Need Advice - Wife may be a Size Queen?

tony85

Just Browsing
Joined
May 11, 2011
Posts
10
Media
0
Likes
0
Points
36
Location
Midwest
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Sorry for the long post, I just had time to log in a respond to some of the feedback.

Maybe this will help. I'd be happy to discuss this through PM's if you are curious...

http://www.lpsg.org/blogs/fancypants/history-of-me-6934/

P.S. I adore Mystic Wolf and usually agree with him, but in my opinion, I think he got this one wrong.

Depends on how strong your relationship is (emotionally); whether or not you allow jealousy to be a part of it; and if you are both totally honest with one another (thus total trust)...... I see no need to throw away something that is working so well for both of you...

Thanks for the feedback Fancypants. Great Bio by the way, and very helpful to read your experience! A lot of what you say seems spot on with her. Which is why I don't think that cuckold would apply to me either. I am really not into the whole submissive, demeaning or self-deprecating thing. I actually asked my wife if she feels that she is the dominant one. She laughed. I knew she would. She is actually very submissive and unassuming and, in her words "puts me on a pedestal." She is VERY giving; other's needs are always put in front of hers. Actually, as a wife that is how she is as well, which is partly why I think that fulfilling her fantasies is SO arousing to me.

She has been the perfect wife, and again as others have noted. This is just what "I" have been thinking, or considering. Yes, she has many MANY fantasies, more recently, and made numerous comments, but NEVER has she said that she desires another man, and actually reinforces the opposite. It is MY thing of fulfilling her fantasies, also my thing to think that our sex life could be better. She doesn’t complain. I just pickup on little things, and maybe blow them out of proportion.

She has also been a little wishy washy with the whole idea when I bring it up. Sometimes, she is NO WAY, then she mentions certain conditions in which a stranger would be fun or it would be a "possibility." She has also said, when I have asked if she would ever want to have sex with a guy who was "hung like a horse." She said “no, but I’d suck him off.” Then said that she misses it and may like to experience it again…if I would let her. Mind you she said it in the middle of some heated sex, and has denied ever saying it, but she did say it. It is a little confusing to say the least.

Reading between the lines: she would love to fuck lots of guys with big dicks, but she thinks it will mess up your relationship. She values your relationship and what the two of you have more than she values being able to fuck lots of well hung men, but that doesn't lessen her desire for other men.

And you know what that makes her: a normal, healthy, human female

You are probably right; she is only human. I see other super hot chicks and I think about my single days, or how nice it would be, but would never even think of cheating on my wife.

Have you tried simply asking her, if she is a size queen? Once you have that answer, you can proceed, as needed.

Yes, I did just recently, after reading some of the replies I asked her point blank. Her answer: “Yes, I never really thought about it with a label, but I really think I am.” But, adds that I have enough size to please her and added that, “if I were small, we might have problems.” One day we came across a MFM video, the chick was blowing two guys. One guy was quite a bit larger than the other. She couldn't take her eyes off his, and said she didn't even care to glance back at the smaller one, but really didn’t care to watch the rest of the video as it got more heated. If I even mention a guy that is well endowed she gets aroused. She found out a guy I know was quite large, so now she glances down at his crotch when we see him. It's pretty funny, I tease her and she laughs about it. She adds that she finds him in NO way attractive at all, but thinks it's arousing to know, in her words, “that he’s so big down there." Another time she was wearing a pretty tight t-shirt and I noticed a guy staring at her with a huge bulge growing down his thigh. It was ridiculously obvious to everyone with us. She noticed too and stared for a few seconds. We laughed, she said that it was actually arousing.

Maybe I don’t totally understand the definition of a “size queen”, but that would seem to be a few good indicators. ;)

rhonnie - his wife is 39. She probably has over 20 years of sexual experience under her belt. It's perfectly feasible that she has had at least 3 partners of a significant size. And even if men of that size are uncommon, I wouldn't go so far as to say "rare". After all, two of the four sizes mentioned in the OP's first post aren't even outrageously large.

