He denies everthing.. Says it was all a game !! - So what comes out of this is that he's been fooling himself, me and his virtual friends.
Best revenge is to start feeling better about myself,take all the stuff he bought me and leave him ALONE - because he has no friends, is very isolated.
Thanks everyone
And people wonder why women stay in abusive relationships.
Here's the way I read this entire post:
Lady, you brought this on YOURSELF.
You thought you could change him - - you thought wrong.
You thought couples therapy would help - - you thought wrong.
You like that he buys you things and takes you on trips - - you're a
gold digger and jealous that he spends his time with other people doing the same thing he is doing with you.
Here's a classic post from you that sums up your hypocrisy:
"Maybe there are things I don't understand.. cause to me, being bisexual (as a part of me is) does not stop me desiring him and fantasizing about other women.. It's something I never hid from him. I don't feel guilty about it - I've had a taste of having fun with women sexually but I don't miss it at all while in my relationship with him.
Even if I did have one in my relationship I would not think it's a tragedy."
LADY, IF YOU DON'T THINK IT'S A TRAGEDY, HE SURE AS HELL WON'T! Grow the fuck up.
You're very first paragraph is:
I have been with bf for 3 yrs..
Had issues about trust and porn. Always denied its usage. He said he would stop although the point was not that he stopped but that our sexuality be fun together. I was jealous of him looking at porn but I suspect it is the betrayal, the lies that made me feel so bad about it. Suggested to watch porn with him which he refused.
You KNEW going in this is what you were in for - - but you closed your eyes to it in the begining thinking: "He's going to change. I'll help him to do it."
Here's another one:
"I just hope that he decides to be honest.. we'll see where it takes us.
It's been two days that I discovered those things about him.. I'll leave him with his thoughts about this.. See, we have alot going for us in other areas.. It's worth the try."
It hasn't been two days since you discovered this. Especially if you have been in couples therapy! It's been two days since you finally OPENED YOUR EYES.
I personally think you're a tad bit self absorbed and vain. I don't know how old you are and I don't really care because whether you are 18 or 40 the attitude is the same: It's all about YOU!
I agree with all the other posters here, the two of you should break up.
NOT because you finally opened your eyes to see what was going on around you.
You two need to break up because YOU are too controlling and demanding.
Answer me this:
How did you find out all of this information about him?
Did you violate his trust and go snooping through all of his belongings?
Do you think it's ok to violate someone elses trust because they violated yours?
Are you guys living together? Or did you break into his place to find out all that you wanted to know?
Seriously, inquiring minds want to know!