I have been with bf for 3 yrs.. Had issues about trust and porn. Always denied its usage. He said he would stop although the point was not that he stopped but that our sexuality be fun together. I was jealous of him looking at porn but I suspect it is the betrayal, the lies that made me feel so bad about it. Suggested to watch porn with him which he refused.
We went to therapy because of my trust issues with him and our sexuality. He sweared he did not watch porn anymore.
To my big surprise, i found out not only that he watches porn, but goes on gay forums actively, making invitations to men on his business trips, also has male chat friends. HE can no longer deny that but he denies the fact that he is attracted to men although anyone reading his comments, him knowing many male pornstars, would definately perceive him as being bisexual or gay, or attracted to men sexually. He does that on a regular basis. Does not seem to have much desire for me.
He says he loves me, that he will stop but I have my doubts. I want to live a good sexlife with him, play with him.. could be with porn or other stuff, but says he wants to keep away from all that. I have a feeling it is because he just wants to live a secret life.
Any comment or suggestion as to how to cope with his dishonesty are very appreciated.
We went to therapy because of my trust issues with him and our sexuality. He sweared he did not watch porn anymore.
To my big surprise, i found out not only that he watches porn, but goes on gay forums actively, making invitations to men on his business trips, also has male chat friends. HE can no longer deny that but he denies the fact that he is attracted to men although anyone reading his comments, him knowing many male pornstars, would definately perceive him as being bisexual or gay, or attracted to men sexually. He does that on a regular basis. Does not seem to have much desire for me.
He says he loves me, that he will stop but I have my doubts. I want to live a good sexlife with him, play with him.. could be with porn or other stuff, but says he wants to keep away from all that. I have a feeling it is because he just wants to live a secret life.
Any comment or suggestion as to how to cope with his dishonesty are very appreciated.