Tony85 - it sounds like the two of you have this scenario pretty well under control. I'm sure you'll come to some kind of happy medium. Your communication is laudable, and I hope that you can continue in this vein for a long time. This situation may open your marriage to a whole new level.

Yes, you are right on the money. She has years of experience before me, a TON of experience with oral. I don’t think she has experienced screwing a LOT of “huge” guys, since she is actually quite tight. But, she has experienced some. And yes, she even reiterated the other night that she is no way exaggerating their size when I questioned her. She even showed my what her hand was like when she tried to grip them, and they were all pretty big.

It's odd; many have said that there aren't guys out there that large and I am not sure where that comes from. I knew lots of guys in college or just from hanging out at the clubs that had reputations from girls I knew that they were supposedly MONSTROUS, even to the point where not too many girls could even have sex with them. I have also been in a gym locker room, so it's no secret.

I agree with Alpha Male. Unless you have measured wrong then you are quite a bit above average. So much so that only a "few" of her lovers would be bigger than you. Not "many" as you state. I think you are deluding yourself and you probably get turned on thinking that you are smaller than her other lovers.

Try outdoor sex, filming each other, look into it...

You are probably right in some respect. I did ask her though about what she would find ideal while we were talking and she actually pointed her finger about 1 1/2" longer than me and about 1/2" thicker with a larger head.

I am not sure that she could comfortably handle a really big guy as she sometimes jerks during sex and has told me to “not go in so deep.” She has had intercourse with larger guys, some much larger and she just says that it isn't her thing. A little extra thickness she admits feels “really good,” but she absolutely LOVES oral with larger guys.

She actually said that she thinks she developed the fetish or whatever it is because she didn't have sex until she was 22. But, even WAY before she saw an actual penis in person she would see porn movies at friend’s houses and noticed the guys, and I guess thought that was "normal." She was actually very young once when she saw, I think it was also a John Holmes movie. She recalled being very aroused.

tony you strike me as cuckold to be :)... i suspect things are going to be very different from in let say,,, a year from now :)

I don't think that is the case. I thought it may be at first, but I don't like the whole submissive, self deprecating thing, etc. at all. I think that would do serious harm to our relationship, or how I see my wife. She isn't like that at all. I know she is pleased with me, and does enjoy sex. I just really like the idea of my wife getting ultimate pleasure fulfilling her fantasy. As with anything, and as others have stated, I may like the "idea" more than the reality. I took that to heart and I'm really thinking through this.

Again, thanks for the replies. With a few exceptions it has been helpful. In response to Mystic Wolf, I understand where you are coming from, but I find it hard to believe that you could come up with such an evaluation about her from MY few posts, regardless of how wordy they are, especially when you didn’t read them through. And with all due respect, I could only be so lucky to have 7 more years as “lame” as the first.
 

AlphaMale

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Jun 11, 2006
Posts
3,055
Media
35
Likes
5,477
Points
468
Location
USA
Verification
View
Sexuality
50% Straight, 50% Gay
Gender
Male
Reading between the lines: she would love to fuck lots of guys with big dicks, but she thinks it will mess up your relationship. She values your relationship and what the two of you have more than she values being able to fuck lots of well hung men, but that doesn't lessen her desire for other men.

And you know what that makes her: a normal, healthy, human female

Sorry, but nothing about what you're saying would relate to a "normal, healthy, human female".

Most women want to fuck whoever they are currently in a relationship with and not other guys... which is why they are in the relationship with them in the first place.

Men and women both don't have a constant desire to be fucking other people while they are with someone. If they did, then they wouldn't have settled down in the first place... at least not for very long.

When a couple is in a real relationship they lose that "desire" to be with other people sexually.

Is that to say that neither the man or woman can see attractiveness in other people? No. But they are "attracted the most" to their current partner in the relationship, which (as mentioned above) is why they are with them in the first place.
 

D_Crystallized Ginger

Sexy Member
Joined
Apr 12, 2010
Posts
2,201
Media
0
Likes
42
Points
73
Sorry for the long post, I just had time to log in a respond to some of the feedback.



