Need HELP!!!!

[lucky8]

If you are uncomfortable with her, don't date her.

I like this advice. Thanks. Those are good words to live by

 

[NotSoDumb_Blonde]

I like this advice. Thanks. Those are good words to live by

I'd just text her and say you're sorry, but you can't go out with her. You're flattered, but can't date her. Leave it as that. Ask her not to text. It might be she has any number of issues. I mean, wow, the spectrum on disorders is huge. Better to be kind and end it, than try to do something you are obviously not into.

 

[simbablk]

MRSA can be hard to get rid of.

Ha!


Nothing a little Bactrim, Zyvox and vancomycin can't cure.


Simba

 

[Silvertip]

With regard to the Asperger Syndrome, did she seem physically clumsy?

 

[Gamm]

Talk about being in a pickle... Put me in for ignore her pleas.

 

[Mercurygirl]

Until you know exactly what she has, her mental and physical limitations, and are certain of her age the whole thing sounds really risky. For all you know she could be a 16-year-old schizophrenic psychopath who chopped up her first "boyfriend" and his dog when she was 10 because she loved him soooo much.

 

[D_JoeBitem]

First of allMr.Lucky8,I have to say you seem like a real gentleman and very mature.You are handling everything in responsible way. I would meet her for a simple coffee and get to know her a little better.She may be the woman of your dreams, or she may have serious issues, but you won't really know until you get to know her a bit better. If you meet and find that you are uncomfortable and that it wouldn't work out,text her or call her later and tell her you had a nice time but aren't looking for any kind of relationship at this point.

 

[lucky8]

First of allMr.Lucky8,I have to say you seem like a real gentleman and very mature.You are handling everything in responsible way. I would meet her for a simple coffee and get to know her a little better.She may be the woman of your dreams, or she may have serious issues, but you won't really know until you get to know her a bit better. If you meet and find that you are uncomfortable and that it wouldn't work out,text her or call her later and tell her you had a nice time but aren't looking for any kind of relationship at this point.

At this point I really don't want anything to do with her. If I take her anywhere she's really going to think I'm interested and will make the situation worse. I've asked her to stop texting me as much, so she started calling instead. Over and over and over again. She's also been sending text after text saying she misses me. She sends the same exact messages over and over again, if I don't respond she calls. She just left a message saying she talked to her mom and she's "moving to apartments close to me either today or tomorrow." Well, that's not how rental agreements work, so it seems she's trying to find some way to not lose me as an acquaintance. Hopefully if she'll get the idea soon. I really don't want to have to literally tell her to stop trying to contact me. She seems to have some emotional hangups so I'm really trying to avoid being too blunt with her

 

[D_JoeBitem]

Wow.....well with this new information,you'd certainly be well advised to have no contact with her and hopefully,she'll get the message and leave you alone. It sounds like she has serious mental health issues. Good luck and keep us updated.

 

[crescendo69]

Don't tell her where you live.

 

[LaFemme]

At this point I really don't want anything to do with her. If I take her anywhere she's really going to think I'm interested and will make the situation worse. I've asked her to stop texting me as much, so she started calling instead. Over and over and over again. She's also been sending text after text saying she misses me. She sends the same exact messages over and over again, if I don't respond she calls. She just left a message saying she talked to her mom and she's "moving to apartments close to me either today or tomorrow." Well, that's not how rental agreements work, so it seems she's trying to find some way to not lose me as an acquaintance. Hopefully if she'll get the idea soon. I really don't want to have to literally tell her to stop trying to contact me. She seems to have some emotional hangups so I'm really trying to avoid being too blunt with her

Her emotional age seems really young. So you may have to talk to her as if she were that age. Her words may be that of an adult, but the way she's thinking is easily a decade younger. So talk to her that way. Short, firm sentences. "Please, do not call me again. Goodbye". Broken record style. Hang-up. Do not respond to any calls. Do not respond to texts.

Likely she will be mad, throw a tantrum, cry to her mom & staff. They will comfort her, buy her a treat and then tomorrow she will have a crush on someone else.

Worst case scenario, ask her for her mother's number or speak to the staff. They will have gone through this a hundred times before and know what to do. So don't worry. You were being a nice guy, and just got stuck in an awkward situation.

 

[lucky8]

At the advice of this board, I stopped responding to her texts and phone calls altogether. It seems to be working because she's only texted me once today and only a few times yesterday. Thanks for the help

 

[twoton]

Yeah, I'd stay away. Didn't read through the whole thread carefully, but she met you for three hours and is sending you naked pics, etc., sent you dozens of texts, calls when you don't reply, lives with a staff....yeah. I'd stay away.

You seem a caring, gentlemanly fellow, but this doesn't sound like anything you'd want to deal with.