I know we've had a few "older woman" threads lately. By coincidence I'm going to throw another one in there because I've got myself in a little pickle and could use some feedback. A few months ago I met this woman at work. I don't see her every day because we work at different sites, but I'm up at her site maybe twice a week and after awhile we became friendly. I was definitely doing some lusting too. Anyway, after awhile we got more friendly and then one day after work we fooled around, and that led to a sexual fling. That was about 6 weeks ago and since then things have gotten more complicated than I imagined. As for her, she's 41 years old and has 2 daughters ages 18 and 11. Her husband died about a year ago from cancer. The physical aspect of our relationship is great. This woman is sexy. The kind of middle-aged, tall, elegant beautiful where I see guys stunned when she walks in the room. I mean, for her age this woman is a TEN. Also the sex is incredible. In public she's pretty soft-spoken but she's a tiger in bed. I've never been with a woman who brought so much energy to our sex. So where't the problem you ask? Well, I am NOT ready to be seriously involved with someone in her stage of life. I'm just not. But the thing is besides the sex I really like this woman. I have to admit at first it was just a hot sex fling to me but over time I've really gotten fond of her. So I'm a little confused because I don't want to give her up but we aren't exactly dating and I'm a bit nervous about biting off more than I can chew. I haven't even met her kids because she didn't want me to which I totally understand,and am really relieved by. I talked to her about this issue and she understood where I'm coming from. She said she's pretty confused too, what with still adjusting to her new life as a single working parent. She told me she likes spending time with me, and she also told me she really likes the sex. But she's also really in a coping stage and at this point in her life she's really living one day at a time. Anyway, I'm a little worried about getting in too deep with her. I don't feel like I want to end the relationship but I also don't think that anytime soon I'm going to be comfortable being serious with a women 16 yrs older with 2 kids. I'm just not at that stage. So I know there are no easy answers, but there are some smart people on this site so I'd love to hear any bits of wisdom or thoughts. Thanks.