Thanks for the feedback Fancypants. Great Bio by the way, and very helpful to read your experience! A lot of what you say seems spot on with her. Which is why I don't think that cuckold would apply to me either. I am really not into the whole submissive, demeaning or self-deprecating thing. I actually asked my wife if she feels that she is the dominant one. She laughed. I knew she would. She is actually very submissive and unassuming and, in her words "puts me on a pedestal." She is VERY giving; other's needs are always put in front of hers. Actually, as a wife that is how she is as well, which is partly why I think that fulfilling her fantasies is SO arousing to me.

She has been the perfect wife, and again as others have noted. This is just what "I" have been thinking, or considering. Yes, she has many MANY fantasies, more recently, and made numerous comments, but NEVER has she said that she desires another man, and actually reinforces the opposite. It is MY thing of fulfilling her fantasies, also my thing to think that our sex life could be better. She doesn’t complain. I just pickup on little things, and maybe blow them out of proportion.

She has also been a little wishy washy with the whole idea when I bring it up. Sometimes, she is NO WAY, then she mentions certain conditions in which a stranger would be fun or it would be a "possibility." She has also said, when I have asked if she would ever want to have sex with a guy who was "hung like a horse." She said “no, but I’d suck him off.” Then said that she misses it and may like to experience it again…if I would let her. Mind you she said it in the middle of some heated sex, and has denied ever saying it, but she did say it. It is a little confusing to say the least.



You are probably right; she is only human. I see other super hot chicks and I think about my single days, or how nice it would be, but would never even think of cheating on my wife.



Yes, I did just recently, after reading some of the replies I asked her point blank. Her answer: “Yes, I never really thought about it with a label, but I really think I am.” But, adds that I have enough size to please her and added that, “if I were small, we might have problems.” One day we came across a MFM video, the chick was blowing two guys. One guy was quite a bit larger than the other. She couldn't take her eyes off his, and said she didn't even care to glance back at the smaller one, but really didn’t care to watch the rest of the video as it got more heated. If I even mention a guy that is well endowed she gets aroused. She found out a guy I know was quite large, so now she glances down at his crotch when we see him. It's pretty funny, I tease her and she laughs about it. She adds that she finds him in NO way attractive at all, but thinks it's arousing to know, in her words, “that he’s so big down there." Another time she was wearing a pretty tight t-shirt and I noticed a guy staring at her with a huge bulge growing down his thigh. It was ridiculously obvious to everyone with us. She noticed too and stared for a few seconds. We laughed, she said that it was actually arousing.

Maybe I don’t totally understand the definition of a “size queen”, but that would seem to be a few good indicators. ;)



Yes, you are right on the money. She has years of experience before me, a TON of experience with oral. I don’t think she has experienced screwing a LOT of “huge” guys, since she is actually quite tight. But, she has experienced some. And yes, she even reiterated the other night that she is no way exaggerating their size when I questioned her. She even showed my what her hand was like when she tried to grip them, and they were all pretty big.

It's odd; many have said that there aren't guys out there that large and I am not sure where that comes from. I knew lots of guys in college or just from hanging out at the clubs that had reputations from girls I knew that they were supposedly MONSTROUS, even to the point where not too many girls could even have sex with them. I have also been in a gym locker room, so it's no secret.



You are probably right in some respect. I did ask her though about what she would find ideal while we were talking and she actually pointed her finger about 1 1/2" longer than me and about 1/2" thicker with a larger head.

I am not sure that she could comfortably handle a really big guy as she sometimes jerks during sex and has told me to “not go in so deep.” She has had intercourse with larger guys, some much larger and she just says that it isn't her thing. A little extra thickness she admits feels “really good,” but she absolutely LOVES oral with larger guys.

She actually said that she thinks she developed the fetish or whatever it is because she didn't have sex until she was 22. But, even WAY before she saw an actual penis in person she would see porn movies at friend’s houses and noticed the guys, and I guess thought that was "normal." She was actually very young once when she saw, I think it was also a John Holmes movie. She recalled being very aroused.



