal training will help. A standard buttplug starter set is good, like the one below

https://www.amazon.com.au/California-Exotic-Novelties-850878-Silicone/dp/B06XKCK5LD

Work slowly up. Usually once you can accept the second one, you can try taking the real thing.

Next thing, lube aplenty. Silicone or silicone water hybrids usually better than water based ones.

And patience. You may need to try some different positions to get it right. Some people like to ride it as they can control dessent. Others prefer doggy. On your back legs up may work too, but you must communicate with top the pace. You still need to allow the top to enter. Brace yourself, and relax the sphincter as much as you can. Buttplug before sex can help. And if there is searing pain, stop. Have him pull out for 30 seconds and restart. Often you cannot get it in there in one shot. That's normal. I have hemorrhoids and it can make entry tough on the first go, but I restart and it's all good from there. Expect first minute to be slightly uncomfortable as your rectum accommodates. There may be some slight burning pain but it shouldn't be unbearable and should ease after 1 minute.

Lube aside I thoroughly recommend a gel that relaxes your muscles and reduces friction, and it's a lifesaver.

pjur BACK DOOR anal comfort spray

Spray the gel two to four times and massage into your anus/rectum. Wait for 1 minute to settle, then insert cock or buttplug. Works neatly with lube. You may notice using it helps the medium and large buttplugs go in easier too.

Also don't go for big cocks right away. 5.5-6.5, 7 is often a goldilocks zone in terms of pleasure to pain ratio. At least for beginners, go gently.

Good luck. Anal sex can be a lot of fun and pleasurable if done right.
 

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To be perfectly honest it's less about the toy and more about you knowing how to relax.

Relaxing your hole is all about letting go. One half of the anus is controlled by the autonomic nervous system and cannot be directly relaxed, like moving a finger for example. The only way this part will relax and open up is if you are relaxed inside. My hole sees almost no action but with a couple of fingers and like 30 seconds I can have my hole opened up and ready to take a big dick.

I conciously relax my pelvic floor, which feels like your taint going slack. You know the muscles you squeeze to make your dick jump when it's hard? It's the opposite of doing that. Usually the pelvic floor is always a little tense, dick jump tenses it more, you want to relax it completely. Then I push a little as if I'm wanting to poop and massage my hole getting my fingers in, scissor them and that's it. I open right up. It's really easy but you can't exactly teach someone how to do something they can't see. But that's my best description of what it feels like.
 
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