I am new to this forum, so I hope I post to the right section and sorry for the long post. First let me say that I am very happily married. My wife is my life and I wouldn't want to do anything that would jeopardize our marriage. I have had some concerns about our sex life lately though. It just hasn't been that great, but we are trying to make things better. We have been married for 7 years and never had even as much of a major argument. And as I have tried to think of new things to spice things up I have had my wife open up more and more about her fantasies, desires, etc. I am not jealous AT ALL about her past experiences and her fantasies, or about size, which is starting to come up more and more lately and is quite arousing to hear her talk about things like that. But I am beginning to think that she is somewhat of a "size queen." She has been having a recurring fantasy that a guy who is quite a bit thicker is about to enter her and she is very excited and anxious for him to put it in. She has had many fantasies like that, or ones relating to well endowed guys and she wakes up VERY aroused, especially after seeing the shower scene in the Sex and the City movie. I have also noticed her checking out guys packages, which is kind of a turn on actually. She just laughs when I catch her. I usually tease her about it but thats it. She is honest and does tell me when she notices after I catch her. It doesnt bother me at all. I am not huge by any means, or small. I am about upper average I guess at 7 1/4" x 5 1/2". But my wife has had quite a few experiences with a lot smaller AND bigger (all estimates by wife 8 1/2" x 6 3/4", 9"x6 1/2" and 8"x5") and on one occasion a very well endowed guy, about 10" x 7 1/2"+. She talks often about how much she loved giving him oral sex. She said her hand would only make a large "C" when she tried to put her hand around it since she couldn't wrap her fingers and would be a struggle to get the head in her mouth. She says the bigger the better for oral and really liked it. In actuality she LOVES giving oral sex. She says she loves it and she admits that she looks forward to doing it. She always has for some reason. I think she has some sort of fetish. Not sure, but its fine with me. She did not however like intercourse with larger ones and has told me numerous times that I am almost too long. She said she has never had an OG through intercourse before me. She is pretty honest about a lot of things, sometimes brutally so I do think she is being honest and I love and appreciate her for that, even if it does sting for a moment. I have somewhat of an upward curve that has worked well with past girlfriends, especially my last one who would have multiple OG's every time. But my wife doesn't seem to react like my other girlfriends. She does have OG's, just not every time, or near as often. She does say sometimes when in the heat of the moment that she would like to experience one that is thicker, but knows that she can't because she wouldn't want to cheat. I have mentioned extensions, etc., but most of them also add length, which she is NOT into. But at this point we have mostly included fantasy talk and role play to spice things up. Lately however she said some things that caught me off guard. First she asked if one of my friends was bigger than me. I slipped out once about a bachelor party incident where I found out that he was well endowed. But when she asked, I though Hmmm, how do I answer that, or do I answer? He is actually, much longer. He's not much thicker if any but about 2" longer. It was actually a turn on when she asked, but I didn't really answer. She is not attracted to him in any way but she asks more now though during our talks, so I may tell her. No biggie I guess, because she's not really into length. I'll let her fantasize if she wants. It's kind of hot that she wonders. I don't think she would ever cheat, she's just not that type. Plus we are older, I'm 40 and she's 39 and we spent a long time trying to find something as good as what we have. She wouldn't want to ruin that and says that often. I see she is starting to open up more. I like it actually. Then she said that when she has given oral sex before, she didnt even feel like it was intimate or emotional sex in any way. It was more of a challenge and sexy fun thing to do, but never really had any emotional attachment to anyone after doing that. She has done that A LOT more than intercourse, with a LOT more guys, many much bigger than me. She said she could easily give a guy oral sex without it even affecting her emotionally. Hmmm? That was interesting for her to say that. She has also been having fantasies about giving a stranger oral sex, sometimes women and sometimes very well endowed men. She is very attractive 5 3 125 and built nicely 36 C/D and it is sexy just to think of her with strangers. I was reading on a relationship site where someone suggested going to an erotic masquerade to watch others (she liked that idea) or even more adventurous to have her try something called a glory hole. A guy took his wife to somewhere in Las Vegas and had it setup for a well endowed guy that he prescreened to show up, never seeing him or his wife, and she gave him oral sex behind a wall. Is this something I should even consider? I want my wife to be happy, and the more she is opening up, the more I am finding that she is a very sexual and adventurous person. She likes that I dont mind her telling me and that I dont get jealous like her past boyfriends. On occasion recently during sex I have mentioned that I would have loved to see her do her thing with a past big boyfriend or stranger and she actually gets VERY aroused. I would appreciate any input. I really dont want to jeopardize my marriage.