I don't think that is the case. I thought it may be at first, but I don't like the whole submissive, self deprecating thing, etc. at all. I think that would do serious harm to our relationship, or how I see my wife. She isn't like that at all. I know she is pleased with me, and does enjoy sex. I just really like the idea of my wife getting ultimate pleasure fulfilling her fantasy. As with anything, and as others have stated, I may like the "idea" more than the reality. I took that to heart and I'm really thinking through this.

Again, thanks for the replies. With a few exceptions it has been helpful. In response to Mystic Wolf, I understand where you are coming from, but I find it hard to believe that you could come up with such an evaluation about her from MY few posts, regardless of how wordy they are, especially when you didn’t read them through. And with all due respect, I could only be so lucky to have 7 more years as “lame” as the first.

Hey man I appreciate the respect you showed me but I want to say you a thing.. if you complain about your wife being a supposed size queen than there's no reason to continue a relationship if your cock doesn't match her desires... I respect size queens but can't understand how they could be good wife if they always search for a big cock to fuck with...
 

D_Crystallized Ginger

Sexy Member
Joined
Apr 12, 2010
Posts
2,201
Media
0
Likes
42
Points
73
Maybe this will help. I'd be happy to discuss this through PM's if you are curious...

http://www.lpsg.org/blogs/fancypants/history-of-me-6934/


P.S. I adore Mystic Wolf and usually agree with him, but in my opinion, I think he got this one wrong.

Depends on how strong your relationship is (emotionally); whether or not you allow jealousy to be a part of it; and if you are both totally honest with one another (thus total trust)...... I see no need to throw away something that is working so well for both of you...

Hey girl! you are my favourite size queen :D ! well like I already stated I respect size queens at all... only thing I tried to say before is if a woman isn't satisfied by a man because of his cock size then that woman isn't a wife... no problem if she wants to fuck around without being in a realtionship of course..
 

D_Chesty_Pecjiggle

Account Disabled
Joined
Aug 24, 2007
Posts
615
Media
0
Likes
26
Points
163
Hey man, how's it going with your wife?

It sounds like she's a great wife and good lover, (millions of men wish they had wives as oral as yours!). So I hope you're indulging her fantasy and it's working out with you.

It sounds like she wants to indulge the fantasy in a faithful way. So good for you two for communicating so effectively.
 

tony85

Just Browsing
Joined
May 11, 2011
Posts
10
Media
0
Likes
0
Points
36
Location
Midwest
Sexuality
100% Straight, 0% Gay
Gender
Male
Hey man, how's it going with your wife?

It sounds like she's a great wife and good lover, (millions of men wish they had wives as oral as yours!). So I hope you're indulging her fantasy and it's working out with you.

It sounds like she wants to indulge the fantasy in a faithful way. So good for you two for communicating so effectively.

Going great, thanks. She does fantasize and even dream about larger quite a bit, but is not prepared to take it outside the marriage. So yes, you are exactly right, she does want to experience larger on occasion, but not with anyone else. So, a toy is going to be the ticket. She really likes the Cyberskin sleeves and extensions.
 

D_Richard Lugie

Account Disabled
Joined
Apr 25, 2011
Posts
118
Media
0
Likes
1
Points
53
Just the fact that you and she are opening up more to each other is a positive thing and is no doubt a big turn on for BOTH of you.

Where you go with this is really up to you. Alot of men fear their wives fucking others because they are scared to lose them. However, with the divorce rate at 50%, the chances are that a woman at some point in her marriage is probably going to fuck a few other guys anyways (definitely not all women are like that, but many are) or even more likely are going to be secretly desiring someone different most of the time they are with their spouse.

I think it is better to be open about everything and see where it takes you. The fact that she gets very aroused when you talk about past boyfriends during sex is a sign that if she ever does get to fuck others she is going to be very fun for you to fuck afterwords


That is not true!! The divorce rate is not 50% and I wish people would stop quoting it as such! It is actually much closer to 1/3 of all marriages end up in divorce.

It is a common misconception, but still people!