I'm getting married in November and have never had sex with a woman. How can I pleasure her optimally and not hurt her? She is probably a virgin.
The best advice I can give is that since once a man shoots, he often is over for the night, you need to concentrate on her. You have to get her completely aroused and get those juices going. Inserting your dick into a dry vagina is likely to hurt. But if she is ready and you go slow taking your time and LISTENING to her, she will probalby really enjoy it. If your orgasm is your only concern, it will not be a successful night for her.I'm getting married in November and have never had sex with a woman. How can I pleasure her optimally and not hurt her? She is probably a virgin.
I'm getting married in November and have never had sex with a woman. How can I pleasure her optimally and not hurt her? She is probably a virgin.
I'm getting married in November and have never had sex with a woman. How can I pleasure her optimally and not hurt her? She is probably a virgin.
OK ... generally I do not come out very aggressive on topics, but I can't ignore this.
Arranged marriages aren't for anyone. They are a barbaric and outmoded holdover from the darkest days of human civilization. It is a set of controlling parents brutishly enforcing their will on their hapless children in the most intimate area of life. It is almost on a par with female genital mutilation. My advice to you is to distance yourself from this arrangement as soon as possible. You and your finacee haven't even talked about sex and you're going to marry her? Your chances of true happiness are microscopic.
This is going to take some courage, but this is what I want you to do: Walk straight up to your parents, look them in the eyes and tell them that you love them, but you have the right to find who you want, when you want, and that you will not do this. Be prepared to walk away from your family if you have to.
I don't care what your culture is, and I don't care what the bigshot intellectuals from your religion say. They're not the one getting married. You are. You cannot be TOLD to love someone. Marriage and sex must happen normally and naturally by meeting, talking, establishing admiration and trust, falling in love, and THEN making a mutual, mature, well-thought-out decision to be together for the rest of your lives.
God, I can't believe shit like this still happens.
OK ... generally I do not come out very aggressive on topics, but I can't ignore this.
Arranged marriages aren't for anyone. whoa there anon265, man comes here asking for help and you stick a ton of opinion down the man's throat.
They are a barbaric and outmoded holdover from the darkest days of human civilization. You obviously haven't read enough history if you think an arranged marriage is from the darkest days.. It is a set of controlling parents brutishly enforcing their will on their hapless children in the most intimate area of life. It is almost on a par with female genital mutilation. WHAT?! Sorry - Pardon me!? Not comparable - not even approaching being on the same scale - I'm actually offended by that comparison and I'm from a culture that started phasing out arranged marriages 200+ years ago My advice to you is to distance yourself from this arrangement as soon as possible. You and your finacee haven't even talked about sex and you're going to marry her? Your chances of true happiness are microscopic. OP - don't you believe that - I'm sure you know way more about this than I do but if both parties go into the marriage with an open heart and mind you can have a great marriage.. and I hope you do
This is going to take some courage, but this is what I want you to do: You have no idea who this man is - how dare you tell him what to do because you don't like his culture Walk straight up to your parents, look them in the eyes and tell them that you love them, but you have the right to find who you want, when you want, and that you will not do this. Be prepared to walk away from your family if you have to. [speechless with disgust at this advice]
I don't care what your culture is Indeed you do not, and that is YOUR problem, not his, and I don't care what the bigshot intellectuals from your religion say. They're not the one getting married. You are. You cannot be TOLD to love someone. Marriage and sex must now who is forcing their opinions and beliefs on others, eh? happen normally and naturally by meeting, talking, establishing admiration and trust, falling in love, and THEN making a mutual, mature, well-thought-out decision to be together for the rest of your lives.
God, I can't believe shit like this still happens.